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- RuffRidr, on 10/29/2007, -4/+32A father is absolutely critical to the raising of a child. I think society as a whole has reflected this somewhat with the recent failings of the family structure.
- iNunchuk, on 10/28/2007, -3/+24Tip 8: Give your kids a bandwidth pipe large enough so that his/her website doesn't go down after 65 Freakin Diggs.
- IEatBrains, on 10/30/2007, -2/+16This isn't a conservative / liberal issue. Children needs parents, whether they be men or women. If you pluralized mother to mothers, I would understand, but I have to disagree with you on the issue that single parents can raise children as well as partners. Poverty is not the base-line for causing problems, and that is a general fallacy attributed by the public (and mostly politicians). The primary cause is lack of generic social cohesion, which can be caused by poor supervision on growing children, as the largest demographic of criminal activity exists in the 16-22 age-group. A child isn't necessarily doomed, but their -- opportunity, both economically and socially drops like a rock with a single parent. There are exceptional cases, and I understand that -- but if you want to raise a child -- you shouldn't stake your child's future.
- RobynG7, on 10/30/2007, -0/+13Your short, retarded comment demands one too.
- inactive, on 10/27/2007, -2/+15I think I've got 5 out of the 7. I need to work on improving the other 2.
- captinherb, on 10/27/2007, -6/+18Psh, I'm letting TV and the internet raise my kids
- rnwen2750, on 10/26/2007, -1/+11Kudos on admitting you lack some of the habits and props for working on improving.
- john570, on 10/27/2007, -0/+10And if the mother wants to use the totally skewed US court system to take away the kid's then its all over.
- piratearggghhh, on 10/26/2007, -0/+10I would add be honest. Kids can and have detected *****. I don't mean share everything but it's important to be truthful.
- Xolotl2, on 10/26/2007, -2/+10Tubgirl taught me more than school ever did.
- notque, on 10/26/2007, -0/+8Love your children. Spend quality time with them. Help them understand the world. Don't over think it.
- Grumps, on 10/26/2007, -1/+9Dugg because i have a bad dad.
0 out of 7 - Error601, on 10/27/2007, -0/+7That is the proper form. If the context is unspecific...use the male form.
- doctorfungi, on 10/26/2007, -1/+7Brainwashing a child is no way to raise it.
- Gorebus, on 10/27/2007, -9/+14***** your feminist/lesbian *****, a mother is only half the equation
- yomamaisfat, on 10/26/2007, -2/+7Denying the baby's yours didn't make the list? I got to stop watching Maury.
- sacherjj, on 10/26/2007, -0/+5Make sure to do all you can to break the chain. Be the exact opposite if that is what is required.
- thailand1972, on 10/28/2007, -2/+7You can't do 1-7 if you married a woman who doesn't believe in these points - either because you're not allowed to see your kids (post divorce, separation) or she acts as a gatekeeper to them in the family and you end up being a "yes, dear" type of guy.
- thenativeraver, on 10/26/2007, -3/+8Tubgirl FTW!
- IEatBrains, on 10/26/2007, -2/+6Calling a child "it" is no way to treat him/her, unless your children are genderless/non-human.
- photoguy416, on 10/27/2007, -0/+4With sexy lingerie, chocolate, candles and Barry White? That would just be weird for the kids I think
- Stettenbauer, on 10/30/2007, -0/+4What makes a man any less of a parent because of his gender?...and how did this turn into a party issue?...and money has nothing to do with causing "bad outcome"kids.(Yes,of course it helps)Children thrive when they know that they are loved and secure .A man can do that too .I should know ,I have been raising my son myself for the past 5 years (he is 9)..You sound like Digg's Rosie O Donald .
- jaytea90, on 10/26/2007, -2/+6can you be my father?
- joshmoney, on 10/30/2007, -1/+5Its really annoying that people try to turn this into a conservative/liberal issue. I consider myself quite liberal on very many issues and still agree that having a loving mother and father is the "optimum" situation for a child. This isn't to say that they can't be raised by a single parent or two people of the same sex, but from a strictly evolutionary standpoint it would make sense that having a loving mother and father would have the most positive impact since this is the only biological structure that has produced human offspring since the beginning of our existence...
- robberry, on 10/26/2007, -0/+4If you're new to the internet and don't know what Tubgirl is, please, for the love of God and your own sanity, don't google it. Just... don't.
- KMitchell, on 10/26/2007, -0/+3I'd suggest you go back and re-read the article. At a quick count, I only saw two "him"s and one he (which was in the same sentence as one of the "him"s) If you want to write exclusively gender-fair, knock yourself out. The fact that the author didn't pluralize the pronouns EVERY time seems innocent to me.
- goofyroo, on 10/27/2007, -0/+3Every language on Earth defaults to the masculine pronoun when sex is unknown or irrelevant. Nothing weird about it, unless PC language police have corrupted one's learning.
- intense321, on 10/29/2007, -0/+3I do all 7 of these things, but my kids still dislike me. :(
- Birdoftruth, on 10/26/2007, -0/+3than don't have children because why make someone else a failure a long with you?
- Intangible360, on 10/26/2007, -0/+3I'm fairly sure that is a legal universal, unfortunately.
- Intangible360, on 10/26/2007, -1/+4Every child is a thing, and when you are making a gender neutral statement saying "it" is perfectly acceptable, although it does seem to have been somehow stigmatized.
- deknmike, on 10/26/2007, -0/+2#8 - Don't work 10 hours a day, so you can be home to help with homework, and be there for supper conversation, and tuck them in at night, and listen (without trying to solve every problem) when they complain, and give lots of hugs.
It's not easy to follow all these - hard work - but I'm working on it. - IHaveIssues, on 10/26/2007, -0/+2I think the list is indeed intended for parents who are married.
- sacherjj, on 10/26/2007, -1/+3I believe this is either a carry over of historical uses of his or him for gender neutral/unknown, or more likely that the author was thinking in terms of father/son interaction. In the second case, I agree that it seems to be an issue.
- goofyroo, on 10/26/2007, -0/+2"...ways to create a problem teenager...."
My favorite is asking a child a question when only one answer is acceptable.
E.g., "Are you ready to go?" (Which actually means, "We're going," but the child doesn't know that.)
Then the child honestly responds with "No."
And the parent says "We're going, anyway."
Later, parents wonder why their teenagers say, "My parents don't listen to me." Well, it started a long time ago.... - Pake, on 10/27/2007, -0/+2I want to stab people every time I see "7 Habits of..." ***** Stephen Covey and his self-help books.
- fbeecher, on 10/27/2007, -1/+3I'm very happy to see this posted to Digg. I'm a new dad, and when I search for stuff about being a dad on the Web, there's crap out there. Moms get all the attention. Ever read Babycenter? I don't think they get that it's not just moms coming to that site. Anyway, I'm glad to see something worthwhile and positive for fathers.
- tHePeOPle, on 10/26/2007, -0/+2I wish you were lying... but sadly, this is true for me as well. Some things you simply can't unsee, and tubgirl is one of them.
- counterplex, on 10/26/2007, -0/+1:-( I'm sure she doesn't feel good about her capabilities as a mother either. Your family should look into counseling since there could be a number of issues causing this including problems between your parents, some issues with her that affect her thinking, jealousy of you and your sister, etc. It's never too late to work on it.
- flashingcurser, on 10/26/2007, -0/+1The trick is to balance burdening children with adult problems and truth.
- platypibri, on 10/27/2007, -0/+1OK, just a little blog spam. growingupdad.blogspot.com. Just me and my 5 month old (and brief appearance from a 15 y/o step son), if your interested.
- bizchris, on 10/26/2007, -0/+1Yeah I had a problem with that one. I would have loved to be more involved in the problems my parents were trying to solve, and potential solutions that I might use later in life. Bill payments, questioning what you're working so hard for if you can never take vacations, if you should stay in a career you're not passionate about... all sorts of issues I would have loved to get a jump on.
- dlm85, on 10/26/2007, -0/+1These are all common sense. Most of the people looking for advice from this list are a little too late. Parenting is a long process that starts at birth. A father's actions early in a child's life will impact the child later. Once a parent does something to create a defective child it is very hard to fix the problem. I have seen so many kids who were victims of their parents run into big problems when they got older. Spoiling a child, thinking a child is perfect, not letting a child have an opinion, and mostly, sheltering a child are ways to create a problem teenager.
As a father, I know what I am supposed to do. People who need to read this list for advice should have really considered not having children. - Birdoftruth, on 10/26/2007, -0/+1yea
- robberry, on 10/26/2007, -1/+2I agree. If you never allow children to see you when you're stressed, they'll have no model for dealing with stress themselves when they grow up. Instead, let them see that you're stressed, *and* let them see you dealing with your stress in a healthy and productive manner. That way, when they grow up, they'll know how to handle stress in a positive way. (Of course, this means you need to know how to deal with stress productively, so if you don't know how already, it's time to learn.)
I would add that the same principle applies to arguing with your wife. Many couples try to hide their fights completely from their children. A better approach is to let them see you fighting, but to make sure that the fighting is done in a respectful, healthy manner. Let them see that even when you and your wife disagree strongly, you don't resort to insults (let alone physical violence) or yelling or emotional manipulation. When you do slip up and yell, let them see you apologize. If you and your wife reach a compromise, let them see the process by which that happened. If you realize you're in the wrong, let them see you admit it. And if your wife admits to being in the wrong (hey, it could happen!) let them see you being graceful about it. By doing so, you offer them a model of the right way to argue, which they will carry with them into their own marriages. - platypibri, on 10/27/2007, -0/+1Uuum, not to sure I agree. I think the stability of mom and dad is more important than the lesson they might learn from your relationship. At least early on.
- encognito, on 10/27/2007, -0/+1What part of "His work is never-ending and, oftentimes, thankless" didn't you understand?
- encognito, on 10/27/2007, -0/+1What part of "His work is never-ending and, oftentimes, thankless" didn't you understand?
- life38, on 04/11/2008, -0/+1Get your children involved in your work. The job does not have to be the evil thing that takes their parent away from them. Here are mine blogging with me. They just love it.
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