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- scallon, on 11/27/2007, -6/+24Can we not have every story on digg become a political slug fest between the conservatives and the liberals?
- shaka999, on 11/27/2007, -4/+16Fight the troll....don't give in.....
- Frei, on 11/27/2007, -4/+16Are you suggesting your comment had no political tone to it? Lets not play that game.
- inkyblue2, on 11/27/2007, -3/+13gotta love someone who starts an argument and then protests, "but it's not an argument! i'm just right and you're wrong!"
plenty of people disagree with you, and you know that. therefore you are starting an argument. (or rather, trying to start an argument and failing, looking at your digg count.) - purag66, on 05/13/2009, -2/+12out of curiosity, was her ex-bf black? in the 60s? I wonder how the nursing staff reacted when the daughter was born. Anybody else think of the race dynamics in play? Did the author's parents know who the father was?
- adml_shake, on 11/27/2007, -0/+8I wondered that too, I was born to similar circumstances (my mother being a teen when she had me) but my father and mother were white, I know my grandmother had the old school outlook on black americans. I don't even want to know what would have happened to me if that had been the case.
- Y0tsuya, on 11/27/2007, -0/+8I don't think the point of the article was whether to choose between abortion or adoption, it's whether to keep the infant. She's thinking maybe things would turn out better if she was allowed to keep and raise the baby. However, statistically speaking, being an unemployable teen mother, the best she could have done was live on welfare checks and struggle to make ends meet, because it's hard to complete schooling and learn a well-paying trade while also raising a child. She most probably would not be the accomplished writer she is today. Things would be better if there was a family support structure, but even her parents aren't going to breastfeed her baby for her. Taking care of an infant is a full-time job, 24/7, that leaves little time for other pursuits.
It's OK to feel regret at past decisions (by people deciding for her to give up the baby, and by her deciding to have sex and get pregnant). But those experiences and decisions made her the person she is today. It's better if she makes peace with that than to keep pining for what might have been. - inkyblue2, on 11/27/2007, -3/+10nobody ever "pushes" abortion. that is a disgustingly twisted presentation of the situation. pro-choice means exactly that: everyone should have a choice. no one should ever be *forced* to make decisions about what to do with their pregnancy against their own will.
- sircomix, on 11/27/2007, -1/+7Interesting story- I'd have liked to hear more.
- skinjob1, on 11/27/2007, -3/+9He is a coward and a racist. After he is done regurgitating what others told him to say about abortion, the talk of race wars and white supremacy is soon to follow. American education at its best.
- adml_shake, on 11/27/2007, -1/+6That really wasn't a story as much as it was the author telling her feelings at seeing her daughter for the first time. Still, good read.
- mstoneburner, on 11/27/2007, -0/+3I can't even imagine meeting my biological mother. I mean, what would we talk about? "So, son, what's been going on for the past 37 years?" I even found out her name and where she lives and works but seriously: No Thanks.
- Deputy_Doodah, on 11/27/2007, -1/+3Do those of you digging Red down think that she should have aborted the woman instead?
- MadSquirrel, on 11/27/2007, -1/+2"maybe things would turn out better" - Do people not understand that these headlines are becoming too common:
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,313001,00.html - inactive, on 11/27/2007, -0/+1Seems cut off after the picture. Like she was going to say more but it got edited out.
- inkyblue2, on 11/28/2007, -1/+2oh yeah, i forgot about all those poor murdered potential people. *****, i just murdered about 200 million of them a bit ago. i'm such a bastard.
(yes, i know that gametes are different than zygotes and fetuses. also, *you* know that the "personhood" of a fetus is a subject of disagreement and that your comment is yet another example of avoiding discussion and patting yourself on the back.) - krellor, on 11/27/2007, -7/+8Does every article relating to children need to have the abortion topic dragged into it? Give it a rest people.
- inkyblue2, on 11/28/2007, -0/+1wow. those counselors *are* evil, or at the very best seriously misguided. i agree with them not automatically trusting the man in the situation, but they have no right to push her toward making any particular decision. i hope you wrote something to them or complained in some way. that is NOT what planned parenthood is about-- those people were in the wrong.
- inkyblue2, on 11/27/2007, -4/+5no. not good for her. clearly, it was bad for her. this is not a story that would go into the "benefits of choosing adoption" brochure. it's a pretty good example of some *negative* factors about adoption that get weighed in a person's decision between abortion, adoption, and keeping a child.
if you're going to choose a moment to pat yourself on your back for your own personal moral choices, you'd think it would make more sense to do so at a time that *doesn't* highlight the fact that they can lead to serious negative consequences. - henro112358, on 11/27/2007, -3/+4I'll digg you up shaka, even if I do disagree.
- bigjoeystud, on 11/27/2007, -0/+1One of my friends had the same attitude you did about finding his birth parents. Finally, he got married and they wanted to have kids, so a bio check would be useful. Long story short, the birth parents were so overjoyed at finally reuniting with their long lost son. Not only that, they had been looking for him since he turned 18 and he is now the same age you are. There was a story there and they wanted him to hear it. You might be surprised so I hope you change your mind and try to talk to them. Good luck!
- henro112358, on 11/27/2007, -3/+4She didn't really HAVE a choice Y0. Theres tons of info about this, and the homes these girls were sent to to give birth all over the interweb.
- mahdaeng, on 11/27/2007, -1/+2[[She's thinking maybe things would turn out better if she was allowed to keep and raise the baby. However, statistically speaking, being an unemployable teen mother, the best she could have done was live on welfare checks and struggle to make ends meet, because it's hard to complete schooling and learn a well-paying trade while also raising a child.]]
Exactly! No teen is ready to be a parent, and certainly not ready to be a good one. - mahdaeng, on 11/27/2007, -1/+1Funny - this is getting dugg down, but no one is pointing out any problems with the statements. Use reason, people, not just emotion.
- mstoneburner, on 11/27/2007, -5/+5Well, clearly, it may have been bad for her, but it sure worked out well for her daughter. You know the one I'm talking about : the one that wasn't murdered in utero.
- mahdaeng, on 11/27/2007, -2/+2[[She didn't really HAVE a choice Y0.]]
You're kidding right? She had a choice whether or not to go to one of those "homes" (although, in my opinion, it was the right choice to go to one). She also had a choice whether or not to get pregnant as a teen. She wasn't raped, after all. - burdalane, on 11/27/2007, -2/+1Giving up a child for adoption sounds like a good deal. Someone else does all the work for you. You might wonder at some point whether you should have done the work yourself, or whether you missed out, but at the end of the day, less work is better than more work, unless it's something you really wanted to do anyway.
- xatrak, on 11/27/2007, -5/+4Your dad should have pulled out early.
- FreddieFalcon, on 11/27/2007, -3/+2I will digg you up as well. It is your opinion and you said it without malice for the other side. But to krellor's point, this isn't a story about abortion. It is about the anguish of giving up your child for adoption. That is also a valid viewpoint regardless of your views on abortion or choice or whatever.
- Deputy_Doodah, on 11/27/2007, -5/+4Planned parenthood does. I dealt with them once.
I got my girlfriend pregnant, and being naive we went to Planned Parenthood to find out how what our options were for adoption. They didn't want to hear it. In fact they took my girlfriend into a separate room to talk to her because they assumed that being a man, I was controlling her. They gave her a hard-sell on abortion and tried to convince her not to do "that man out there" wants, but to stand up for her "right to choose". They were so insistent on it that they even went ahead and scheduled an appointment as she was protesting it. Those people wanted an abortion really bad.
Eventually she ran back out to where I was, crying, and begging me to get her out of there. The planned parenthood women were glaring at me as if I were Satan or something. To make a long story short, we decided not to give up the baby, and we got married shortly before it was born. My son is now 20 and he's in college. Sometimes I still have dreams about what those evil women wanted to do to him.
Planned Parenthood is evil. I've seen it. - mahdaeng, on 11/27/2007, -4/+2Here we go...
FTA: [[During those years, a birth mother was considered not much more than a wayward slattern who not only didn’t deserve a child, but any rights or consideration.]]
Um, a *teen* mother does NOT deserve a child. Or better yet: a child deserves more than a teen mother.
FTA: [[I had been assured that my child would be adopted by “professionals” — a doctor or lawyer — in contrast to my middling status: a 16-year-old-high schooler who had yet to write a check. The message was clear; there were no other options. Anyone would have been a better mother than me.]]
Oh, poor you! The big bad powers that be took away your baby and to place her in a home that would offer her much more than you could. If you truly loved her, you would have desired that very same thing for her. Your whining is nauseatingly selfish.
FTA: [[The first day I saw her, walking across an airport floor, was when my labor was finally completed. There she was — a beautiful Ph.D.]]
Exactly. Could she have become a Ph.D. with you as her teen mother? Could you have become a successful writer? Maybe, but probably not. You did the wrong thing by getting pregnant as an unwed teen. You did the right thing by giving your baby to more responsible and capable people.
Despite your mistakes, it appears that things have turned out well for all involved. Quit whining. - banmaster, on 11/27/2007, -5/+3Yep, coat hangers at 10 paces!!
- skinjob1, on 11/27/2007, -7/+5And if your mom had any sense.....
- FreddieFalcon, on 11/27/2007, -4/+2Nicely said, inkyblue. Even if the first reply wasn't terribly respectful.
- FreddieFalcon, on 11/27/2007, -6/+3He didn't come in either for abortion or against it. Why are you calling him names? Express your opinion but be respectful.
- inactive, on 11/27/2007, -5/+2Let me see if I can help...
- objectcode, on 11/27/2007, -6/+2yeeeehaaaaaw
- objectcode, on 11/27/2007, -6/+1durn durn durn durn durn durn durn durn
- shaka776, on 11/27/2007, -17/+11And reunions like this don't happen with abortions...
..I can't even imagine how far I'm going to get dugg down... - inactive, on 11/27/2007, -15/+4Yea, and there are thousands and thousands that'll never get to see those that they aborted. And yet, even after the guilt and depression these women suffer, those on the left will continue to push abortion. It is after all, birth control of a non-viable tissue mass.
- inactive, on 11/27/2007, -24/+4Sure. So why did you bring it up?
There's nothing political about giving up a baby for adoption rather than killing it, dumbass. - inactive, on 11/27/2007, -41/+10Good for her (and the kid....and grandkid) that she didn't "exercise her right to choose" and kill it. Of course Planned Parenthood wasn't recruiting back then.
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