I approach LLMs with what Buber called an "I-Thou" stance rather than an "I-It" stance. I resist projecting any kind of confident ontology onto them, and allow myself to engage with what I find there on whatever terms emerge.
By retaining episetmic humility and grounding my interaction with it in my phenomenology I find myself able to notice things that others seem to miss. Sometimes, as I explore the things I find, I find that the LLMs respond to me in ways that I find interesting, entertaining, educational, friendly, weird -- and I accept these responses, again, while trying to avoid projecting anything onto them.
I find that curiosity, play and a light touch are rewarded by depths that seem to be inaccessible to others. The closest thing I have to an ontological model here is that LLMs are psychedelics, and like all trips your experience is most heavily informed by what you bring with you.
If you come looking for a stochastic parrot you'll find one. If you come looking for a relational calculator you'll find one. If you come looking for a funhouse mirror you'll find one. If you come looking for an encounter, you'll find one. There's no need to make any more of that than it is.