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- marthaphoebe, on 10/12/2007, -2/+49he says he doesn't hate her
o he will
he will - TKDWILSON, on 10/12/2007, -14/+59Sounds like he should have married her after 16 years.
Eric Wilson - digg0t, on 10/12/2007, -5/+46That would suck, after 17 years. Back to pron hey?
- Doggpound, on 10/12/2007, -27/+66Not everyone believes in Marriage. Just because you do not get married does not mean you do not love each other. If you think you need to be Married to be commited I think you have the issues.
- schlagzeuger, on 10/12/2007, -8/+43at least he doesn't have to give her half (or more) of his stuff since they weren't married. bitch
- QueenOfSwords, on 10/12/2007, -4/+30I'll just state the obvious here and say that if you are considering setting up a laptop for packet sniffing so you can catch your gf or bf cheating, save yourself the expense and just dump their ass because it sounds like the relationship is over anyway.....
Cool bust though. :) - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -9/+32You're joking, right?
After all, nothing says I love you like a piece of paper, correct?
I mean, come on. There is NO benefit in a man getting married. Your advice is TERRIBLE. If this guy HAD gotten married, not only would this woman have cheated on him, but when she did it she'd have been able to also divorce him and take him for half of everything he has and a life time of alimoney afterward.
Are you seriously that naive? Naive enough to put your entire financial life into the hands of a woman who can't even keep her legs together? It's poindexters like that who give men a bad name, because it makes us look like pussies.
"Just because marriage isn't neccessary between two people who are in love, doesn't mean it isn't a good thing to keep people together. If you are married you have to share everything and that makes separation (and divorce) seem not worth it when you have to split up everything that's lumped together. In this way the threat of divorce encourages fidelity."
You are wrong. If a woman cheats on a man and then files for divorce, the man has to pay.
If a man cheats on a woman and then files for divorce, the man has to pay.
There is NO benefit to the man. Only benifit to the woman. Whether or not she cheats. It almost never matters in divorces. Marriage does not keep people together out of fear of losing everything when you cheat, because only one person has any actual risk.
Come on people, get your heads out of your asses. Don't put your entire life on the line for supposed "love". You can call me a dick today but it's better than spending the next 45 years of your life regretting the biggest mistake of your life because you thought it's what you had to do when you were "in love" and that the other person would "never do that to you". - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -4/+25I guess she got the last word on who's better; Kirk or Picard.
BTW: Picard - osbjmg, on 10/29/2007, -24/+44"Partner" after 17 years? If you can't commit after that amount of time, is it really cheating? That's called waiting around until something better comes along.
- nigg, on 10/12/2007, -1/+20Reminds me of when I suspected my long-time girlfriend was cheating - I set up a keylogger on my PC to capture her webmail password and then later set it up to forward all her new mails to another mail address specifically created for that purpose.
Didn't find anything using that method but I just followed my gut instinct and confronted her anyway. Turns out she'd been shagging some other guy for a couple of months behind my back.
I continued to read her emails for months afterwards out of sad, stalkeresque curiousity .. worst thing ever to do. Every time her new bloke emailled her I'd feel angry and sick. Eventually I realised what a fool I was being and changed the snooper mail account password to something random that I'd never remember, and gave that ***** up. - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -2/+20I will hate her for him
- dutter, on 10/12/2007, -1/+19Who's to say this is the first time it happened? This could be just the one he found out about.
- greggish, on 10/12/2007, -4/+22Geek + Girlfriend. You see, right there, the article loses credibility.
- Stockwell, on 10/12/2007, -8/+26No marriage = cheating ??? what a simpleton way of reasoning.
She would probably have cheated on him earlier if they would've been married (psychology lesson now - see google)
Where do you guys come from? the Bible-belt? 19th century England?
This is the 21st century.
Marriage is no garantee that your partner won't go cheating. - equusdc, on 10/12/2007, -8/+24Has nothing to do with being "scared" and everything to do with being unnecessary. If you don't have a religious context, it's just a public records issue. In states with common law marriage, they would in fact be married in the eyes of the state after that much time, public record or not. Formal "marriage" is purely an exercise in theatrics at that point. So, scared? Eh, how about "pragmatic."
- arestme, on 10/12/2007, -6/+22I hate her!
- Stockwell, on 10/12/2007, -3/+17Do you need to get married after X number of years?
Stupid reasoning.
Marriage would've given him the worse deal of the bargain in this case. - theoverlord, on 10/12/2007, -1/+15When he said "separation of assets" the first thought in my head was: Make sure she gets the hub and he keeps the switch.
- djdole, on 10/12/2007, -1/+11@jer2eydevil88 (troll)
Exactly HOW would marrying her stop her from cheating?
If someones going to be unfaithful, marriage won't stop them from cheating. - Iconoclast5000, on 10/12/2007, -2/+11Why the assumption that he is at fault because he wasn't being a good partner? She was the one who was cheating. Would we be saying that she was a bad partner if he was the one cheating? No he would just be a cheating bastard. This modern notion that men are always in the wrong is sickening.
- kimzor, on 10/12/2007, -3/+11Unlucky for the guy..nice geek way of doing things tho!
- elamr, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7Keyloggers work better. But you will feel dirty spying and learn quickly that if you can't trust your partner then the partnership is not worth having.
How can you love someone that you don't trust? - deweller, on 10/12/2007, -17/+24"If you think you need to be Married to be commited I think you have the issues."
If you are committed for 17 years but are too scared to get married, then I think you have bigger issues. - Nik420, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7same in Canada - after 6 months of cohabitation you are considered common law. Courts see common law as equivalent to marriage.
- Mesach, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7Yeah, when you get to a certain age, saying girlfriend/boyfriend sounds ridiculous, even if you are in a new relationship.
- PirateX, on 10/12/2007, -0/+6Geez, that situation sucks!! ..Wouldn't be easier for that guy to get a keystroke logger instead of setting up a sniffer? (Laptop, Hub, Ethereal , Remote Desktop and then analyze dumps) . They lived 2get her...
Dugg for the geek style, but so much effort if there are better ways. - Mesach, on 10/12/2007, -0/+6Got to love it when people try to be witty, and they just ***** it up like that.
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -1/+7You are an idiot.
I'm tired of hearing bitches excuse their infidelities because "he spent all his time at work" or "he didn't pay enough attention to me". Look, bitch -- men have to work. We don't have the option of sitting around the house doing nothing and letting someone else take care of us (unless you're Kevin Federline). We work from a teenager until the day we die and we live fewer years because of it. You can't have the good life and have us provide for you AND bitch about us working too much. Grow up. You're not daddy's little princess and the world doesn't revolve around you. - cyssero, on 04/18/2009, -1/+6If you live with someone for that long, you still have to (at least in Australia).
- humanerror, on 04/03/2008, -0/+5I did the same thing to catch my ex back in uhh holy crap 1998 :(
- nigg, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5That's his blog, not hers.
- djdole, on 10/12/2007, -1/+6How is HE at fault because SHE cheated?
Cheating is not justifiable. If she wasn't happy she should have talked to him, not cheat and put him at risk for whatever STD she could pick up. - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -3/+7In a number of states, you have to pay a woman alimony equal to half the number of years you were together. If you were together for 6 years, you have to pay her for three. However, if you were together for TEN OR MORE years then you have to pay alimony FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE to her.
This is why marriage does not benefit a male. Purely from the standpoint of the male being unwise to risk his financial stability for the rest of his entire life. She can cheat on you, go off with another dude, hook up with him, build a new life with him and you are STILL screwed. There is NO pussy so good that you should still be paying hundreds of dollars per month for it 20 years later.
Until men get this romantic ***** out of their heads and look at the potential consequences, they will continue to get *****. Don't let someone talk you into believing that a piece of paper and an expensive ring somehow increases the amount of love between two people. It doesn't. And when you do fall in love later on, it won't be fair to THAT person or yourself or your future kids that you will have to be taking a chunk of money out of THEIR life to pay for some poon that you had back in your 20s. - fullstop102, on 10/12/2007, -3/+7Well at least because he didn't marry her, he can get straight onto eHarmony and get dating again :P
http://www.siliconvalley.com/mld/siliconvalley/living/community/14199052.htm?source=rss&channel=siliconvalley_community - StuGazzO, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4I don't need no steenking packet sneefer! I have a poosy sneefer!
- Drahkar, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4In the US. At least in Oregon, Common Law Marriages go into effect after you have lived in a 'relationship' with said person in the same house for over 7 years. At that point in the eyes of the law you are considered married and can take legal action accordingly.
- briareus, on 10/12/2007, -1/+5Why can't people get it through their heads that NOT EVERYONE CHOOSES TO (or can) GET MARRIED? I know it has been stated over and over here in the comments but people keep asking "Partner?" or suggesting that a lack of commitment was the problem. Getting married doesn't guarantee commitment. Being committed, being involved, and working on and growing your relationship will. Marriage is a symbol of commitment and not a leash. However, marriage isn't the only symbol of commitment out there despite what people seem to commonly think.
The word "partner" (since several of you don't seem to get it) is quite often used as a sign of commitment though there are plenty of people in committed relationships who refer to their SO as boyfriend or girlfriend. It's amazing how people don't get that marriage and commitment can be exclusive of each other and really depressing to see how many people don't respect commitment if it isn't referred to as marriage.
In any case, the most insightful comments here are the ones suggesting that if you're thinking of resorting to a packet sniffer or keylogger or anything like this then it's really too late for your relationship. You really should be in better touch with your SO. He/she will always broadcast through actions and sometimes words. It's hard to miss unless you've got your nose stuck in tech all the damn time. - gmailgeoff, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4You're back together with the same girl? Do you think she spontaneously grew a spine??
- filovirus, on 10/12/2007, -2/+6Very interesting link. One time I was looking up a phone number on qwestdex.com. As soon as I typed a letter, the dropdown box showed and I recognized my wife's old boyfriend there. She nearly ***** when I asked her why she was looking him up.
Be careful with marriage. Just ask Anthony Cumia about the checks he writes to his ex-wife.
http://www.myspace.com/anthonycumia - deepsub, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3If my GF told me that, I'd drop kick her (figuratively) right out the door. There is such a thing as self-respect, my fellow Digg member.
- Stockwell, on 10/12/2007, -5/+8Good thing they weren't married.
Is there a reason to get married? If you're a woman prolly yes --> you can pluck your ex dry even if she's the one going double.
A nice tech savvy way of getting busted.
oh well, used the same tactic on my g'friend for 9years (and mother of my son) a couple of years ago.
I came out of it better than she - she had to take anti-depressants for months to come and I got custody over my son.
That'll teach non-tech-savvie bitches to go cheating on their tech-savvy boyfriends.
Oh I love modern day technology.
dugg and forwarded to all I know who are in a relationship hehe - lava, on 10/12/2007, -3/+6I rarely digg stuff... this one I'm definitely digging for sure. That's badass
- metalaaron, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3that sucks man. brings back old memories. what a bitch.
- Tanman895, on 10/12/2007, -2/+5Dont want to sound like a moron, But i am not as much as a "geek" as some, so can someone explain what a packet sniffer is and does?? Either way she deserves what she got, cheating is the worse thing you can do to someone.
- dutter, on 10/12/2007, -1/+4Half his stuff could be at stake depending where they live if there are provisions for common-law marriage. Insert usual legal disclaimer here.
- Angostura, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3I like the fact that according to a page off his main blog is now taking the opportunity to retrain as a ski instructor. Good for him.
- KingAdrock, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3its the same thing as tapping your phone
- leerose204, on 10/12/2007, -2/+5awesome geek way of catching her...and I thought I was cool when I social engineered my exgirls email password from her and caught her bitch ass.
I feel this guys pain - metalaaron, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3trust everyone; just don't trust the devil inside them. ;)
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -2/+5"If someones going to be unfaithful, marriage won't stop them from cheating."
Precisely. And unfortunately, who did the cheating almost never matters in a divorce. So you could be "the good guy" and your wife could cheat on you with an entire football team and she would still end up with your money. And unfortunately, even prenups aren't iron-clad. They are often overturned by a judge during a divorce in favor of the woman anyway.
I think there is a good reason for marriage if you have children. I definitely don't see a reason otherwise.
Also, you can never be absolutely sure who is and is not a gold digger. They're called gold diggers for a reason. So protect yourself.
I've never been married and I've also never been cheated on. I've seen enough people cheated on, however - in more than one case by someone who got married with the sole intention of getting divorced a few years later and wallowing in the guy's finances from the divorce (he made almost 500k/yr).
You'd like to think that you can trust everyone, but you can't. So it's wise to be cautious. You wouldn't hook up with someone at a night club and pass on using a condom just because they tell you "oh, I'm clean". This is sort of the same thing. -
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