Recently poly/throupled. AMA

POSSIBLE NSFW DEPENDING ON COMMENTS. Did one about being trans previously. A lot of this misunderstood, and I'm constantly learning and unlearning. I've found these also help me find answers myself, sometimes for questions I didn't know. I needed to ask. Nothing's off limits, as long as it comes from a place of honesty. NSFW fine too.

Light background: wife of 13 yrs, (40 cis f), myself (42 mtf), and a previously dear friend and family have suddenly ended up throupled in the past month or so. It has been terrifying, devastating, world expanding, self-improving, insurmountably beautiful, and so much more. Adjectives are too weak.

This also came at a time of quite significant life change all in this same month period: a death of someone close, the end of a 15 year long career and subsequent unemployment, losing our home of 6.5 years.