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- ThankTheCheese, on 08/06/2008, -2/+108Come out to [club name] with us!
Nah I'm cool.
Come out!
nah.
come on!
No I'm just gonna rent a movie, might ask some mates over. Not sure.
but why don't you want to come out?
Cos I'd rather watch a movie.
...
...
Why don't you want to come out?!
...and so on. ***** extraverts. They're also known for the whole "why aren't you drinking? come on drink! why wouldn't you want to drink? Just catch a taxi and get your car tomorrow! come on..." - DeskFlyer, on 08/05/2008, -1/+99LEAVE ME ALONE
- jeremyduffy, on 08/05/2008, -4/+82Being painfully socially adverse (commonly mistaken for introversion) IS a bad thing and should be cured in most cases. These are the people who you say "hello" to and they look away and ignore you, not because they're rude or snobby, but because they don't know what to do.
However, introversion itself (as the article says), is not a bad thing. I'm the most extraverted person you'll meet... so you'd think by talking to me. But despite the fact that I love working with people, I teach classes, seminars, and many other things that involves being outgoing and the focus of attention, I'm a classic introvert. I relax in solitude and silence, not in crowds. - eastcoast, on 08/05/2008, -1/+77"When an extravert sees you reading, writing, or maybe just thinking, they might assume that the only reason you’d do this is because you don’t have someone to talk to. So they think they’re doing you a favor by striking up a conversation, when they’re actually interrupting."
Oh, do I know the feeling. Extroverts with go to any measure to interrupt anything you are doing, including trying to work, just to have someone to talk to... good essay! - MattNF, on 08/06/2008, -0/+48LEAVE ME ALONE THE *****
- brentinkc, on 08/06/2008, -1/+44you forgot "THE *****"
- inactive, on 08/06/2008, -1/+26LEAVE DESKFLYER ALONE!!!
- shawn1122, on 08/06/2008, -0/+24This is so true, some of them even go as far as feeling bad for you and thinking you're a loner/you aren't friends with anyone. Seriously, some people just like their alone time a lot and have a smaller group of friends, that doesn't mean they are any less human or intelligent than you are..
- phillykid162, on 08/06/2008, -0/+23Are you sure we don't have the same friends?
- JizzyPal, on 08/06/2008, -1/+24I don't know why you would add the piece of information when you think extroverts are stupid and primal.
The article said that 30% of the population consists of introverts. Statistics are always off by a bit, but I am led to believe that what you meant to say was 60% of geniuses are introverts. - SeaFour, on 08/06/2008, -0/+20 I wish I could give you 10 diggs for that, Cheese. Story of my life...
- elizabethb221, on 08/06/2008, -0/+18I am such an introvert and the battery draining during a conversation is a perfect way to describe it.
This article is helpful, especially since I'm spending the week with my extremely extraverted mother. - UtahApocalyse, on 08/06/2008, -3/+19I hate everyone. Go Away
- simplistics06, on 08/06/2008, -2/+18O hi there deskflyer hows your day going today? You seem sad, did something happen? My cousin sally used to act sad all the time you just need to cheer up.
- aquireworth, on 08/05/2008, -1/+16I'm an exintro - I used to be very introverted but now I've found a good balance between being an introvert and an extrovert. I love being around a crowd, but every once and awhile I need to hide away.
- Biller13, on 08/06/2008, -1/+16Exactly right, being introverted by nature just means you enjoy solitude to some extent. If you say hello to an introvert they will say hello right back. Introversion is not the same as some social disorders.
- brentinkc, on 08/06/2008, -0/+14I think a lot of us introverts get mistaken as *****. I'm not a mean guy, I just don't give a ***** about what the bridesmaids wore at your cousin's wedding. STFU already.
- nowisnothing, on 08/06/2008, -0/+14As a socially adept introvert, I commonly come off as a 'snob' or 'an *****'. This article explains the reasons pretty well.
- headzoo, on 08/06/2008, -1/+14Booze makes everyone an extrovert. The reason it's been so popular for thousands of years.
- Klonopin, on 08/06/2008, -1/+12Ambiversion is where it's at baby!!!
- WoollyMittens, on 08/06/2008, -0/+11I'm a shy introvert person whom likes to brood over his work. They put me next to a goddamn rodeo clown. It's not so much draining as it is freeze-drying me.
- headzoo, on 08/06/2008, -1/+12"When an extravert sees you reading, writing, or maybe just thinking, they might assume that the only reason you’d do this is because you don’t have someone to talk to. So they think they’re doing you a favor by striking up a conversation, when they’re actually interrupting."
That's the story of my life right there.
"No matter how fabulous a person you are, keep in mind that introverts simply prefer their internal world to the external world. They might start off with a fully charged battery, but while they’re engaged in conversation, that battery is steadily draining."
I've tried to explain to extroverted people how I feel "drained" after too much time dealing with people, but I don't think they get it. - angelfelix, on 08/06/2008, -0/+11It just seems that extroverts are very simple people, the things they spend their time thinking on are really meaningless or worthless.
- WoollyMittens, on 08/06/2008, -0/+10Nobody wants to "get" it. Everyone always assumes they are "normal" and you need to rise to their standards, using the "you should just..." argument.
- bagboyrebel, on 08/06/2008, -0/+10Exactly right, some people just can't seem to realize that other people might have a different idea of how to enjoy themselves.
- vulpoi, on 08/05/2008, -7/+17Introverts are not bad, in fact, some of them are smarter than many extroverts. My best friend is part of the first category, and he's just brilliant. Intelligence should be put first; it doesn't really matter how outgoing is that person. That's the way I see it.
- jtbell04, on 08/06/2008, -0/+9Yeah, ***** you, context!
- pugs909, on 08/06/2008, -0/+9maybe you're just a narcissist
- Mistaxe, on 08/06/2008, -4/+13A balance between introversion and extraversion is essential to normal human operation. For the longest time I was your classic deep introvert and, once out of high school and in college for a year or so, I realized I needed to interact with others or i was going to lose my mind. I started attempting to talk to people and attempting to start conversations and getting to know all the interesting people that you can meet in the world.
I still love a few hours to myself every night or even an entire day or weekend to myself to "recharge" so-to-speak, but I also love getting out there and meeting all of the interesting individuals that inhabit this planet. There's nothing more rewarding than that. - kenplaysviola, on 08/06/2008, -0/+8What I notice is that everyone loves the extraverts. They are fun to be around, have the social energy, and have an easier time. Because of this, they are the ones that can create good first impressions for dating, job interviews, and networking. I know that when I go out to happy hour or parties with people, I just can't create the attention or energy as the extraverts, and I end up drained.
I also notice that my company hires people based on personality rather than skill, and all you need to do is sell your personality. - brentinkc, on 08/06/2008, -0/+8Here's the thing though...introverts tend to be smarter. You can train yourself to fake the first impression. Work on the fake smile and have a few red bulls.
- bagboyrebel, on 08/06/2008, -0/+8out of all the articles on digg this is the one you choose to complain about?
- havok1977, on 08/06/2008, -0/+8Why do people mistake introversion for seriousness?
I believe that i have been an introvert m entire life and will continue this way until i reach the end of the line, i have no desire or see the need to make a change in this particular area. I have made great relationships with friends and family over the years and while they know me well enough to not make that wrong conclusion; a lot of others seem to think of how i function as being overly serious...
I hope many more people would read this article, and get a clue on whats really going on. - drgmdp, on 08/06/2008, -1/+9i kinda enjoy extraverts thinking i'm a snob or an *****
i think of them as stupid kids begging for attention - BertEatsDirt, on 08/06/2008, -0/+8Another great article about introversion/extraversion is "Caring for your Introvert" - http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch. Until I read this article I thought that because I didn't talk much etc I had terrible social skills, and beat myself up something shocking over it. Once I read this article & learnt about this thing called "introversion" I realised that there was nothing wrong with me, that I was completely normal & was born this way, I accepted myself as I was, stopped beating myself up and my mental wellbeing has improved considerably, to the point where I can't remember why I made such a big fuss in the first place :-)
- RandomFruitBat, on 08/06/2008, -1/+8I think that there is something to that. Intro's will really listen to you while extro's will be waiting for their chance to speak. I'm an intro and I find that I get along best with people who are outgoing and talkative. They will talk up a storm and I will listen and say something occasionally. Two intros doesn't work well in practice initially because it's awkward when not much is said.
- bowlesman11, on 08/06/2008, -0/+6I completely agree. My mom is a complete extravert and is constantly on the phone or talking to someone. I, on the other hand, am an introvert. So when she sees me in my room just lying in bed or sitting at my desk she always feels the need to "comfort" me as if there's something wrong. It's so annoying.
- Echo18, on 08/06/2008, -0/+6Oh good lord that sounds exactly like a friend of mine. He tries to get me to go to a club every weekend and when I say "no, I'd rather just watch a movie at home", he is shocked. Spot on ThankTheCheese!
- doctordbx, on 08/06/2008, -0/+6Ah.. but you see people think very binary. They think just because you're an extrovert you always want to be around people, but it's not 100% true.
Extroverts require 'down time' as well, and many choose to relax in solitude and peace and quiet. I know, I test off the scale in Extroversion (ENTJ MBTI as well) and yet I need my zero time if I am to function properly.
You can't always (and shouldn't) be the life of the party.
Actually, I think the article is a load of fuzz anyway, because the MBTI specifically mentions it doesn't apply Introversion and Extroversion in the classically prescribed way, rather a preference.
An extrovert can easily display introverted tendencies in a the right situation, likewise an introvert can be extroverted under the right conditions. - kd420, on 08/06/2008, -0/+6I find that once I get into a place where I'm alone with my thoughts, it's frustrating when this gets interrupted. I need to seperate social aspects from introverted thinking, I can't switch back and forth quickly. Maybe because it takes a while to get a train of thought going thats actually worth following...
- inactive, on 08/06/2008, -3/+8emo
- Paulish, on 08/06/2008, -1/+6I am an introvert and I love interaction with people. I see it as fueling my "inside world". I have good introvert and extravert friends. I remember this last weekend I was hanging with a group of people and after a few hours I just got this "OK, im done. Time to go home now" feeling. I didn't become angry, snappy, or rude, in fact I was still very happy; I just felt an overpowering urge to find some place to be alone and think. I guess I am saying that introversion is no excuse for being snappy or rude, it is still possible to be civil, so don't use introversion as a shield.
- UserNull, on 08/06/2008, -1/+6This site is always good for validation!
- inactive, on 08/06/2008, -0/+5You must be an extrovert.
- blast_flame, on 08/06/2008, -0/+5Same thing is happening to me right now. Everytime I encounter those sorts of people recently
"Come to X social function sunday after next!"
"No thanks"
"Why not!?"
"Doesn't provide me with anything I want"
"B-but you get to socialize with us"
"I have many opportunities to do that on weekdays..."
"COME ON IT'S A ONCE IN A YEAR OPPORTUNITY!" - Stevethegreat, on 08/06/2008, -0/+4He's telling that he was introvert and he's now sth different. Obviously he knows nothing about psychology to spout such *****, what I don't get is why he's being rewarded by fellow diggers for his ignorance and my attempt to call his ***** is being dugg down.
I mean the very fact to tell that you need some days off to "recharge your batteries" makes you the very definition of introvert, there's nothing more to introversion and you haven't changed in that regard, really. If your social life sucks or not has nothing to do with your type of personality it's a ***** skill that you either acquire or you don't, peace - - katesaltfleet, on 08/06/2008, -0/+4Me too, I am still an introvert at heart, but I have learned how to cope better with social interaction. I enjoy going out, but I really value my space.
MBTI isn't about typing people for the sake of labelling, it's about how we recognise preferences and communicate better with people whose preferences differ from our own. For the record I'm an INFJ... - chickentonight, on 08/06/2008, -0/+4Thank the Cheese.
- pagno, on 08/06/2008, -1/+5It certainly does the trick.
- gobbleplex, on 08/06/2008, -0/+4Haha! Okay smart guy, let's see you succeed at one of those 'lame jobs'. Just remember you need more than social skills to manage or do business successfuly. If you're lacking in those other skills, you might do well as a retail salesman.
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