digg

Facebook Connect Join Digg About

Using Compliments To Control Communication

lifehack.org — The word manipulation is a bit of a taboo, and is often thought of as an act that is devious or scandalous in nature. By manipulation, I mean the act of subtly directing a conversation towards your goals — it doesn’t have to be evil, wrong, etc.

Who dugg this? Made popular Nov 25, 2007

Digg DudeWhat is Digg?

Digg is a place for people to discover and share content from anywhere on the web. Digg surfaces the best stuff as submitted and voted on by the community. Take the Tour to learn more.

54 Comments

show profanity settings
expand all
  • itsmattgw, on 11/25/2007, -1/+28"If you compliment people on a skill that they have, they will be eager to show it off for you. "

    Nice breasts. *slap*
  • bralynn, on 11/25/2007, -3/+24I think anyone who diggs my comment is most likely incredibly good-looking.
  • romistrub, on 11/25/2007, -1/+16You make me happy, duggtodeath. We should buy me drinks sometime.
  • bickdigg, on 11/25/2007, -7/+22Don't flatter me, bro!
  • joefiro, on 11/25/2007, -3/+18Very good article Alex.
  • DiggzDE, on 11/25/2007, -1/+15Officer: You just killed that man!
    Me: Officer, did I ever tell you how well you wear that taser holster?
    Officer: Oh really? Well, I was just assigned it last week. I thought it looked good as well.
    Me: Of definitely, it really is slimming on you. Have you been working out lately?
    Officer: Yes I have! What a pleasant thing to say. I'm sorry to bother you, have a great day now and stay out of trouble.
  • duggtodeath, on 11/25/2007, -2/+14I feel you make excellent comments, joefiro, and I can relate to you.
  • TheOther1, on 11/25/2007, -1/+12They said skill. You should try something more like:
    The way you jiggle your ***** is amazing. I could watch them for hours. Can you do it some more?
  • breezytrees, on 11/25/2007, -0/+8reading this reminds me of my ex girlfriend, god what a manipulative bitch.
  • w3torg, on 11/25/2007, -1/+9I agree with joefiro. That's a great article that speaks to the nature of people and how you may benefit from it.
  • TheOther1, on 11/25/2007, -0/+7Like when they are trying to get you to do something so you just tell them to go ***** themselves?
  • Damian91, on 11/25/2007, -1/+8I felt your reply to his reply was quite astonishing.
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -0/+7I deal with phony people who use these communication tactics all the time. I generally like to turn the tables and provide a response that's the exact opposite to the one they're expecting.
  • shiftt, on 11/25/2007, -1/+7Anyone who is truly interested in bettering their communication skills should read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
  • CommentPoster, on 11/25/2007, -0/+6This thread is turning out to be quite magnificient. Excellent job joefiro, duggtodeath, romistrub, and Damian91.
  • pumpedvideo, on 11/25/2007, -1/+7Once i found a friend reading a book about the same subject. After that i found out i can't trust his word anymore....
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -3/+9"NICE *****, I'D LIKE TO BANG YOUR ASS SO HARD THAT ***** COMES OUT YOUR MOUTH."

    That one pretty much controls the conversation.
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -1/+5Tell me more.
  • clark24, on 11/25/2007, -0/+3Works every time!
  • zatrix, on 11/25/2007, -0/+3Sure would be nice if he had referenced some of these books that he "read".
  • TheOther1, on 11/25/2007, -0/+3Works 60% of the time, all of time.
  • gmiley, on 11/25/2007, -0/+3Pfft that's now now it's done, it would be more like this:

    "Have I ever mentioned that I am very impressed with your ability to digg posts up? Every time I read these threads I am just amazed at the accuracy in which you express your approval or appreciation of someones input by clicking the thumbs-up button over there."
  • anjamerret, on 11/25/2007, -1/+4Nice way of dealing with people and getting stuff done.
  • BossKey, on 11/25/2007, -0/+3Nice restaurant you got here.

    Be a shame if something happened to it...
  • freelio, on 11/25/2007, -2/+4Great article, reminds me a lot of the book how to win friends and influence others. Great advice for anyone.
  • Lane, on 11/25/2007, -0/+2Come now, manipulation is key to most of life. No need to call it evil, we've all seen reality TV. it's nearly vomit inducing but its the way of things...
  • Markpdotcom, on 11/25/2007, -0/+2NLP FTW!
  • trebe, on 11/25/2007, -3/+5these techniques aren't obvious at all...

    "You stole this from me didn't you?!"
    "uh... no... but you look are looking good today."
  • Lewie, on 11/25/2007, -0/+2Thank you.
  • xptoast, on 11/25/2007, -3/+5You: Well thank you officer.
    Officer: You're welcome. Wait a second what is that book you are reading? "How to manipulate your way through life"
    You: Hey officer look over there.
    Officer: Where? *looks away*
    You: *runs like hell*
    Officer: Wait you forgot your book.
    You: Well thank you officer.
    Officer: *catches up to you and acts like he is going to give the book back but instead beats the living ***** out of your coniving ass*
  • BossKey, on 11/25/2007, -0/+2"Mmmm..Yeah. You see, we're putting the coversheets on all TPS reports now before they go out. Did you see the memo about this? Yeeahhh. If you could just go ahead and make sure you do that from now on, that will be great."
  • GoldMaster, on 11/26/2007, -0/+2I liked the article… It was very interesting and gave me something to think about.
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -0/+2The effect falls off drastically on subjects with normal IQs.
  • mal1964, on 11/25/2007, -0/+1A natural leader will ask directly what they need and get better results, because a clear adjective gets a clear result.
  • Tiesto, on 11/25/2007, -1/+2Already read it BITCH!
    It works.
  • KingGorilla, on 11/25/2007, -0/+1I like this conversation so much I think we should just end it where it is
  • KingGorilla, on 11/25/2007, -0/+1haha! you can't use that tactic on me! I believe the next step would for me to say... Go ***** Yourself!!!!
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -0/+1"breezytrees" you're so good at not having sex and giving me money.
  • 1tb0y, on 11/25/2007, -0/+1This is a great article, to show you the language and verbal techniques used by hucksters and sales folks to try to get you to buy their crap.

    Be wary, folks.
  • inactive, on 11/26/2007, -0/+1"Flattery will get you everywhere."? Try that with me and you'll lose any respect I had for you - for ETERNITY. Some people are actually smart, so be careful.
  • breezytrees, on 11/26/2007, -0/+0Officer: **catches up to you and acts like he is going to give the book back but instead **tazes you**
  • lysdexia, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1I'm kind of shocked by these revelations - the guy is suggesting that being nice to people helps more often than not?

    Wow...
  • VieRelative, on 11/25/2007, -0/+0omgwthlol, he'll never reply to that, here's how you do it:
    "Nice post, short and to the point. But I'm still curious, what did she do?"
  • Der_Eckinator, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1***** you Frank Luntz!
  • clark24, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1All of the Carnegie books are a good read.
  • AnthoMacP, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1You all crack me up, you're all quite funny
  • xptoast, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1I almost fell off my chair when I read that comment. Simple funnyness makes me laugh a lot.

    PS> Go screw yourself grammer nazis. I have a vendetta against all of you to make the most ridiculous mistakes just to piss you off.
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -1/+1ALEX
  • inactive, on 11/25/2007, -0/+0You're hands are so soft and velvety...
  • Fetching more discussions...
    Show 51 - 54 of 54 discussions

  • Add a Comment

    Login or register to comment!
    Or, sign-in super fast with your Facebook account ...

© Digg Inc. 2009 — Content created and posted by Digg users is dedicated to the public domain | Terms of Use Updated | Privacy Policy
DIGG, DIGG IT, DUGG, DIGG THIS, Digg graphics, logos, designs, page headers, button icons, scripts, and other service names are the trademarks of Digg Inc.