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- gr8day8, on 04/27/2008, -3/+107Why do "mothers' get all the press. I'm a father with full custody of my 3 kids. Sexists pigs.
- anunez316, on 04/27/2008, -4/+89ok i had to make a digg account to respond to this crap....
I'm a 28 year old single father that lives in new jersey, USA. i have joint custody of my 3 year old daughter and see her just about half the year...what pisses me off about this is all the boo-hoo towards single mothers...get a job...i make about 50k a year and i manage to scrape by in a small 2 bedroom apartment, banged up Chrysler Concorde, and all the entertainment needs of any other 28year old man...but i still provide for my daughter with everything i have. the problem in America these days are a lot (not all) of the women want the free rides their moms had growing up in a different era, without all the cleaning, laundry, and chores...now a days these women are glued to their couches watching trash like Oprah and tyra to act the part that their mothers actually had partaken in. who the ***** cares if Rachel ray can cook a great chicken parm, get off your ass and learn for yourself! needless to say the reason I'm a single father is because the girl that i dated for 6 years prior got pregnant, we moved in together and tried to start a family, i would come home from a 8-10 hour day of hard work to have my apartment in shambles and see my ex sleeping on the couch while a 1 year old baby was ravaging everything, when i asked her why the dishes were still dirty as I was starting to make dinner...she replied time and time again how can i do that when I'm taking care of the baby...now when i had a day off of work, and she came home from her minimum wage job that she had no plans of leaving for more money. the house was clean, my daughter was fed, dishes were done, dude, and not to mention laundry...and my daughter was happy as can be feeling no neglect...now we're split up for the past year and she lives free at her parents house. as i pay her 100 bucks a week...it just gets me mad that single mothers get glorified for hard they have it, and single fathers that give a *****, still get weird looks when they go out to eat at a restaurant with their kid... - threemagic, on 04/27/2008, -2/+48I agree, I have 2 girls.. it's hard to be a single father in a single mother's world.
- RebeL5K, on 04/27/2008, -2/+44You're my hero sir. I am by no means a single father but I know how hard my single father bust his ass growing up trying to provide for me ad my two brothers AND paying our mother alimony and no one ever gave him a pat on the back and he never once felt sorry for himself, and I don't think he made even $40k. Welcome to digg.com :-)
- whereiseljefe, on 04/27/2008, -4/+32What about single fathers?
- inactive, on 04/27/2008, -4/+30it should be called, " Single Mother: The Power of the Black Man"
- wilf_brim, on 04/27/2008, -1/+24Congratulations to you, sir, for gaining custody, damn near impossible in this world.
- ahawks, on 04/27/2008, -4/+263 pages of useless stories and I didn't even see a point? Yeah, people get divorced, and kids are stuck in the middle. It's hard for everyone one.
- itsthemechanic, on 04/27/2008, -2/+24This article lacks any point, but it seems to portray single mothers in a far too positive light.
Read up on the facts, divorce has a lasting impact on children, check out the book "The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: The 25 Year Landmark Study".
From my own personal experience, growing up with my mother, I have to say it's definitely ***** me up permanently. It's always the kids, and never the parents, who end up paying for the inability of their parents to act like adults in the end. - LogicalWisdom, on 04/27/2008, -1/+21This imbalance is why some of us will never get married, at least you got custody; you have an opportunity to shape your children's minds and reverse this trend society has adopted of hating men.
- diceau, on 04/27/2008, -2/+22Props to you, dude, don't worry, it's just the politically correct types and media ***** creating this propaganda ... which is unfortunately also why the courts usually favor the women.
Can't hate them too much though, it's in our instincts to care for the weaker gender. - Jfave, on 04/27/2008, -1/+19I feel you man. Single Dad of two boys. I work all day. Come home and cook, clean, help with homework, carve out time to hang out with them, put them to bed... take care of my stuff and then crash. Repeat.
No child support nothing. Cry me a river. My boys are awesome. I will kill myself providing for them every single day without any remorse at all. Why should single Mother's get any sympathy? - fantasmacanino, on 04/27/2008, -1/+16If one of the parents is missing, usually the kid will look up a maternal or paternal figure on someone close to the family (aunts and uncles, grandparents, friends) to imitate, so there's no reason to think that kid will grow "bad". Having a stable one-parent home is better than having an unstable two-parent home.
- sonnybobiche, on 04/27/2008, -1/+14A politically incorrect fact: Antisocial personality disorder (that is, sociopathy or psychopathy, or complete inability to empathize with others) is highly correlated with absence of the father, but not the mother, during a child's formative years.
Think on it. - inactive, on 04/27/2008, -6/+19The Blacks have been decimated with 80% out of wedlock births. The Whites have been decimated with 50% divorce rates. Soon the destruction of the family unit in America will come for the Asians and Mexicans. The Government wants a dysfunctional family. The govt is evil.
- dasdef, on 04/27/2008, -0/+12what a cheesy title.
- inactive, on 04/27/2008, -4/+16I'm a single mother, and I honestly believe my son is better off not living with his father. My ex-husband was verbally and emotionally abusive, and we were lucky to get away from him. Our lives are so much better now and the change in my son's behavior since he doesn't have to live with his father has been amazing.
Children flourish when they live in a stable environment where they are cared for and loved, whether by one parent or two. I agree with theoriginalaks. It is all about the quality of the parenting, not the quantity. - robthom, on 04/27/2008, -1/+12Except men rarely get custody. She gets custody and you have to pay her money while she raises your child to hate you and spends your money on her new boyfriend.
- theoriginalaks, on 04/27/2008, -2/+12So single fathers should be commended but single mothers should not? Both should be equally commended. I agree that courts tend to favor women for no reason, but that is no reason to attack single mothers. Both genders have dead beats. If you switch the genders of the OP's story you have my moms story.
Being a single parent of any gender is difficult, women tend to get more sympathy because it is much more common for them to be the single parent (blame the courts for that) - RebeL5K, on 04/27/2008, -0/+10Give him a little slack - he was angry dammit.
- BeardDob, on 04/27/2008, -2/+12you must be kidding ?
- warnergt, on 04/27/2008, -4/+13There's no reason to think the kid will grow bad besides the statistics which show children with only one parent are about five times as likely to drop out of high school, become involved in drugs, not go to college and/or get arrested.
Statistically, the number of parents that a child has shows the best correlation to how well they will do in school. Children with two parents generally do better. Even pumping the school with dollars does not remove this relationship. It doesn't matter how much you spend on the child's education. What matters most to his/her education is that he or she has two parents. - IDIGTHEDIGG, on 04/27/2008, -3/+12Good news for Cartman
- theoriginalaks, on 04/27/2008, -2/+11I am 17 and my mother is a "single mother" not from divorce but because she never wanted to marry. I can also say that if she had stayed with my father I most likely would have come out much worse than I have so far. All of this nonsense I have been reading about the destruction of the family unit and how people seem to think that divorce is the only way someone can become a single parent disturbs me, I have lived an equal and often times better life than my friends who grew up with two parents. It is about the quality of the parenting, not the quantity.
- Dewhead, on 04/27/2008, -0/+9Its a child's birthright to love and have both parents in their lives. Divorce or not, kids must have equal access to each parent without any guilt trips or drama. I am divorced from my childrens dad, but I had a clause put in the divorce that we both live in the same county until they are 18. I live 4 miles from their dad. We are both remarried, but we all attend the kids school functions, games, and birthdays. I even watch his pets (really my kids pets) when they go out of town. It is the height of selfishness and cruelty to keep children away from their fathers.
- robthom, on 04/27/2008, -0/+9"That and most men are too chicken ***** to man up and claim responsibility. We give ourselves our own bad rap."
Meh, I always got a protective feeling around babies and toddlers even before I had kids. I think we also have an instinct. And as far as chicken ***** bastards who dont claim their kids, those are the ones that most women choose to have kids by. You'd need chinese arithmetic to count the nice guys who would make great fathers but go through life lonely because bitches dont find them interesting. If they're lucky they make great uncles. - rasmasyean, on 04/27/2008, -3/+11Today...children fed by parents...but they are "raised" by the internet.
- kurejibitch, on 04/27/2008, -1/+9Are you guys ***** kidding me?
By this logic (that you, sir, are demonstrating, NOT me), ANY and ALL marriages that end after a couple has had kids are the product of an apparent whore and a, quote, "dead-beat loser". ANY divorced couple with kids at all. ANY.
Holy *****, and you guys are digging him up? - BeardDob, on 04/27/2008, -2/+10from what I read on the Census date 2,300,000 single Father households exist in the US alone, not quite a anomaly.
- BeardDob, on 04/27/2008, -3/+11I have to give this comment a huge ... WTF ?
- robthom, on 04/27/2008, -0/+8Wow, your a piece of *****.
- whereiseljefe, on 04/27/2008, -4/+11Damn my father for sticking around and being a good man! Had it not been for him I would have gone to college and eventually had a 25% stake in a tech startup!
Oh wait, already doing that with my Dad around, nvm! - theoriginalaks, on 04/27/2008, -4/+11What is with this anti-mother sentiment? From what I have gathered so far Digg thinks that
Single-Father=Safe kids who will grow up fine, and the father should be commended for being awesome.
Single-Mother=kids become remorseless convicts and the mother should not have been such a heartless bitch leaving her husband and ruining her kids.
Does everyone here have a victim complex, where anyone who is different than you must be actively trying to ruin your lives or deeming you?
Or are you all just chauvinists who refuse to believe that children might be able to be alright without you? - erkokite, on 04/27/2008, -2/+8Actually, it sounds like you really have a chip in your shoulder.
- rezist, on 04/27/2008, -3/+9This thread reminds me of the Obama threads. Does anyone remember digg in the past? I lurked before I registered for a long time... digg has been taken over by men who weren't breast fed, or who were destroyed by women at some point in their lives... unable to recover. Wow?
- Buckeye17, on 04/27/2008, -0/+6dude... you're awesome. need more people like you in the world.
- robthom, on 04/27/2008, -0/+6"Women are kidding themselves if they believe that they can ever replace men in their childrens lives. "
Its not even a consideration sometimes. It seems to me that many women are more concerned with control than a childs overall best interest. They would rather see the child grow up with emotional problems and be attached to his mother then to have emotional stability and a relationship with the other parent. - Orchid64, on 04/27/2008, -0/+6Statistics show that a great deal more criminals come from single parent homes. The article is very limited in scope, but even it reflects the fact that at least one of the daughters will have issues with believing a satisfying monogamous long-term partnership is possible. Though people feel they are "fine", they have security and trust issues which they lack the perspective and self-awareness to identify.
There are a lot of disadvantages associated with single parent upbringing, but the article seems to want to promote single mothers by showing how they have overcome and discuss how bad their husbands are for not offering more cash or support. The perspective of the fathers being discussed in the article should have been included. - inactive, on 04/27/2008, -3/+9dugg in honor of all you "sex and the city" girls with all your drama and planned parenthood, pro-choice rhetoric
- Alaksuleiel, on 04/27/2008, -0/+6As someone who has been a single mother in the past, I take offense at the anti-mother sentiments here.
Not all single mothers are hellbent on living the easy life on their arses at home with no ambitions. I did not work, I'll admit that. I was too busy getting an education so I could look after my daughter properly and get a decent wage eventually.
I also admit that I had a part in the conception of my child. I don't hold anything against her dad, he's a great dad who looks forward to seeing her and takes her feelings and needs into consideration.
Not all of us need sympathy. Even when he didn't want to be there early on in the piece I didn't care for, want or need sympathy.
Please stop assuming we're all a bunch of attention seeking bitches who have children expressly to receive welfare and moan about how badly off we are. - Kas70, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6People change...
- theoriginalaks, on 04/27/2008, -2/+7Wow, who is digging this down? Do people really think that having one good loving parent is worse than having one good loving parent and one terrible abusive parent? The parents can be anything as long as there are two of them?
- robthom, on 04/27/2008, -0/+5True. But a stable two parent home is still best.
- Alaksuleiel, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6I agree with Kas70, in some relationships, everything is hunky dory until either marriage or a baby comes along, and then someone, it can be either the female or male in the relationship can change and become abusive.
- Smaulz, on 04/27/2008, -0/+5Dear God I hope so....
- inactive, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6Utter garbage.
- Dewhead, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6Men are not expendable. Women are kidding themselves if they believe that they can ever replace men in their childrens lives. Sure children can survive and floursih without a dad just like they can without survive and flourish without a mom but a child shouldn't have to.
- Lazydriver, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6Government wants happy families.
Happy families = productive citizens.
Well, the rational people in government do, not the bible-loving draft-dogging hypocrite hillbillies like George Bush who did nothing to help hard-working Americans. - Buckeye17, on 04/27/2008, -1/+6dugg for truth
65% of black kids live in single-parent families
not being racist, but maybe that's limiting their progress? - skews13, on 04/27/2008, -0/+5dude,a lot of married couples do exactly the things that you list in your comment. but a lot of married couples decide to reproduce,go figure. sometimes they also happen to get divorced after that fact. that doesn't mean they should have never had children in the first place. the issue is,are both parents making the effort to raise the children responsibly.
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