One thing I've noticed, being a guy that does the whole "friends first" bit, is that I end up just being the nice guy. Now, this wouldn't be a problem, except I've been told flat out that had I pursued earlier, I'd have likely ended up with one of them. Now, though, I'm too good of a friend for them to risk losing. Not that I have problem getting dates with people I'm not friends with -- I just have to actually pursue people as a potential partner from the beginning. It stinks, because I feel like a sleazeball if I approach a girl as a potential partner, even if I'm not looking at the moment -- I just don't want to ruin chances for being more than friends in the end.
You've been taught that they're more valuable than you (and that you want sex more than they do) and that you are supposed to pay for it.Men need to make up for thoudands of years of having to pay the bill all the time.If women want equality and if you want to be respected you'd let her pay if she wants to play with your salamilearn to respect yourself and she might, too.<a class="user" href="http://thenononsenseman.com/">http://thenononsenseman.com/</a>
First off, let me put and end to ALL of this. These guessing games and all. Why women send mixed signals?....One simple answer. INSECURITY.Yup, thats it. Either she is unsure about YOU or unsure about HERSELF. She may look to you for validation, that she is an attractive women. Or she may feel insecure about the type of person you are and is very cautions when getting close to someone. But no one can be too cautions, so she slips up every once and awhile because of the attraction that's there. Bottom line is, she is affraid of something, either your intensions and whether or not the feeling is mutual, or affraid that she is unable to command and keep male attention. Most often....I think she is just waiting for validation in the male. So all you hateful men should chill....it's nothing against you. Most women probly don't even realize when they do it. And the same goes for men.
herald42Feb 4, 2007
One thing I've noticed, being a guy that does the whole "friends first" bit, is that I end up just being the nice guy. Now, this wouldn't be a problem, except I've been told flat out that had I pursued earlier, I'd have likely ended up with one of them. Now, though, I'm too good of a friend for them to risk losing. Not that I have problem getting dates with people I'm not friends with -- I just have to actually pursue people as a potential partner from the beginning. It stinks, because I feel like a sleazeball if I approach a girl as a potential partner, even if I'm not looking at the moment -- I just don't want to ruin chances for being more than friends in the end.
apoc06Feb 5, 2007
sad but true...
vitalstarFeb 5, 2007
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jsg7Mar 26, 2007
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akhi99May 11, 2008
"Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometime gain from the experience"- Catherine Comins, Vassar College Assistant Dean of Student Life, Time magazine, June 3, 1991, p. 52. <a class="user" href="http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org/cpf/links/FF/V2i1/hatespeech.html">http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org/cpf/links/FF/V2 ...</a>
akhi99May 11, 2008
You've been taught that they're more valuable than you (and that you want sex more than they do) and that you are supposed to pay for it.Men need to make up for thoudands of years of having to pay the bill all the time.If women want equality and if you want to be respected you'd let her pay if she wants to play with your salamilearn to respect yourself and she might, too.<a class="user" href="http://thenononsenseman.com/">http://thenononsenseman.com/</a>
akhi99May 11, 2008
and he's a rapist especially when he's trying to get your consent. Your probably most content with negative male stereotypes known as misandry.<a class="user" href="http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org/cpf/links/FF/V2i1/hatespeech.html">http://www.fatherhoodcoalition.org/cpf/links/FF/V2 ...</a>"Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometime gain from the experience" - Catherine Comins, Vassar College Assistant Dean of Student Life, Time magazine, June 3, 1991, p. 52.
pillowhairSep 1, 2008
First off, let me put and end to ALL of this. These guessing games and all. Why women send mixed signals?....One simple answer. INSECURITY.Yup, thats it. Either she is unsure about YOU or unsure about HERSELF. She may look to you for validation, that she is an attractive women. Or she may feel insecure about the type of person you are and is very cautions when getting close to someone. But no one can be too cautions, so she slips up every once and awhile because of the attraction that's there. Bottom line is, she is affraid of something, either your intensions and whether or not the feeling is mutual, or affraid that she is unable to command and keep male attention. Most often....I think she is just waiting for validation in the male. So all you hateful men should chill....it's nothing against you. Most women probly don't even realize when they do it. And the same goes for men.