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Single guy outsources to find dates
mercurynews.com — Think about it: Why should anyone spend hours embellishing his profile on Match.com when there are overseas contractors willing to handle the grunt work for him?
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- trghpy, on 10/12/2007, -17/+3I tried this...
All my dates would have been perfect for the contractor...
*rim shot*- twit987, on 10/12/2007, -1/+15awesome. you linked to a site that makes you register.
their marketing dept should be fired. they just turned away thousands of potential ad revenue. morons.- aceofspades, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1you could always try bugmenot.com
- twit987, on 10/12/2007, -1/+15awesome. you linked to a site that makes you register.
- getrealnow, on 10/12/2007, -12/+3"I only date one person at a time."
"Seems he'll have to choose. Unless, of course, he can hire someone to do it for him."
Or if you're a ninja you could pull it off and take all 4 of the women out to dinner...now what happens after is where it gets catchy. Now thats a real test!- t4ll3y, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5Someone's been watching cheesy sitcoms.
- somespecial, on 10/12/2007, -1/+49If the women search google for his name, this article may soon come up.
- Tamriel, on 10/12/2007, -0/+38That is exactly why I dugg this article.
- backjauer, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4you're probably right. he's probably cursing google and digg right now.
- Niten, on 10/12/2007, -4/+7And hopefully, as a result, he'll meet a girl cool enough to appreciate how innovative and enterprising her potential date is.
- dynamitehacker, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4RTFA: "He suggested the contractors say they were working on his behalf."
Doesn't matter if it turns up on Google or Digg since the women already knew he was doing it. In fact, he probably scored points for being creative and resourceful, and now he'll do even better from the attention.
- rappermas, on 10/12/2007, -2/+14Heh, digital pimp.
- DeskFlyer, on 10/12/2007, -3/+17What are these 'date' thingies?
- bicyclethief, on 10/12/2007, -3/+22Hate to be mean but...based on the merit of this idea, is it any wonder he's single?
- JohntB, on 10/12/2007, -5/+3Well, he's not single anymore...
- greenbeanz69, on 10/12/2007, -4/+9why oh why would you link to a site that requires registration.
thats stupid.- cr3ative, on 10/12/2007, -3/+12It worked fine here - article text if you want it:
Cassidy: Single guy outsources to find dates
Mercury News Columnist
Article Launched: 04/27/2007 01:35:23 AM PDT
It sounds like a bad beer commercial, but this is what the world of outsourcing has come to.
Tim Ferriss, a San Jose man who is a big believer in contracting out life's little tasks, has successfully outsourced his dating life.
Think about it: Why should anyone spend hours embellishing his profile on Match.com when there are overseas contractors willing to handle the grunt work for him?
"I've been experimenting quite a lot over the past two years or so with personal outsourcing," he says, "outsourcing your life."
Hey, it works for business.
It was only after careful reflection and deep thought that Ferriss turned his relationship spade work over to contractors. OK, actually he did it after a buddy bet him there was no way in the world dating could be outsourced.
"I decided as a social experiment," Ferriss says, "to see if I could pull it off."
Yes. A social experiment. And, um, a way to meet chicks.
After failing miserably at online love, Ferriss took buddy David Camarillo's bet. If Ferriss could land a date using contractors, Camarillo would buy him a glass of wine.
"That works out," Camarillo, 31, says, "because my mom works for Gallo."
Ferriss, who owns a San Jose nutritional supplements company, set out on a one-month mission to get a date. Call it inspiration from his new book "The 4-Hour Workweek" (Crown, $19.95), which is out this week. The premise: You can make better use of the time you have.
He started with a job description for a personal assistant to manage his dating life. He posted it on Elance, a Web site that connects freelancers with jobs.
It was all about eyeballs hunting for Ms. More-or-Less Right. And fingers e-mailing sweet nothings. A numbers game, he figured.
"With online dating, every reasonably attractive, smart girl gets a million e-mails," he says. Terrible odds. "If male programmers were my ideal match, I'd be set."
Ferriss lined up a half dozen teams in India, the Philippines, Jamaica and the United States.
Cultural divide
He gave the contractors his profile and an idea of what sort of woman he was interested in (early-to-mid 20s, college grad, slender or athletic, non-smoker, no kids).
He told the teams he was looking for quick "coffee dates" at joints along Lincoln Avenue. And he told them to handle all the pre-date correspondence (introduction, follow-up questions, requests for pictures).
He suggested the contractors say they were working on his behalf. And he urged them to be creative.
There were some problems.
An Indian team dropped out explaining they didn't really get the whole Western-style dating thing.
"In some culture groups in India," Ferriss says, "it's just not really done."
The woman in Jamaica quit.
"She didn't really like the idea of, as she put it, picking up chicks online."
Three out of four
One group was a little too creative, digging up their own information on Ferriss and using it to impersonate him in online conversations.
"Eventually, that moved from creativeness to creepiness."
I wanted to talk to some of Ferriss' potential dates, but he told me he couldn't convince any of the women still speaking to him to speak to me - if you can believe that.
But Ferriss swears the contractors delivered more than 20 dates and Camarillo says he'll pay up. And Ferriss says he'd like to continue seeing three or four of the women.
Which is another problem.
"I only date one person at a time."
Seems he'll have to choose. Unless, of course, he can hire someone to do it for him.
- cr3ative, on 10/12/2007, -3/+12It worked fine here - article text if you want it:
- Prince373, on 10/12/2007, -5/+2When they find this article, will the women be impressed or just really creeped out? I mean, yea he's kind of being a lazy jackass, but at least he's a CREATIVE lazy jackass. Maybe the same 2 or 3 girls who are into diggers will be into him too!
- navitatl, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4It said in the article that the contractors outright told the women that they were hired by him.
- CokeBear, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3I suspect that women might be attracted to a person who has the resources to contract out the search. This genetic attraction to resources (and the ability to acquire and maintain resources) should more then offset any negatives from this approach.
- eatmorgnome, on 10/12/2007, -6/+2This guy hasn't found a woman yet because his ultimate mate is himself
- johnnykalma, on 10/12/2007, -4/+4Ha Ha!
this may be the solution to all the members on digg who lack the social skills to actually talk to women - Jeifurie, on 10/12/2007, -9/+3I LIKE BOOBIES
- somespecial, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1He posted on his blog about this , and linked to digg :)
- timsline, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I seem to remember first impressions being the most exciting. Having someone else do it for you, is just pathetic.
- Boing, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1What a lazy bastard.
- saprian, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1Somehow I'm not surprised by this at all. I read in Freakonomics that online dating is a very frustrating, time consuming activity for most guys. Hell, I stumbled over a bot-program to customize emails to woman on online dating sites automatically the other day ...
- jdmce2002, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5HaHa handle the 'grunt' work for him? I thought that was the prize!
- starguy, on 10/12/2007, -4/+10Actually, women do get millons of emails, FROM OTHER WOMEN.
The problem you pathetic guys have, is not the statistics... those are irrelevant. The problem is there is absolutely nothing mysterious or interesting about you, and you have no clue how to play verbal tennis. Pick any girl out online, any one of them, I don't care who she is, and rip on her. Call her a brat, treat her like your bratty little sister, drive her absolutely bugnuts with your warped humor and behavior. Women lead flat out boring lives, and love drama. Dump her when you're not even dating, tell her she's fat, conceited, and you would never date her unless she lost 30 pounds, even though she's not fat at all, and she's never in her life asked you to date her. Put words into her mouth. Aggravate the hell out of her, become her arch enemy. None of this pussy foot stuff and profiles that say I like this and I like that. Nobody gives a ***** what you like. Live in the here and the now, your conflict and conversation with the otherperson needs to happen in real time. Don't put out a shingle and fish for a catch, instead, become the hunter, grab your shotgun, and go hunting for the beast. Become the animal, embrace your raw animal self. Look at dating not as some soupy happy emotional feeling you are search for, companionship, but some raw meaty earthy instinctual drive, to mate, or die trying.
If she hates you, guess what, you're now the center thing on her mind, every other possibility gets pushed out, and there's lots of emotion wrapped up in that. Women, like all people, are retarded, and hatred will flip to fascination and even love. Women love powerful men, and jerks, and just totally stupid guys they think they can control.
Here's my advice to all you pathetic geek whiners. Make a FEMALE PROFILE. Yeah, go under cover, become a female online, and you'll learn the flip side. Sign up to dating sites as a female, upload a chick pick, and then YOU BE THE ONE TO GET MILLIONS OF EMAILS. From guys, from girls, whatever, pick and chose. You'll learn a lot. You'll see how incredibly lame most of the profiles are out there, how boring and drab people are, and how pointless online dating, and dating at all is. Its basically a waste of your time. Do something more useful for this planet, rather than try to get sex, make soemone pregnant, and add even more people to this over populated world.
Women have no power in dating. You have all the power. If you fear rejection, reject them before they can even say hello to you. Its awesome fun. Don't be a powerless eye googling slave, instead, seek to outclass them like you outclass other combatants in your favorite online game. OUTDRESS THEM. Thats right. Dress better then them, before you even go into combat, so as you walk past any girl, you can think smugly to yourself "that's right, bitch!, I am so out of your league." If you can't do that, you can't outdress the hottest girl you will ever meet in combat, you have no business in combat.- alen3K, on 10/12/2007, -4/+5wtf ?
- Mahstah, on 10/12/2007, -1/+4Starguy has a few great points. My guess is that alen3k doesn't date much.
- AlfaWolph, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2Bravo.
- nutsackninja, on 10/12/2007, -1/+2Starguy, I've been telling my friends this for years, the worse you treat a girl the more she likes you.
Bottom line girls love jerks, nice nerds don't stand a chance. - quanta88, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4Most "nice" guys confuse "being a jerk" and "having self-confidence". There is a fine line sometimes.
It's not that nice guys finish last, but ones with low self-esteem or who are too quiet often do. - smartass007, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1@starguy: your theory, like all theories, works on some, bombs on others.
it's all a numbers game...if you're a jerk, be a jerk consistently with one female after another and you'll eventually find one that finds it sexy and appealing and you'll get a girlfriend, laid, a wife or whatever.
if you're a 'nice guy'...same story...approach the hell out of them every chance you get. so what if they 'reject you'? who the ***** are they? no one special. you usually just want their ***** anyway, you shallow bastards.
if you live in a city, get out on the streets...overcome your fear of looking strangers in the eye...approaching them and just 'talking'...after that, it's basically a piece of cake.
also, most importantly...it's a great big world out there...don't discount foreign women online...especially eastern europe...they can be super hot looking, and intelligent, and love sex, and they don't care if you're older than them or fat or bald or geeky...just don't beat them, have a decent job and a roof over your head and they'll take the next plane to come and be with you...it's called global trade, baby...work it!
- DooDooFace, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Slow news day, aren't there web site devoted to helping you with online dating? There's not even an interesting anecdote in this story.
- skimitar, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5I wonder if the contractors get to 'sample the goods', so to speak?
"Dear Sir,
We road tested three likely candidates, and unfortunately none of them met your rigorous performance standards as outlined in the contract. One objected to dealing with our three-man evaluation team simultaneously, one ran from the room when the yak and lubricant were produced and one, as it transpired, was a contractor engaged by a third party for similar reasons to yourself." - tanto, on 10/12/2007, -1/+1Internet has given a way reach to people across the worldwide. The speed of communication has beat limits of any technological change that has come about earlier. It has brought about a paradigm into picture that has changed the lives of millions all across.
http://orangtuamurid.info/blog/?p=215 - somespecial, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1Finding a date online is just a waste of time... Being nice in real life DOES WORK, if you are a natural a**, then I feel sorry for you. - maybe less mature women will like you. Of course, if you are immature, then it works, huh.
- nils, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1Let me get this straight. He is single and hopes by NOT making an effort he's going to change that? What a loser. I hope he never manages to reproduce. Dugg to alert potential dates to this guy's idiocy.
- mblair, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0"I wanted to talk to some of Ferriss' potential dates, but he told me he couldn't convince any of the women still speaking to him to speak to me - if you can believe that."
Yea, sure... But if they really exist, at least they were smart enough to stay anonymous. - veersite, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0"In Soviet Russia, dates outsource YOU!"
- carlyc, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I think first you should understand A relationship...wat is exactly in it, then go forward.
Chkeck out this:- http://friends-onlinedating.blogspot.com/ you will get a detail relationship discussion and advice here
further.... - niravmd, on 10/11/2007, -0/+0He should outsource the dating part too, only stepping in for sex!!!!
hmm...maybe he can outsource that part too!
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