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Violent Acres: Fifteen and Already a Wife (part 3/3)

violentacres.com — The end of a 3 part story about escaping abuse by marriage. At 15. "My new husband and I sat on a bench and waited for our parents to get some paperwork in order. When they were finished, my Mother waved my brother over to her side. I heard her tell him that they would be driving back alone. His sister and her new family would be renting a car."

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jeremiahf 1 year 146 days ago

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radicalbacon, on 10/12/2007, -1/+10I want to believe her entirely. Really, I do. There are some weird inconsistencies with my own, er, experiences.

Uhm, when I didn't eat, or couldn't eat, or ate less than 1000 calories or so, I didn't have my period. In as little as five days of not being able to nourish myself before it, poof, it's gone. Could be just an expedient way of saying, of course I'm not pregnant. It could be that dehydration made her loose bits of her memory and it really hadn't been a month. Or people saying, of course she's lying! I'll admit it's possible, but I think it's improbable.

It was actually my first reaction reading her blog that she had been somehow abused. I would've guessed raped or molested actually. People who lead entirely happy lives eerily don't often have anything profound to say. I have a good friend who has never wanted for anything that he's ever needed, not love, not food or water, not a bed to sleep on, and he's an *****.

Feeling that spidey-sense tingle, I latched on. Here lies some "kindredness," some hope that yes, there is life after hell, if you're willing to face it.

No, I don't believe it's entirely true. I think that in her retelling, she gave it a face lift of sorts, but the character of this story and the "truth" would be practically indiscernible to anyone not involved.

I think I've blabbed enough.
- brstilson, on 10/12/2007, -8/+6Huh? When does she talk about her period? I think you misread the story.
  
  Her mother is the one that said she was pregnant and on drugs, even though she wasn't. Her mother told people she was pregnant while she was gone and kept up the lie so she wouldn't look stupid.
  
  I swear, too many people that lack basic reading comprehension are allowed to graduate high school these days.
- k4ng, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7@brstilson
  
  When V writes "'But I’m not pregnant,' I say. The wad of toilet paper currently jammed in between my thighs is proof of that" she means that she's on her period (she's soaking up the blood and tissues with a wad of toilet paper) and therefore could not be pregnant. She wrote this in part 2 of the story.
- arkanebeats, on 10/12/2007, -0/+9@ brstilson
  
  "I swear, too many people that lack basic reading comprehension are allowed to graduate high school these days."
  
  Oh how ironic...
- Pyloff, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2Holy Christ... This is it. The moment I've actually seen Irony. In print. The conundrum has been busted. I believe that was real.
jeremiahf, on 10/12/2007, -3/+4In the comments for part 2, I said that the story is either invented or embellished. In this post, V insists that it's true. Maybe so, and somehow it seems personal now so I'm won't argue the point too vigorously. Except to say this: I know it's the safest response in the world to call "*****." You protect yourself from being taken in, and even if you turn out to be wrong, you still come off looking all right. Win-win.

Still, the story is pretty incredible. And accepting it is not without its consequences. I've worked long and hard to fight off the cynicism that comes so easily to my generation and try to find what seems to me a balanced view of life. And being able to class some people as "monsters" lets me off the hook on exactly those things I'd really like to be let off for (after all, I'm not as bad as them), so it's an impulse I distrust.

I don't know and have no reason to trust V, so I'm not going to be reshaping my view of human nature to account for her story.
- brstilson, on 10/12/2007, -0/+9Believe it or not, stories like this that are just as "incredible" and more so are happening every day. What about the three kids in West Virginia that were starved by their foster parents for years? The 19 year old was 5'3" and less than 100 pounds. They were literally eating drywall and insulation from their bedroom walls to survive. If one of those kids started a blog in a few years while wanting to remain anonymous, i'm sure his story would appear "incredible" too.
  
  There's also a book out titled "A Child Called 'It'" where the author recounts his story of being a severely abused child. Being permanently locked in the closet sounds "incredible" too, but stuff like this *does* happen. Whether someone writes about their experiences in a book or in a blog, it still does happen, and it is not as "incredible" as you would like to believe.
  
  My opinion is that there really is no way of knowing if this story really happened, but I wouldn't be surprised if it was true. People tend to knee-jerk into "it's fake" with VA's posts, and especially this one because it made them uncomfortable, unwilling to believe that a mother could do this to her own child. I can believe it. I did not find this story entertaining and I didn't enjoy reading it. It made me angry. Angry at her mother, angry at the police, and angry at the system that placed a child in harm's way. I can only imagine what those so-called officers were thinking last night. I'm sure V's mother told them the whole pregnant drug-user story so they came in with a pre-conceived idea, or they just wanted to get this over with so they could get home in time for the game.
IngaG, on 10/12/2007, -0/+14I joined just to comment on this entry.

It doesn't matter if V is distorting her past. It doesn't matter if V is the heroine of this story or not.
Because it happened to someone. It may have been a bit different. But children face abuse and neglect, both equally damaging, at the hands of people close to them.

V tells stories that make people think. And she often tells them bluntly, with imagery that can be disturbing. Story telling is a reflection of reality, and her stories are real enough to carry their point across and be very valid and relevant to our lives.

And that's why I love her writing. And I don't care a bit whether they are exact autobiographic pieces or not - to me, they still tell the truth.
stevob2007, on 10/12/2007, -8/+1http://www.badwebsite.org/gallery.php?entry=images/1176497084.jpg
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karafias, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7I hope she continues this story - I would like to know how the "marriage" ended.

I would like to think that her stories are true, but I don't know. Some of them seem too incredible to be realistic. This doesn't mean they aren't true, it just makes it hard to believe. So, either way, I enjoy her stories. But I would have much more respect for them if they are true.
jvenham, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4very powerful. In the scheme of things, what does it matter to any of you if this story is truth down to the letter? for those of you who would say "she lies" or would discount her story, who are you to decide? save your judgement. very often children who have been abused do not speak out against their abuser for fear of being called a liar. this is as or more damaging than the abuse itself. the species on this planet that is the most sadistic and successful killer is the human one. humans are capable of much worse horrors than described in this blog.
bellamafia, on 10/12/2007, -10/+0This is definitely an interesting story. I'm sure there's some truth to it despite the inconsistencies. V is obviously pretty ***** up in the head.

However I wouldn't be surprised if she typed PSYCH at the end of her telling the story.
- brstilson, on 10/12/2007, -0/+9I found no inconsistencies in the story at all. Why do people find this ***** so hard to believe? Talk to a social worker or someone who's worked with abused kids and you'd probably be the shocked one.
  I'm not saying for sure it's true, because I don't know any more than you, but one thing this story is not is unbelievable or fantastic.
moncef, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5V keeps me entertained and thinking while all the while doing so in an blunt down to earth fashion, she's a lot better of a writer than she gives herself credit for.

keep up the great stuff ^.^
mattlohkamp, on 10/12/2007, -0/+7I don't care if the stuff on VA is true or not - I don't think it matters, honestly. A story is a story. And I love V's stories, which I accept as true because I have no reason not to, though I wouldn't think any less of them if I were to find at that they were fiction. I'm not convinced that what she writes is 'controversial' or 'mean' or whatever - what she writes is stimulating, and the kind of people that are offended by that kind of thing are going to take offense, but it takes a good writer to inspire emotion in readers, and V's got my vote.
VentCover, on 10/12/2007, -0/+10Having come from another ***** up family situation, I am very appreciative of this story. I don't care if anyone else likes it or not because people are too full of themselves. The message that I took from the story is that it's hard for other people to understand what the rest of us go through, and that there are too many ignorant fools out there. Life is more ***** up than people like to believe.
- PatoLucas, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5I also come from a very ***** up family and this story doesn't seem really impossible to me.
  
  I agree with you that people from healthy families or a happier history might not believe this, but the important is the message
- FinalDoom, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3She hits the nail on the head, or whatever the phrase is, when she says people see what they want to see. The majority of people can't see things like this happening, even when it is in the house right next door. Sad really from every angle.
keshmeshi, on 10/12/2007, -9/+1A good writer wouldn't repeat the line, "I'm not a pretty crier," twice. It's a lousy, throw away line that barely deserves to be written once, let alone twice.

V certainly visits Digg regularly. Most of the story's conclusion was taken practically word for word from yesterday's comments.
- ptrix, on 10/12/2007, -2/+7if you've been reading this blog for longer than, say, the past week or so, you would be aware that V tends to not consider herself a "good writer" (see here: http://www.violentacres.com/archives/146/a-happy-ending ).
  
  I don't get why so many people don't cut her some ***** slack already. If you think she's lying, well, great for you. remove her blog from your browser's bookmarks list and go about finding blogs that are written so perfectly that they might as well have been written by some robot. Go find something to read that won't cause you to feel so uncomfortable that you are willing to dismiss the brutal stories that this woman is trying to communicate to us. Why are so many of you so afraid to show the slightest ***** bit of compassion and humanity towards someone who is pouring her heart out in this way? Why do you lack the bare minimum of empathy to consider how much that her even trying to remember these events, must feel like if someone is injecting pure lava into her mind?
  
  Yes, I'll say it - V is what most might consider "damaged goods", but seeing the reactions that have been posted here over the past couple of days very much makes me wonder what's wrong with our society. It's no wonder why she seems to be so full of anger - in her childhood, people didn't listen to her, and her abuse continued unabated. fast forward several years, and people still don't listen to the CONTENT of her words. If that trend is one that is being mirrored throughout North American society as a whole, than I honestly fear for those who may be victims of abuse and neglect as we speak.
  
  I'm certain that there are stories similar to this that nobody will ever hear, because so many victims end up taking their own lives, and I'll bet that they wind up doing that not because of the abuse itself, but because the people who could help them, refused to acknowledge them. V is a lot of things, but damn it, she survived. She's not the person she would have been had that not happened to her, but at least she is here to tell us about her life.
  
  At least she is here.
  
  And I, for one, am glad that she is.
  
  -Ptrix
  
  NOTE: this is NOT directed to most of you, but to those whom it is, i'm sure they know who they are.
exhootersgirl, on 10/12/2007, -1/+1Thank you for sharing your story. People will always believe what they want to believe, but if one child reads this and speaks out, it helps. If one adult who might suspect something, but doesn't want to get involved and chooses to act, it helps.

Child abuse victims do not always "look" dirty or smell funny. Quite often the signs of abuse are hidden away. Keep in mind that those who prey on the weak have usually practiced their skill and are good at concealing it. Evil doesn't always show on the outside and in our society, if someone is pleasing to look at, we assume that they are also good people.

I too choose to believe in God and I am grateful for my faith. I do not share this often with others, because they have a hard time seeing me as a "Christian." One of my abusers was an ordained minister, but I believe that we all have free will and too often people are corrupted by that allowance. The best I can do is what I am doing and the best I can be is the person I am at this given moment.

Good luck in all that you do and if people out there have a problem with what you are writing, then they should quit reading your blog. Thanks to SW at Wide Lawns for turning me on to your blog.
diizy, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I come from an excellent family myself, but this story opened my eyes. Not as to what happened, but as to what has become of V. Things that she cant even control about herself show even today. I am thankfull for every word she has written in the last 3 of her posts, its opened my eyes and mind as to what can happen and as to what can become from someone. If you guys cannot understand why she has remained annonymous for this long then there is something wrong with you. I hope she never reveals herself, and V, please keep blogging.
idontwanna, on 10/12/2007, -1/+1Bah, keshmeshi, she already told you you're not her audience.

In Texas, you can get married at 14. That's what my ex-mother-in-law did.

Sounds to me like the mom was afraid of the perceived competition from V.
- keshmeshi, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I'm completely aware I'm not her audience. I'm not an MRA or an adolescent boy.
chloey, on 10/12/2007, -2/+1I believe this story and liked it.
- jeremiahf, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4I gotta say, this makes no sense to me. If I believed it, I certainly wouldn't like it.
ohnonellie, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Does it matter if it is real or not?
While the subject matter was a tough read emotionally it was well written. Has anyone ever read a published fictional book that made them squirm and yet still loved the author? Yup, me too. That this is real (or presented as such) doesn't take away from the fact it's the telling of a story shared to make you think. To make you aware. To make you look at things around you in a different way. Her comment about people seeing what the want to see is dead on and I applaud her for pointing it out.

V to me has been saying things since the beginning of her blog that while tough to read are well put and thought provoking. She's not a common 'net bully slamming sites/people simply by cussing them out or calling them names. She states her case - her opinion - and very well at that, and well, if you don't like it - the world is a big place and you are free to move on.

I think she's forthright, articulate, brave and down to earth and for all of those reasons I will continue to read her blog and enjoy it - real or not.

Kudos V.
jdpmep, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2Well hmmmmm

How best to put this? I think the story is real and if its not its a darn good one. I feel good after reading this story. Why you ask? Because she overcame it all.
There are too many people in this world that cry and bitch and moan about their lives and how unfair it all is. It makes me want to puke. I want to slap them around for a while and show them some real unfairness in life. My image of V has risen a few notches and I hope the best for her in the future.

As for the rest of you who think the story is fake or made partially up. Please watch the news some night. It is possible, It is very very possible.

I hate to admit it, but people in general are evil, cruel and nasty. I don't like them at all. Can't wait for the machines to take over.

John
lexanx, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1V this is a very entertaining read I must say indeed. Though it read to much like a V.C. Andrews novel. Well what ever bring in the adsense money to your bank account. Keep writing V because it speeds my day at work and let me get back to my life. My life sucks sometimes. but it sure beats yours V.
mulder5, on 10/12/2007, -1/+0She's very entertaining. It sounds like some of what she writes is real. Why not call her up and ask her? She's Jill Roberts at Lehman Middle in Canton, O-HI-A! Lotta abused kids end up in the helping professions.
- twistedpearls, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Well, VA, if you find some sort of personal peace by spewing your hatred and anger at the world through this "anonymous" website, then I guess that's workin' for ya, as Dr. P would say.
usbserial, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3The story is disturbing, and child abuse is a very serious issue.

A few objections: How does it not occur to her or her 17-year-old boyfriend, whom have been throwing things back and forth from her window for days, to get A) a ladder B) a rope up so she can climb down. This does not seem like it would require any stretch of imagination for them to come up with a way for her to escape again. Secondly, all she would've had to do is say to the cops: "Come up to my room and see. That'll all I ask. If you don't think it's evidence, then you can leave and never return, but I think the moment you see or smell my room you will know." or even if she didn't want to go that far, I find it hard to believe that any semi-quasi-competent cop wouldn't detect the reek of feces, urine, and BO on her and not get at least slightly suspicious of her mother.

In the context of the story, I realize how frustrating it would be for her to read these comments. The entire story is about people not believing her; she therefore suffers more because of it, and now many people don't believe her story about people not believing her.

A final note, if she wants her mom to pay for what she's done she should go kidnap her and throw her down a well. Hell isn't a sure thing. Being throwing down a well is.
- Mirakai, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0"I would have also told you a truth about human nature. That is simply that people see what they want to see. Take, for example, the cop who visited my house that night long ago. He didn’t see my greasy hair. He didn’t see my cracked and bleeding lips. He didn’t see the funny way my clothes hung on my emaciated body or how too much movement made me dizzy. He didn’t see those things because he didn’t want to see them."
  
  Not all cops are the noble, upstanding citizens we expect them to be, but that's how we see them, because we don't want to see a cop who doesn't care about the very people he's supposed to protect.
  
  And for the love of GOD, be realistic. A well? You moron.
starlingg, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I have been reading V's blog for a few months now and I am addicted. I check every day to see what she is going to say. Sometimes I agree, sometimes I totally do not. I always find her worth my time. This is the 1st time I wanted to post a comment. I believe her. Obviously she may have changed a few things to protect people involved, but I think the basis of the story is true. And it haunts me. I have been thinking about this 3 part story quite a bit. It is not with pity, but it is through her anger and strength and courage for putting it out there that endures her to me.
lexanx, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I do have a question concerning the story. I was wondering why the 17 year old boyfriend did not get charged for kidnapping? Though he is legally not considered a adult yet ive seen children that age tried for kidnapping.
Behsharam, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I was out here nodding. I can confirm that the pity is far worse than facing the event. There are scars where other people can't see them when they tell you how wonderfully you have overcome your childhood.

I too believed in god only in the hopes that a horrible parent would burn in hell.

I hope you are well.
LG10000, on 10/12/2007, -1/+1The numbers just don't add up. Kurt Cobain died in April 1994. If she was 15 and he was already dead, then she was born - at the earliest - in 1979. That would make her in her late 20s now (at the OLDEST). But her profile says she's in her 30s. Hmmm. Even the basic "facts" don't add up; why believe anything she writes? I read it all as fiction, including the putdowns of others; none of it's real. Not one bit.
- idontwanna, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Maybe she had him confused with Elvis. Happens all the time ;)
bluepaintred, on 10/12/2007, -1/+0http://www.badwebsite.org/images/thumbs/thumb_1176497084.jpg
tabby804, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1From one abused little girl to another thank you. Sometimes its just good to know that there is someone out there that can relate and won't be flabbergasted by the details of your childhood because it happened to them too.
chip4769, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Aww, it's not pity, but I wish I could give V a nice big hug. Guess it'll just have to be mental; V, if you're reading this, consider yourself hugged.
Mirakai, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0There's not much left for me to say, now. Not much I could have articulated to begin with, either way, but I will say this; Thank you so very, very much, and I am so sorry it's this way.
betovarg, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I love that blog. Thats all o have to say. Great, V.
Ondine, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I'm sorry, V. My husband had a similarly f-ed up childhood, and his mother would get along beautifully with your mother. It makes me so angry that there are kids that must endure such nightmares, every day. And no, no matter how successful you are in life, you never "get over" it.
XSVFire, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Wow, that took guts. Thanks for sharing. I did go through the course of emotions while reading the whole thing. Is this really real/true. Holy Crap, surely not. Deep down I knew it was though, save the obvious changes like state names etc.

Keep thinking and keep writing, your a breathe of fresh truth in a smog of tainted crap.
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