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Study: Women are the Dominant Partner in Most Marriages

news.yahoo.com — Men might throw their weight around at the office, but at home, women are the bosses. A study, which was just released, finds that wives have more power than their husbands in making decisions and dominating discussions.

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  • mindstyle1, on 10/11/2007, -6/+93I'm married... it's true
    • spinchange, on 10/11/2007, -6/+45I've heard it said that, "If the man is the head of the household, the woman is the neck that turns the head!" ...words never spoken truer
    • Birdoftruth, on 10/11/2007, -15/+17Really? or is that the illusion you project onto your wife in order to keep things sound? Becuase you argue with logic and she argues with emotion you could easily point out her fallacies and win the argument logically but she insists she is right and ignores logic. So as a result you choose to keep everything sound in order for sex. As long as you are the dominant one in sex, I have no quarrel with your decision, but if she is dominant in the marriage and in sex, you are a slave to your wife.
      • m0tbaillie, on 10/11/2007, -4/+9Congratulations, you read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus".
      • mroboy, on 10/11/2007, -2/+13@m0tbaillie
        apparently so did you.
    • therightside, on 10/11/2007, -5/+134Its easy to dominate conversation when you never shut the ***** up.
    • donwilson2, on 10/11/2007, -4/+33And yet when you divorce, the woman somehow deserves 50% of everything you've ever made.

      I'm all for equality, but maybe feminism has gone a bit too far.
      • KennMac, on 10/11/2007, -6/+13No one took away your right to a pre-nup.
        • captmorgan555, on 10/11/2007, -3/+12Have you ever asked a women for a pre-nup? To them it means your ***** someone else.
          • sigintop, on 10/11/2007, -1/+6Then why would you want to marry someone that crazy then?
          • Square47, on 10/11/2007, -1/+8Wait...there are completely non-crazy ones? I thought there were just levels of crazy and you want one with a lower crazy content compared to the others.
          • CedEx, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2You think a pre-nup can hold up in court? Any good divorce lawyer can tear that piece of paper to shreds in court.
          • zolaar, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3@CedEx
            > Any good divorce lawyer can tear that piece of paper to shreds in court.

            "Aha! You're no match for me, mister lawyer! I brought a *second* copy!"
        • OralCavity, on 10/11/2007, -1/+6grow a pair imo
      • Eivo, on 10/11/2007, -5/+13That law is outdated and needs to go, just like affirmative action.
      • Birdoftruth, on 10/11/2007, -2/+10Ever heard of offshore bank accounts? set one up and protect your assets
        • shark615, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2Not as easy as it once was I am afraid.
          • sigintop, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Yeah. I remember that Daily Show segment

            "You can't just walk up with a suitcase full of money............ anymore."
    • aliengoods, on 10/11/2007, -11/+17That's why I'm single. I won't cave and turn into a bitchboy.

      A bit of a flame, but it's true. Women hate it when they can't control you.
      • gerrycurl, on 10/11/2007, -7/+23that's not the real reason why you're single buddy boy!
      • jfpersona1, on 10/11/2007, -5/+10Are you really that much of a weenie that you can't think for yourself when there is a woman around?
      • aliengoods, on 10/11/2007, -3/+11@gerrycurl

        An insightful comment. And you're right. The real reason I'm single is the 2000 other people in line for your mom. But at the rate she goes, she'll get to me in a half hour.

        @jfpersona

        You've missed the point entirely. I do think for myself when women are around. Most men will cave every day just to get their wives/girlfriends to screw them for five minutes. Why in the hell do you think women withhold sex as a relationship tool?
        • OralCavity, on 10/11/2007, -1/+3cause you are not good at it, so they don't really lose out when they withold it?
        • donwilson2, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1dugg for "she'll get to me in a half hour."
    • falstaff, on 10/11/2007, -3/+17Study conducted by bachelors. Any married man doesn't even need to do the study to know this. It's in the manual that comes with the ring.
      • drakenlot, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3Huh, my dad must've lost that read-me file, explains why he divorced twice
      • Neiby, on 10/11/2007, -1/+16Yeah. This study definitely falls into the "no *****" category. Kind of like the one I read yesterday that said that women are attracted to muscular men. Really? No ***** way!!!11! I never would have guessed that without someone doing a study.
      • darkdantae, on 10/11/2007, -1/+6Growing up it was never like this in my house, what Dad said was the final word, perhaps that was a bit much, but I was shocked to see how many men are whipped once I got into the age of reason. To be honest I always thought it was a joke when the mother ruled the house on a sitcom, trying to be ironic or something.

        I expect nothing from a girl that I don't expect from myself, but I would never stand for this crap I see when a wife calls his husband 12 times a day a work to say stuff like "Joey is out of control today," well deal with it, what do you want your husband to do when he is at work? I also would never stand for losing my freedom of doing what I want, obviously we all have responsibilities, but beyond that i am my own person and will never have to ask for permission to do something, again, nor would I expect her to ask for my permission. I rather be single pulling my pud then put up with that, ever.
    • captmorgan555, on 10/11/2007, -3/+59I think its *****. My wife makes the decisions but its just because i really really dont give a ***** what kind of paper ***** towels we buy.
    • xman00, on 10/11/2007, -5/+9If think marriage is bad, just wait until you have kids. Then life really starts to suck...hard!
      • mrtroy32, on 10/11/2007, -2/+3wow. this is why the govt should have to qualify you to have kids. just give them up for adoption pal, maybe they'll grow up in a loving home then.
        • ikzeidegek, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1xman00 is right. Life stops being fun after the "you do whatever the hell I want, or you'll never see your kids again".
    • btgoss, on 10/11/2007, -2/+6I agree it is true. My wife handles everything normal... I handle the stressful stuff and emergencies...
    • dajuggernaut, on 10/11/2007, -2/+3and i have the black eye to prove it!
    • Dhalgren, on 10/11/2007, -0/+9You remind me of some of the other guys at work. From talking to them it's pretty obvious that their wives run things at home. I like to think that my wife and I have a healthier relationship. There's lots of compromises in both directions. If she made all the decisions I wouldn't have 8 computers at home...
      • troye, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1nice. you've got 8 computers in your house.
      • mancat, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Well if they "run things" at home then surely they won't have a problem with starting up the ***** powerblaster and cleaning off the siding once every six months, or fixing the leaking sink, etc...
    • mercprog, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2I can't believe what I am reading. Come on guys grow a set.

      Be a man!

      Agreed who cares what kind of paper towels, but ultimately the major decisions are up to the man. And if you don't make the decision who else is going to do it? then you hear men bitch because the women make all the decisions. its because you aren't man enough to.

      Time to belly up to the bar and be a man.
      - Dave B
  • DaveV, on 10/11/2007, -27/+112Of course. Women have the pussy. If he wants the pussy, he has to do what she says.

    Which is why women are called bitches.
    • Philluminati, on 10/11/2007, -31/+6forgetting your women are bitches statement for a second. Your actually true. It used to be men would pick women to be wives. Now it's women pick men and chop and change as they please. All women want is tall and georgeous men. Money isn't an attraction anymore. Women have their own jobs. Power is irrelivent as it's women that hold it. Women love funny or smart friends but all they want to do is ***** sexy guys. Basically if your not sexy your not *****.

      A big bag of truth for your there guys.
      • KennMac, on 10/11/2007, -0/+21We're all dumber for having read your logical fallacies. Stop pushing dumb opinions as facts.
      • Minishark, on 10/11/2007, -1/+20If you think women aren't attracted to money, then you are an idiot.
      • drakenlot, on 10/11/2007, -0/+10So, using your logic, try explaining why all the rich guys are the ones with trophy wives? It's sure wasn't looks that attracted Anna Nicole Smith
    • lansuggs, on 10/11/2007, -1/+42You're putting the pussy on a pedestal...
    • kernelhappy, on 10/11/2007, -3/+10I knew a girl that called it "The power of the hair". Her philosophy was that a guy could work out, do steroids, whatever, but with one cooch hair she could get 100 men to pull a locomotive if she wished.

      She was probably right too.
      • DryMaltExtract, on 10/11/2007, -3/+5How does this power stand up now that the trend is to have a cooch that look's like a child's?
        • kernelhappy, on 10/11/2007, -3/+9They use stubble, it's just as powerful, just harder to harvest.
      • ruthless34, on 10/11/2007, -6/+1Pure and utter BS
        These stupid arguments are used to make women feel special and that they have power.
        They forget men only gave them power about 30 years ago and before laws men could rape any women they wanted.
    • Happy_Phantom, on 10/11/2007, -5/+11Women are called bitches by insecure men resentful of their assertiveness.
      • reddfox321, on 10/11/2007, -2/+4When I call another guy an ***** (or even a bitch, cuz yes a lot of us use it refer to men too), is it because I'm resentful of their assertiveness or maybe because they're acting like an *****?

        I just wouldn't rule out the simple answer for all cases, is all.
      • KennMac, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2I don't know about this one... I know some completely irrational raging bitches. I certainly don't see them as assertive.
  • dmobley, on 10/11/2007, -12/+42How many of these surveys were done with both people in the room at the same time?

    What kind of man with any sense in the entire world would EVER let his wife think even for a second that she wasn't the one in control, regardless of the truth of it all? Honestly?

    The trick is to let 'em think they're controlling things, calling the shots and everything else that keeps them happy about things like that, and off your back about everything else.

    All the guys who want some sort of "Equal partnership" just don't have enough hobbies.
    • TheGrunt, on 10/11/2007, -3/+10umm, actually they put them both in the same room at watched how they worked things out.

      http://www.iastate.edu/~nscentral/news/2007/jun/wifepower.shtml

      Original article is there.
      • Maddjonesy, on 10/11/2007, -1/+0Notice the woman in the picture, is taller and more butch looking than the guy? LoL
        Maybe this study has been 'controlled' by the woman in that relationship!
        (Only kidding, don't take it personal girls, if there are any digg girls that is!)
    • kinerry, on 10/11/2007, -2/+2It's the woman's job to try to take control of the man...it's the man's job to never let her

      The women aren't in charge, the men just let them think that
    • rstarr, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2I let her think she is in charge by picking where we go for dinner because I'll pretty much eat anything that at one point moved.
      But when it comes to important *****, like bills and new furniture or any amount of money over 50 dollars I run the show and I truly think most men do.
      So as far as more decisions, she makes them, but on big decisions I think men make more of the calls.
  • thenativeraver, on 10/11/2007, -5/+114"No matter how fine she looks, some other guy is sick and tired of putting up with her crap..."
    • seraph82, on 10/11/2007, -17/+3crap. Accidentally clicked down instead of up.
    • zatrix, on 10/11/2007, -1/+10Reminded me of a song by 3 Malancholy Gypsys - Chant
      "show me a hot chick and ill show you a guy who's tired of sleeping with her"
  • cassholio, on 10/11/2007, -6/+43I'm going to file this one under the "no *****, sherlock" headlines.
  • JackBurden, on 10/11/2007, -6/+62Supply and demand.

    Any business who lets itself get locked into a single vendor gets exactly what it deserves.
    • p0tent1al, on 10/11/2007, -4/+7Preach reverend!
    • RazielX, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2Marriage as a business venture...Interesting take :)
    • mancat, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Just wait and see what happens when you try to "diversify."
    • zolaar, on 10/11/2007, -2/+1What's the alternative? Open Sores?
  • jamesallen74, on 10/11/2007, -4/+19Reminds me of something I saw on the internet once:
    Chances of a guy winning an argument:
    While dating - 50%
    While engaged - 25% (unless she is a star on the TV show Bridezilla)
    While married - 0%
    Sure you can fight for the win, but don't look for any sex for months.
    • orlyfactor, on 10/11/2007, -3/+24That works both ways. I just deny her sex, and go jerk off. In the end, it's all the same for me.
      • jamesallen74, on 10/11/2007, -4/+7T M I
      • OMGWTFROFLMAOx2, on 10/11/2007, -1/+15Ah, the "sex camel" defense. One of my favorites. Difficult to master, but if executed correctly has tremendous results.
      • Maddjonesy, on 10/11/2007, -1/+7Yeah, you can say all you want about guys needing sex, but given time, women get hornier than us guys, they just have a delayed (and greater) reaction compared to men (much like sex, lol).
  • seraph82, on 10/11/2007, -18/+64Not that I condone hitting women, but ever since it became taboo for men to hit women, women always win arguments, and women are (now) 450% more likely to cause domestic violence than men. It's sad when a particular group of people get special rights instead of equal rights, is it not? :(
    • SuperWinner, on 10/11/2007, -30/+2Actually women win the arguments because they are a little smarter than us, and they remember everything. Plus they set us up to lose the argument, and we fall into the trap each and every time. When men could still hit women, we had the advantage cuz we are a little bigger. Those times are gone.
      • orlyfactor, on 10/11/2007, -6/+6No ***** way my wife is going to be smarter than me...I'm marrying a blonde!
      • ealderm, on 10/11/2007, -8/+1wrong reply. digg down
        • drakenlot, on 10/11/2007, -1/+1Nope, I'm deviant so I'll digg you up
      • hifiDesign, on 10/11/2007, -1/+10SuperWinner... Misogynistic ***** about wife beating aside, I think you hit the nail on the head about their memories. My wife can remember just about everything, like she's got my ***** in a relational database or something. Mix that with two parts crazy, one part emotional blackmail, and 3 parts holding-my-balls-hostage and you've got Mrs. hifiDesign's recipe for never letting me win an argument.
        • shark615, on 10/11/2007, -1/+5That is the most annoying habit and it seems to be shared by every damn woman out there. One mistake no matter how small or how long ago and it is remembered forever.

          I started taking the stance that the second a mistake was brought up that was older then 3 months and I left the house/apartment whatever. At the point the argument was so far gone, so illogical and based on emotions that no matter what I said or did i was going to lose so ***** it.
      • Dhalgren, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2I have a better memory than my Wife...
      • ruthless34, on 10/11/2007, -4/+1*****.
        Men dont have time to put up with the crap coming out of womens mouth. They just ignore the bitch. There is no way a woman is *smarter* than a man.
      • Happy_Phantom, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1I'd like to see her hit you upside the head while I cheered her on.
    • KatieBee, on 10/11/2007, -11/+4yeah, i'd check your stats dude. most victims of domestic abuse are absolutely women. not men.
      • SvMidtown, on 10/11/2007, -4/+6I think by "more likely to cause domestic violence" he means that it's their fault they get hit.
      • NerdyNinja, on 10/11/2007, -1/+8There was a story that made front page the other day about how women were twice as likely to commit the act of domestic violence than men. :: shrug :: Digg's either right or it's wrong, but I'm betting that's what seraph is citing.
      • ealderm, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2"Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent."
        Isaac Asimov

        But if a frying pan is coming my way, you'd better bet I will block it (hopefully not with my head).
      • Maddjonesy, on 10/11/2007, -1/+9Maybe it's because male domestic abuse victims are FAR less likely to report it?!?
        • Maddjonesy, on 10/11/2007, -1/+3Honestly, how many 'husband-beatings' do hear about? (In comparison to wife-beatings, which I DO NOT condone)
        • senfo, on 10/11/2007, -0/+7I'm not sure why you're being dugg down. This is absolutely true. My best friend put up with a couple of years worth of physical abuse. His girlfriend would throw anything she could find at him, hit him with a bat, whatever. It was completely ridiculous. He never once reported it, but the one time he laid his hand on her (in self-defense), police were at the door within five minutes.

          Granted, this was an extreme case, but I've personally witnessed a number of occasions where women have gotten physically abusive with their significant other. With the one exception listed above, which was little more than a slap, I have never seen any man put his hands on a female except to push her away.
        • elsJake, on 10/11/2007, -2/+6 senfo has a point there. Men usually don't even hit back knowing that would probably send a woman to the hospital and most bitches don't realty realize they don't have the strength to actually do anything to a man. And so they escalate and get ever more violent. They're like little children picking on an older guy , they don't understand how quickly they can get struck down.
          The reason i am against hitting women is because they can't really hurt you no matter how hard they try. If of course they actually do get dangerous in the true sense of the world i would have absolutely no problem knocking them out.Again , it's like dealing with children , you have to be smart enough to understand they they don't comprehend what they're doing.
    • ICSU, on 10/11/2007, -3/+5If they want to be equal, why no hitting?
    • seraph82, on 10/11/2007, -1/+5@ Achalemoipas - no I'm not muslim and I advocate NOT hitting women. I am pissed that they get special treatment now that they are able to abuse the taboo of hitting women. Re-read my original statement.
      @ Superwinner - remembering is not being right, in many cases, arguments aren't about whether or not something is true or what something means, etc -- not just if something happens. I don't even argue with my girl about whether or not something happened -- I just believe her on that. No way am I stupid enough to start that fight. Men remember the gist, women remember the inane details
      @ KatieBee - you're referring to *reported* domestic violence. Of all domestic violence, reported or not, in the US, women are now far more likely to be on the abusive side. I myself have witnessed my friend being hit by a girl and his struggle not to "return the favor," and wondering if I was going to have to keep him restrained if he tried. She was a piece of *****, but that's beside the point. He didn't hit her ever, and she was hitting him. Relationship over. Women are blatantly abusing the fact that (some/most) men will NOT hit them.
      • captmorgan555, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2Dugg down for backing down like a pussy Achalemoipas *reaches back with pimp hand*
  • Skitzzo, on 10/11/2007, -4/+59In other news - digg comments show why over 50% of American marriages end in divorce lol.
    • NerdyNinja, on 10/11/2007, -1/+8...World of Warcraft?
    • captmorgan555, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1I blame the Snorg T-Shirt girl
    • enginbeering, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1And here I was thinking that it was because of the fact that humans didn't evolve to be monogamous.
    • sinurgy, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1I actually I'd say the article shows why %50 of American marriages end in divorce!
  • lickmylovepump, on 10/11/2007, -17/+5"Women are after two things: your money and your man-juice."
  • LandStander, on 10/11/2007, -6/+17My g/f (fiance) and I just moved into a house together for the first time and no matter how much I know it's stupid, I still argue to get my way. I have to hold on to that freedom somehow, even if I know she's making the final decision, I feel like my fight mattered.
    • CiXeL, on 10/11/2007, -8/+6wow thats really sad. honestly id rather switch teams than live in a relationship like that.
    • caffiend, on 10/11/2007, -1/+12LandStander, you'll get over that in time (hopefully). Arguing over stupid ***** is pointless and deconstructive.
      • zolaar, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Tell *her* that -- she f*ckin started it...
    • dmobley, on 10/11/2007, -4/+24I suspect you have around a year until your will is broken or you realize that you win more by losing more. (don't worry it's not a math problem).

      You ultimately end up with a lot more freedom when you figure out how to create scenarios for her to win, and therefore you to lose so you keep up the illusion that she's in charge and has everything going the right way. Meanwhile, you're probably still making more money, everything's in your name and you're probably already trying to find that quiet, electronics filled room that she won't spend any time near.

      Next time she yells at you to do the dishes or something, just start doing them pre-emptively. If you do, she'll be under the impression that she "changed you" which is the dream of every girl, when in reality you've been doing your own dishes forever and there's really no change at all. She'll be so happy with this minor miracle, that you'll be able to get away with something else in the future or slack on something else.

      Lose the fights, win the war. Give them something stupid that they want, take whatever you want for yourself. The guys who fight and try to be a 'real man' or whatever kinda idiotic stuff shouldn't be getting married in the first place, you'll just end up with half your ***** gone when you get caught cheating on your wife who "turned out to be a total bitch" because you were fighting all the time and never giving up.
      • frishack, on 10/11/2007, -1/+5honestly, what about living this way is better than being single. I can't find a single reason outside of having sex to get married, and everyone says that sex sucks when you are married. Living with some woman controlling everything you do sounds like pure prison to me.
        • LandStander, on 10/11/2007, -1/+3Well hopefully your spouse has a job so you have 2 incomes. More money FTW
        • Inverno, on 10/11/2007, -1/+4Despite being a total pain in the ass, I love my wife. Dmobley's advise is what's kept my marriage going so long (longer than all six of my parents' marriages). If you love the girl playing these silly compromise games is worth while.
        • digitalsatori, on 10/11/2007, -1/+7There are good things about being married. After all, why would so many people get married if it's such a horrible experience? Most people here just bitch about the things they think are bad. I'm married, and life with my wife and daughter are so much more enjoyable and enriching than being single could ever be. I have someone to talk to, someone to spend time with, someone to always go out and do things with. Plus, my wife is a gamer, so we get along great. Marriage is worth it; anyone who is married and tells you otherwise (and they're not kidding around) isn't going to stay married much longer.
        • mahdaeng, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1@LandStander: No real man depends on his wife's income. Get some pants, man!
      • mahdaeng, on 10/11/2007, -2/+1@frishack: If anyone's telling you that married sex sucks, they're not doing it right.
        • encognito, on 10/11/2007, -1/+1LOL!!! Like their is such a thing as "married sex" or "pre-marital sex." Sex is sex. Did you really buy into the notion of married sex? Sucker.
    • spraguep, on 10/11/2007, -7/+2i suspect you're a total ***** tool
    • cloudyprison, on 10/11/2007, -0/+4You still have time to get out man! I'm counting down the days until my prison sentence begins....
  • SanFranMan, on 10/11/2007, -4/+3LOL--was there ever a question??!!
  • orlyfactor, on 10/11/2007, -7/+11And this is news? *****, I hear it from my married co-workers all the time. Why the HELL would I want to get married after hearing nothing but horror stories from them? I'd rather keep getting blow jobs, be able to play video games without being nagged, and not have to do all the ***** that they have to do. It just makes sense, man!
    • creativeamp68, on 10/11/2007, -5/+2You must really enjoy doing yoga in your mother's basement all the time, orly.
    • gerrycurl, on 10/11/2007, -6/+1i'm calling animal rights, your dog must have severe lock jaw!
    • NerdyNinja, on 10/11/2007, -2/+6Orly, eventually you will get old, which will make picking up easy girls a bit harder. And more importantly, eventually you'll want to leave something of yourself behind, namely your genetics and awful looks. :P
      • ninj3, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2He could just come over to the UK, impregnate some slutty girl and leave her to mooch off the government for the rest of her life.
      • kinerry, on 10/11/2007, -0/+4actually, it gets easier as you age, the girls your age get hornier and put out much faster because they don't feel like playing games
        • encognito, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2I agree. I can't speak for anyone else but I can't tell you how many married with children types have made serious passes at me at work no less! Personally, I would never get married but if you desperately want kids, can't stand to be alone for more than five minutes or are a slave to your libido, marriage might be your only option in life.
  • combustion8, on 10/11/2007, -5/+13They're just now finding this out? I only let her get her way so I don't have to hear ***** for hours or days.. its usually just not worth it.
    • SteelFrog, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3Eh, I just don't bother anymore unless she says something I really don't agree on. When she knows I'm right she gets mad, ignores me and leaves in a fit only to come back later and apologize for it. Real productive.

      Heh, I still love that crazy woman though.
      (Not married. Hoping to dodge it for a while too.)
    • coldskool, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3You poor souls. See... this is exactly why you have to put your foot down from day one and even the slightest little hint of ***** that she throws your way, call her on it and let her know its your way or the ***** highway.
  • obsaysditto, on 10/11/2007, -4/+4No wonder the divorce rate is 50%
  • PhoneGuy, on 10/11/2007, -4/+18Thank you Captain Obvious. A headline stating "Man complains of pain when he inserts a fork in his eye" would be less obvious that this one.
    • KennMac, on 10/11/2007, -1/+4I just sent this URL to my girlfriend and she responded, "I didn't need an article to tell me that."

      Sigh. On a side-note, don't send this article to your sig-other.
  • lpmiller, on 10/11/2007, -3/+47this study is such crap it's not even funny.

    You can't just make an imaginary dividing line and say, "this makes one alpha."

    There are things I am in charge of, because my wife has no clue or doesn't care. She'd never get a new car or her car fixed or the lawn mowed or whatever because she just doesn't think that way. I'd never leave the cave or even think of going to the park or whatever because I'm a hermit. You take the lead in what you know. This doesn't mean I'm dominate because I say, "ok, today we are getting you a new damn car" or because she says, "friday we are going to my office party".

    Sure, there are couples where one is clearly the leader, and the other the follower. This has to do with how people are, not roles of the sexes or who has the money. My wife makes double what I do, but I make most of the financial decisions, or at least I tend to be the one that says no when it doesn't make sense. Like yet another damn bookshelf.

    It's working together, filling in where the other one lacks or just doesn't care, and to make a dividing line is just disingenuous. Who is 'dominant' entirely depends on the topic at hand. This study is just people making the facts fit their worldview, without really understanding how people are on a basic level.
    • jfpersona1, on 10/11/2007, -3/+10This is the first SANE response I have seen on Digg since....

      EVER!

      Are you sure you want to be here?!?
    • ealderm, on 10/11/2007, -2/+5Nicely said, LP.
    • ibjhb, on 10/11/2007, -1/+4Thank you for a true view on the real world.
    • elsJake, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Marriage is supposed to be a cooperation anyway , it's not the money , it's not the sex you'd have plenty more of that (maybe) if you were single all the time.
      But married people help each other that : you're responsible with that , I'm responsible with this , o course that's going to mean one is DOMINANT over the groceries because it's the same person that's responsible for that.
  • Fatherwhite, on 10/11/2007, -8/+9The only reason women THINK they have the power is because we care not to argue. They want to blab and bitch and moan and we just say "ok honey" so they get off our back. Now make me some dinner and clean those damn dishes!!!
    • KennMac, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3haha. Don't digg him down guys. It sounds chauvinistic, but it's so true...
    • FrEaKaHoLiC, on 10/11/2007, -1/+0yup. i think those negative digg was from the enemy. LOL. fatherwhite got my vote. Tired of hearing the same old nag nag nag. buried me bitches....haha!!!
  • bbqsalad, on 10/11/2007, -4/+13STUDY: Air is good to breath.
    • pbaehr, on 10/11/2007, -4/+11I'm sorry to see that the E key on your keyboard has ceased functioning. I am donating several of my own keystrokes for you to cut and paste as needed. ; )

      e e e e e e e E E E E E E E E
    • pbaehr, on 10/11/2007, -4/+8My dominant wife thinks I was too harsh picking on your spelling so she is making me take it back. You did capitalize and punctuate and everything...
    • bbqsalad, on 04/11/2008, -0/+1Brethe. There fixed.
      And hello to your wiefe.
  • chr15, on 10/11/2007, -4/+2Unless the guy listens to Tom Leykis.
    • FrEaKaHoLiC, on 10/11/2007, -0/+0tom leykis ruled!!!! we going to get buried. LOL.
    • mancat, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Leykis 101 is only useful for picking up worn-out barsluts. Have fun.
  • LizardonaStick, on 10/11/2007, -1/+9The study is actually the PERCEPTION of which partner is dominant, not an objective judgment of dominance by a behaviorist or psychologist. They asked the people for their opinions. The title at Yahoo and for this Digg posting are incorrect.

    From the report:
    "each spouse noted a relationship problem that could not be resolved without the spouse’s cooperation"
  • Wartyboskfapped, on 10/11/2007, -5/+3Of course they *****' are!
  • deptimusprime, on 10/11/2007, -4/+2Thanks tips. What a shocking surprise there...
  • legendxx, on 10/11/2007, -2/+8In a separate study, turns out most of the men who conducted this survey were married.
  • CiXeL, on 10/11/2007, -7/+5If you wonder why there are so many gay men. You can't help but wonder if theyre just tired of putting up with women's *****. A life's worth of disadvantages for shooting a load or two every once in awhile.
    • misterjangles, on 10/11/2007, -2/+2obviously you've never actually seen any gay couples. they have the exact same problems as straight couples, If one of the partners mistreats or ignores their partner, they're gonna hear about it - doesn't matter if their gay or straight.
    • rhino369, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2I don't know about you, but I can't just decide to like *****.
  • ealderm, on 10/11/2007, -3/+11This is often true, but could it be a tendency to pick the battles differently? Guys (in my experience) usually don't start a row unless it is crucial (money, fidelity, std test). On the other hand, the fairer sex (in cases where arguments are frequent and public) usually start fights they already know they will win. Quite a good tactic, ever since the new Girl Scout handbook included a Sun Tzu section.
  • akatherder, on 10/11/2007, -2/+32I wear the pants in my marriage. I just called my wife and she told me so.
    • misterjangles, on 10/11/2007, -1/+6The wife dominates the marriage in the same way that a back-seat driver drives the car. You can choose to go against their instructions, but if you take a wrong turn or get stuck in traffic, you're gonna get bitched at for the next 3 hours!
  • lulieb, on 10/11/2007, -12/+2Keep this in mind the next time you think about Neocons. We're watching the behavior of the men. We're not looking at the behavior of the women. Why do the men do what they do?

    Power from below.

    Gangs can't survive without community support. It's more the "high hair" people that we have to talk to and ask if they have collectively lost their minds with the fix we're in politically.

    lulieb
    • cruxop, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2What the heck does this have to do with the article?
  • EmmSee, on 10/11/2007, -9/+6Buried as inaccurate. My pimp-hand is strong.
  • bjs3171, on 10/11/2007, -5/+9study: trees are made out of wood
  • TomT223, on 10/11/2007, -2/+15This is total BS. Women have no power over men! I don't know where they get this crap from. As soon as I finish doing the dishes and ironing my wife's clothes, I'm going to send them a nasty letter.
  • dankCIA, on 10/11/2007, -1/+19sex > winning stupid arguments
    • RazielX, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Unless you're a bastard, stupid arguments smack of unresolved issues. If you find that you are having a lot of them, maybe a counselor might be in order?
  • Teck64, on 10/11/2007, -4/+13We don't keep arguing with women, because they lack a little thing called "common sense".
    • CedEx, on 10/11/2007, -1/+4Husband: "You can't keep racking up the bills on the credit card. The mortgage payments come first."
      Wife: "But I love shopping."
      Husband: "I know, but necessities come before luxuries."
      Wife: "You don't love me. You think I'm fat."
      Husband: "ugh... WHAT?!"

      How do you win against that logic?
  • drakenlot, on 10/11/2007, -2/+3Next up on Obvious News, recent study says water is what oceans are filled with.

    This exciting story and more after a word from our sponsors.
  • mal1964, on 10/11/2007, -1/+10Feed us, lay us. and let us hold the remote for the tv and the rest is yours.
    • encognito, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Most men are so simple. Empty my balls, fill my belly, keep your mouth shut 80% of the time and 90% of men are putty in your hands. Why can't women get that trifecta right? Women seem to at best get 1/3 of the job done but demand 25-50 things from you.
  • john2kx, on 10/11/2007, -6/+13Women can walk all over me if that's what makes them happy, as long as I get to stick my ***** in them at the end of the day.
  • republicker, on 10/11/2007, -4/+6Please...................men just let women think they run the show so they dont have to put up with the stupid juvenile ***** women are always bitching about. I like it that way becasue I dont have to deal with ***** that i dont want to and she gets to feel important like most women want, even more than shoes.
    If men and women acted like they really wanted to in every relationship then there would be no men and women living together at all.
  • wonko33, on 10/11/2007, -0/+12Truth is most of the time I don't give a ***** about most of the stuff in the house. What color are the walls or where the damn furniture is. If there is something I care about then I wouldn't really call her the dominant member of the couple.

    I really don't understand why these things are so damn important to them though, but like some other dude said, if it keeps her off my back....
  • Brew, on 10/11/2007, -5/+5Any guy that has been in a long term relationship can attest to this. If you say otherwise you are lying to yourself.
  • Hetman, on 10/11/2007, -4/+14What happend to men? We have been pussified. It is horrible. I am all for equality but lets be honest with ourselfs here. Women want to be superior not equal. I cant wait to the day that there is an affectvie male birth control that doesnt require a vasectomy.
    • Wartyboskfapped, on 10/11/2007, -5/+2You want to go back to the days when men were dominant & treated women like chattels? That's foolish. Women do a better job of running the household. Fact.
      • ruthless34, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Stop giving your brain farts on Digg.
    • Wartyboskfapped, on 10/11/2007, -7/+1You want to go back to the days when men were dominant & treated women like chattels? That's foolish. Women do a better job of running the household. Fact.
    • Hetman, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3I did not say that. I said women want to be superiory to men and that is just wrong. I want my wife to work and share household responsibility with me. I dont want one I can boss around but I dont want one that is going to be whinning about me working to much etc.
      • encognito, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1The problem isn't that women WANT to be superior to men, the problem is women want to be treated as if they are superior without actually DOING what it takes to be superior. If a woman can consistently perform a task better than me, I have no problem acknowledging her superiority at that task. But if you just want me to kiss your ass in general just because you exist, you're SOL with me. Many a woman has been shown the door because she thought she had a brother on lock.
    • shark615, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Condoms?
    • Hetman, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3Condoms are good and I definatly would use them. But I would also like women like the added protection of taking some other form of contraceptive.
  • SanDaiFez, on 10/11/2007, -11/+4Weak men get married and get ruled by women.
    Strong men have sex with the wives of weak men.
    • republicker, on 10/11/2007, -3/+3I assume you have never had a pistol in your mouth................douchbag
    • Hetman, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2Im against cheating. However lets not blame this douchbag for anything. If your wife cheats on you it is because you are not satisfing her or she is a slut. Either way it has nothing to do with the man she is sleeping with.
      • SteelFrog, on 10/11/2007, -1/+1"Either way it has nothing to do with the man she is sleeping with."

        So, if I were to sleep with your girlfriend/wife, knowing full well that you are a couple, you wouldn't want to smack me around with a baseball bat? ...so, uh, can I have your number? And is your wife home by any chance?
      • RazielX, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3Couldn't it be that you're not satisfying her AND she is a slut?
      • Inverno, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2I wonder where the term "double homicide" was first used. Also, it takes two to tango.
      • Hetman, on 10/11/2007, -0/+4Would I be angry at the man. Yes I would. Would it be his fault my G/F "i dont have a wife" decided to take off her cloths, get into bed, and then let him screw her no. It would be her fault she could stop it at any moment she liked. And it is true she could be satisfied and a slut to boot.
    • millyuns, on 10/11/2007, -1/+0Sorry to hear about your wife!
  • minorthreat, on 10/11/2007, -10/+5well, I must say you guys are pussies...
    After my last relationship Im not taking anymore *****... I have a girlfriend now, but Im calling the shots on what matters to me. I will let her call a few when it doesn't matter.. Ever heard of chose your battles? *****, Im the one who makes the money, I'm the good guy who treats her great, Im the one who has been a successful person on his own. I'm not about to let some girl come in and boss me around. We need to keep the women in check. If she doesn't like it, she can go find some prick to follower her around. I like ass as much as the next guy, but in all honesty, I'll bring out the bottle of lotion before I trade everything I've accomplished on my own and just have some girl come in and tell me what to do with it.
    • civperc, on 10/11/2007, -2/+4Good luck with that, LOL
    • shark615, on 10/11/2007, -3/+5Internet tough guy. What are you 12, 13? Relationships are not about battles or wars they are about being together. If you have to battle with them maybe you need to get your head sorted and find someone else.
    • cmason35, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3I think you're missing his point. He isn't saying it's about a battle or not about being together, he's saying you need to decide what is important to you. What you're willing to compromise on and what you're not - then stick to it.

      If you are willing to allow other people to mistreat you - that's all you'll get. I.e. you can only be treated as poorly as you are willing to allow in a relationship.

    • misterjangles, on 10/11/2007, -2/+5I think you are just going from one extreme to the other. you shouldn't be a spineless wimp who gets pushed around. But, that doesn't mean you have to be an arrogant jackass either. A good relationship is a 2-way street. Sometimes you sacrifice and sometimes you get rewarded.
  • ORD2FRA, on 10/11/2007, -2/+2Reminds me of a line from Knocked Up: "Our biggest problem is that I'm not around her enough"
  • mexretroshore, on 10/11/2007, -3/+3This is news?
  • aknappjr, on 10/11/2007, -8/+1http://www.takeninhand.com/

    Interesting website.
  • civperc, on 10/11/2007, -3/+9Buried for not being news to any man who's been in a relationship, lol
  • slapthemonkey, on 10/11/2007, -0/+35"I haven't spoken to my wife in years. I didn't want to interrupt her."
    Rodney Dangerfield.
  • gerrycurl, on 10/11/2007, -9/+1pussies, i don't let any women run me, foo!
    • civperc, on 10/11/2007, -1/+2Riiiiiight, hehe
    • SteelFrog, on 10/11/2007, -2/+1That's easy when you've got no women to get run by.
      // that's right, I went there.
  • doctorperv, on 10/11/2007, -1/+1I would rather drink more beer than be in charge
  • postalblowfish7, on 10/11/2007, -2/+5all of my married friends are whipped little bitches. they don't even have control of the money they earn - they get 'allowances' basically from their wives. seams like sort of a sick institution to me.
    • vSuperLuminal, on 10/11/2007, -0/+4You are absolutely correct. Please remember that when you meet that one girl who, "Isn't like the rest of them.". When you meet her, you have met the ***** who will destroy every ounce of manhood that you once may have had. Run from that bitch...run from that bitch...don't look back...run, run, run from that bitch!
    • symguin, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2This is true in some cases. A lot of my male friends completely changed once they got married. Their wives do not work, spend most of their money, and STILL have so many things to complain about. There must be something very special about their wives... something that nobody else can see. I am in a relationship where things are mostly equal. I am in full control my money, and he is in full control of his. It's only fair. And for financial burdens to fall entirely on one person in a marriage or relationship is just silly to me.
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