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How Can I Convince My Fiancé To Exclude His Minor Children From Our Adults-Only Wedding?

My fiancé and I have hit a roadblock while planning our wedding. This will be my first marriage and his second.

I have a very clear vision about what I want the wedding to be like. My fiancé is fine with allowing me to take the lead, as he has already had one wedding.

I would like a small, sophisticated, adults-only wedding. The difficulty is that my fiancé has three elementary-age children. The kids mostly live with their mom, but I get along with them fine.

I thought "adults only" meant just that, but my fiancé thought it meant "adults only except for the kids."

We're really at a crossroads. We've put deposits down on places that are not kid-friendly at all. He is adamant that the kids be there. How do we move forward from here?

[The Washington Post]

Carolyn Hax strongly urges the letter writer to include their fiancé’s kids in the wedding. "If your view of what you want your marriage to be like is as fixed and rigid as your wedding vision, then please reconsider, for everyone's sake," she writes. Read the rest of her answer.

What Should I Do After My Boss Consulted A Medium About My Missing Relative Against My Wishes?

My uncle is missing. It's been so, so terrible. The police are still searching, but we're all so scared.

I've been trying not to let it affect my work, but of course I'm struggling, so on the advice of several people I finally told my boss. He's high-up in my company and head of a group that does very niche work. I'm new, so I don't really know him well and I wasn't sure how it would go.

I told him and he immediately said, "I have a solution!"

Me: ???

He knows a medium who works with crime scenes and wanted to connect us. I uncomfortably declined. He then spent the next 20 minutes or so interrogating me about every detail of the case, asking me very personal questions about my uncle and spinning scenarios. At one point, he stopped himself partway through the phrase "if he's found dead." I was sort of frozen in fear and just tried to give him as little information as possible and try to maintain some sort of professional facade. I didn't know what to do!

Not long after that, he called me back. I picked up the call and his first words were, "He's alive!"

He had called his friend, the medium.

My boss then reported back to me everything the medium said, which included the information that the police search in progress is the wrong strategy and should be changed.

I stumbled my way through the end of that conversation and went back to work. (I screwed up something, which doesn't surprise me.) I've been trying to process it, but I am really having a hard time.

I don't know what to do. We have HR, but going to them seems like a one-way ticket to losing my job one way or the other. This doesn't seem HR-fixable. There's no place else to transfer to in my company that I can think of. To be brutally honest, there's not a lot of jobs out there that I qualify for that pay enough for me to cover my mortgage. But how do I work with someone who's said these things to me?

[Ask A Manager]

Alison Green offers the letter writer a script for shutting their boss down if he ever raises the subject again. "And then: release yourself from having to figure out anything else about this relationship right now," she writes. "You have something much bigger going on; you don't need to figure out your boss right away." Read the rest of her answer.

What Should I Do After My Boyfriend Tried To Charge Me Rent For The Apartment He Gets For Free Through Work?

I am 22, and I am dating a 30-year-old man who is a residence life coordinator at a dormitory for a large Midwestern university. A part of his benefits is that he has an apartment attached to the dorm, so if the residence assistants need him, he is there. This apartment does not have any rent attached to it.

I was about to move in with him when he told me that I needed to pay $1,000 a month to him as "rent." I was shocked when he told me this. I have full knowledge of the fact that he doesn't pay rent and that he is just planning on taking $1,000 from me every month. This has made me rethink not only moving in with him, but dating him in general. What do you think I should do? I thought that he was going to be the one, but unfortunately, this event has shaken my confidence in him.

[UExpress]

Harriette Cole calls the boyfriend's request a red flag. "Find out why he thinks it's a good idea to charge you," she writes. "Hear him out, but if I were you, I would move somewhere else." Read the rest of her answer.

Am I Wrong To Be Devastated That My 12-Year-Old Daughter Wasn't Invited To My Husband's Niece's Wedding Due To Her Age?

My husband's niece is getting married. I'm so happy for her.

There has been much talk about the wedding. We already received the save-the-date.

Several wedding-related conversations have been held in front of my 12-year-old daughter.

In front of the family, I told my daughter that we could get her a beautiful dress to wear to the wedding. We then bought a dress.

Then the wedding invitation arrived in the mail: NO CHILDREN ALLOWED!

I was completely devastated – to say the least.

Then, I found out that there are children attending the wedding, but they have to be over the age of 15.

My daughter was really upset when I told her that she wasn't invited to the wedding.

I feel that the family should have taken me aside in advance to let me know my daughter was excluded.

I declined going to the wedding due to my daughter's disappointment.

My husband plans to attend the wedding without me.

He said that he is going because his mother would be upset if he stayed home.

I am angry, hurt and upset that he has chosen his family over his daughter.

My question is, am I wrong for feeling this way?

[Tribune Content Agency]

Amy Dickinson encourages the letter writer to develop a sense of perspective, for their daughter's sake. "Essentially, you are teaching her that disappointment is actually devastation, and the way to cope with devastation is to insist that everyone around you must demonstrate their solidarity by also being devastated," she writes. Read the rest of her answer.

How Can I Explain To My In-Laws That I'm Not Going To Buy A Mercedes SUV Just So My Small Children Can 'Ride In Style'?

My wife's family is wealthy and they drive really nice cars. We have two young daughters who are 3 and 5, and my in-laws are hounding me to get a new vehicle. Right now, I drive a 2016 minivan with 60,000 miles on it. It's very safe and has never given me a problem, but it's not the Mercedes SUV that they want me to buy. Their reasoning is they want my kids to "ride in style." I make really good money as the sole breadwinner for the family and my wife is a SAHM. I can easily afford a Mercedes SUV but I think it's foolish to spend that kind of money on a car that we don't need. How can I talk sense into them?

[Slate]

Doyin Richards observes that small children don't care about "riding in style." "I would inform your in-laws that just because you can buy something doesn't mean you should," he writes. "At the end of the day, what you choose to drive is none of their business, and they'll just have to get over it." Read the rest of his answer.

Am I A Jerk For Expecting My British And South African Colleagues To Pronounce 'Schedule' The American Way?

I have two work colleagues, one from England and one from South Africa, who have both lived in the US for more than two decades. However, both of them still pronounce "schedule" without the hard "c" sound upfront. I find this (very) mildly irritating, partially because the word gets used a lot in meetings. I can't prove this, but I do feel that if the roles were reversed and I were an American living in England for two+ decades, I would eventually relent and pronounce it "schedule" without the hard "c." Am I being an asshole for thinking they should get with the program?

[Defector]

Drew Magary points out that people's accents are not entirely subject to their conscious control. "Also, accents are cool. The world is richer for them," he writes. "It's good when people hold onto those things, and good when they bring them to new shores." Read the rest of his answer.

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