thesuperjabs.com — I see it all around me. Miserable, unhappy people who didn?t fall victim to anything but their own poor stereotypes and unreal expectations in others. The one thing though they all have in common is they took the plunge?. and got married. Marriage sucks. That?s what the popular consensus is
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Closed AccountApr 26, 2007
So basically what you are saying is that people you know chose poorly, were stupid, and got married for the wrong reasons.
xsuiteApr 27, 2007
@ EstarisYou are a crazy bitch.'I hope you lose everything have to sell yourself on the streets to survive
masterljApr 27, 2007
His last comment is "to not get married, have kids and respect eachother." Unfortunately in the US after so many years of living and having children with someone, it is a common-law marriage where a separation yields all the same niceties as divorce.
phaleneApr 28, 2007
I think I'm getting a pre-nup if I get married, just because I like to have a plan for everything, but if I get hitched it'll be to have a kid with the gentleman, something I'm prepared to do without one if Mr. Right doesn't turn up before my biological clock goes 'DING!' That being said, I have a domestic streak a mile wide, and I like the idea of a husband to look after.My current boyfriend isn't really marriage material, as he's commitment phobic, but I'm 21, so I'm not worrying yet. After all, I'm too young to marry and I want to work on my education and career before I settle down for good. Plus, extra moola means I can afford perks for my future child and give them the best start in life possible.And being Canadian, if I can't find my nerdy prince charming, I'll marry a woman. :P
dewheadApr 28, 2007
I live in Texas and my divorce was 50/50 except for items that we each individually inherited (jewlery etc..) There wasn't even a question about it. I actually made more than my ex-husband but we split 401K, stocks, and savings, equity in the house right down the middle. Texas is a community property state. I was married for 13 years and have incredible kids. My divorce was fairly bitter but my ex is remarried and so am I and we actually all get along pretty good.. I learned alot from my marriage and divorce and I am a better person for going through it. I don't regret my first marriage at all because of my children.Now I happily married and I hope to be that way forever. I feel sorry for people who won't even try because I think you miss out on an incredible experience.
paulwelchApr 28, 2007
Prenups are stupid. If you love your money more than your spouse, then you should not get married. It seems that all that I am reading is "protect yourself and don't trust anybody." If you love your money more than your spouse then you are officially a LOSER. How about learning to develop oneness in your marriage by sharing your money.Here's an idea... take some time getting to know each other before you decide to get married. Develop trust over time with this person. Mutually become vulnerable to each other and work on your marriage together. Don't expect that the person that you dated is going to be the same person you will marry. You will learn each other and then learn how to compromise and resolve conflict. Resolving conflict does not involve nagging, griping or any harsh language. Read a few books about marriage and don't be afraid to go to a marriage counselor to help you strengthen your marriage.Marriage is a wonderful thing when there is true intimacy in it. And contrary to popular belief, intimacy doesn't start with sex. People have a need to feel wanted and loved. Marriage is the perfect institution to fulfill these needs. If people stop being so selfish and actually learned how to truly love someone, then this world would be a better place.
exnavymidApr 28, 2007
???? How did you get this point of view from this article? It's about DIVORCE being a benefit angle to women. It has nothing to do with the benefits of marriage.
bbqribsApr 29, 2007
"Be spiritually centered. "Yeah, religious types are usually the ones that stay married - because the woman was taught to obey her husband and a whole bunch of other Bible crap. And both parties are happy. He works, provides for the family, and likes it.. because the church said that's what he's supposed to do. She's at home, tends to the house, and likes it.. because the church told her that's her role.Then feminists come in and screw everything up.Not that I'm saying I agree with the bible nuts, but way back when church attendence was way higher, divorce rates were way lower.
dogstar0125Apr 30, 2007
@BabyWookie, you think you need a "logical reason" to get married? You've never actually been with a woman, have you?
towson2timeJul 26, 2007
Yeah, but at least while it is working, you are having sex with a hot Russian girl, instead of a complacent American pig that only thinks about herself.
towson2timeJul 26, 2007
You could not have said it any better buddy!
paulsc1Oct 14, 2007
Not to mention that pre-nuptial agreements aren't legal in the UK.
bubblebatDec 12, 2007
So it seems that a lot of men have a preference for Asian women. Why are all the men I know (But certainly NOT all men with this preference or who end up with an Asian wife) who prefer only Asian ladies seem creepy to some of us? No, there is nothing wrong with Asians--I'm currently learning Japanese myself and plan on moving to somewhere in Asia eventually. I sometimes prefer Asian culture to my own. But these white men, I wonder if some go into this thinking, "Now I have someone who will never say 'no' like Western women" and other distasteful things. I know that some of these ladies are kind of sad. The ones picked from overseas, sometimes they realize American men weren't what they thought they would be and American life is too different and their family is too far. I hope these men truly pick their wives because of their personalities and mutual friendship, and not just for their race or nationality.
bubblebatDec 12, 2007
Hmmm, not sure how that works, but that is how mine works. Well, it's not exactly like day one still, but maybe like year one?
bubblebatDec 12, 2007
I like technology, anime, comics (well, manga), video games. I am a woman! We're becoming more common. I also think you need to have things in common, even if not everything. You need someone who you can talk to a little in the way you can with your same gender friends, but also have a bit of the unfamiliar to learn from the other. It seems so obvious, but people marry each other everyday who have nothing in common. My parents' relationship was fragile, held together by almost nothing for a while. Mom wanted to be athletic, romantic, and to go out and have fun. Dad wanted to watch action movies and not move from the couch. They almost never seemed to have fun together. But they still are together. It's a wonder. But it's because they try sharing their interests with each other now.
bubblebatDec 12, 2007
We've been happy being unmarried for over eight years and always together...but the reasons you just pointed out are the same ones we are thinking about. It's just fine being unmarried and together, the last two especially are very, very important...
at4ctjulzJul 11, 2008
I read an article earlier today that summed it all up, what god intended marriage to be is a beautiful thing. However, what the state intended marriage to be is a legally binding contract. I wont put all the blame on women but because of the years of feminist broadcasted brainwashing, the traditional values have been lost. In tradition, a woman took care of her household and a man provided the necessary security that accompanied that household. That is how the 50/50 thing happened. That is how equal opportunity happened. The idea was you play your part, I play my part and all will be well. Not anymore. Today women want to play the role of the man. They don't want to take care of the home like they are naturally meant to. They want to wear the pants in the relationship and change the traditional methods that have worked fine for years. In the animal kingdom the female takes care of house and home and the male provides protection for his family, house and home. When you break from the natural order of the universe, you get chaos. And that's exactly what we have today - chaos! Marriage is a beautiful IDEA. That's as far as it goes. In reality, women aren't realistic. Why should any man want to marry someone whose world exists no further beyond self image magazines, reality tv and wanting to be successful so she doesn't have a need for a man. That's the basis of unhappiness right there. If you're tired of arguing over s**t a man shouldn't have to argue with his woman about, then I suggest you do what I've done and say to hell with it. Women are ideally and spiritually meant to be our companions and the part of our life that we rejoice about. This is not so because they believe everything the one eyed tv demon tells them. Because they are not these things in todays society, the only ammunition a man has is to remain single. Look at the process of marriage. Man buys ring, takes a knee and offers ring to woman. First of all how did love become so finite that it can be defined by a diamond. Second of all look at the symbolism of taking a knee. You're lowering yourself to show submission. It's funny because I've been reading about why not to get married all day. And if you're serious about getting married check out <a class="user" href="http://nomarriage.com">http://nomarriage.com</a> and find a real woman. Also I think it's comical to know that studies show the more successful a woman is, the more likely she is to become bored with you and cheat on you. I read that on Forbes. For anyone who knows anything about Forbes, it's a very reputable source. So wisen up gents. Like I said, marriage is a nice idea. And women appeal to our physical senses. The brain is the one thing that allows us to interpret our senses. In the brain lies the mind. And if you allow you mind to be overshadowed by physical pleasure, hell aint where you going, it's where you're at. They say the devil wears prada. They also say the devil wears a dress. Was it not Eve who betrayed the first husband ever recorded. Was it not Pandora who released all the evils possible upon the world. Do not rely on hope. Hope is a four corner table standing on one leg. Hope is a delusion. Hope will have you broke, drunk and miserable. If you must marry, marry because the woman gives you no reason to doubt her. Beyond that, i don't know what else to say.
ztrekSep 1, 2008
Cause we're smart! That's why!
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hurtstomuchtoleDec 11, 2008
thank you so much for that statment it was beautiful! well as for myself i have the word looser on my head , i am a pleaser i injoy pleasing the man, but have not found that one man that diserves my love, and all i give. 2xs married and both men were eather abusive or dicided that drugs is more nicer than me , ill find my man someday im still smilling!
silentthrillerJun 15, 2009
If someone doesn't want to get married, then don't force them to. Hell, I don't want to get married either and I wouldn't appreciate being forced or duped into it. More power to those that do marry one another, but it ain't for everybody.
silentthrillerJun 15, 2009
This is what should prevent many marriages from even taking place. Once I really thought about it, marriage does seem silly. That's the thing though, there is no way people put enough thought into it before they do it (get married that is.)
silentthrillerJun 15, 2009
Another great point. thumbs up!
hayabusa1Jul 1, 2009
Over the last 6 months I've been in and out of the hospital, surgeries, etc... it is painful, but compared to the divorce my wife put me and our children through my hospital pain is insignificant. In fact if I could add up all the pain in my life, it still wouldn't hold a candle to the "divorce experience." There was no infidelity, I did my best to try and reconcile... my wife walked away and took me to the cleaners in the process (kids, assets, pension, etc.). It was a complete suprise to me. After having been through a divorce the legal system taught me what it's like to have your life taken over, to be dictated to, to lose all you love (no matter what you do) and my wife... well she could divorce me under the no fault law and there was nothing I could do about it. Some of you guys may be considering marriage... each month I watch over 1/3 of my paycheck go to alimony (I still have years to go) and see my retirement plans blown out of the water, see the pain my children went through, etc., I realize it's best to simply live with a female, love her and never get married. It's easy for me to see why women want to get married... the law gives them your kids, money, assets, pension, etc., Eventually men will wise up and stop marrying women until the law changes. I'm firmly convinced I'd still be living with my "wife" if we were never married and common law didn't apply... she'd never leave all the assets, money, and pension at 51 years of age. She'd never be able to play the divorce card on me (i.e., threaten divorce if she didn't get her way) if we weren't married. Prenups... LOL... they can be cracked/challenged in court. Marriage? Don't do it if you're smart.
4777dawnJan 10, 2010
Among my friends marrige is the norm, and I am sure it is for many people. I have never dreamt about a wedding or anything of the sort. The idea of marriage sounds like a trap for the rest of my life...with one man, which I do not have a problem with manogomy. I think my guy is a great guy, there could be better ones for me, but maybe not. I had horriable experiance at 12yrs old with my mom starting her new life with her new husband. In my house I did not feel the love of a father. My mom feeling that she was now married, she should allow her husband to run the house. He monitored shower lengths, informed me that my voice did not matter because I was a child and was grounded for up to 6 months at a time. To say the least I was a constant run-away. Now that my guy and I are trying to pick a date for the wedding...my nervous panic is pushing me closer to anger at every corner. The idea of marriage being so important in society and religion often infuriates me, although I am a Christian. My guy does not know what to do with me and my anger, and the more I observe the more I realize if I (want?) to get married I will have to close my eyes to the past and leap into the future of the unknown and unwriten and begin to try and make a marriage that is comfortable, adventurous, and FUN. I know all to well that life is often hard and emotional for me with my sadness masking itself in anger and sometimes rage. When with my parents I was never called stupid, never sexualy abused, and for the most part they just wanted me to be a "normal" teenager, maybe involved in sports, good grades and friends....I just felt distant and like I had no part in the house I was living in. This does reflect often into my current relationship with the feeeling that although there are two of us him and I in the relationship....I still feel that "I" am not connected to the home. I wanted to be free when I was a teen and I still want to be free or at least to know that if my home life ever sucks again and those same feelings come up I can run-away again or at least find a way to be free and happy even if I have to be alone.....I do often feel I can only truly trust myself and I am my own keeper, this does give me a good false sense of power and security. I guess this is the psychological challange everybody faces to look at what it truly is, compared to how our worries and own psychi is pushing the pictures of the past into the presant and holding us captive in fear, not allowing us to challange ourselves and change and develope beyond our past and our fears. **** religion, society and family do you want to challange yourself to grab hold with one hand while letting go with the other....All of these pressures are comming to help your mind organize the real reasons we are scard, angry, and just freaked out....I can't keep holding back and trying to stop the train I want to live....and to live is to dive in.
lookouturownwindow1Nov 2, 2010
wow!! haha this is so old news stereotypin is nutz where all humen we all want different things in our lives well it's just like why some women dont want marriage or want to have a man's kid's or obey a husbend some women dont want to be a wife. it's not just a marriage getting married takes 2. i think if a man doesnt want mariage then that's his decision just like every women makes her own decisions playing it simple he's just not the one! if it bothers you and ur not on the same page then make a choose it's ur life have faith in god move on. i think some women some men r just delusional they think way to ahead of whats not reality at the time which is "i want a fairytale" "what if" life is not like that girls! love it takes time to bult and it has to be with the right person. i think girls deal with guys that dont want to get married cuz its a challenge for them they think he will change his mind someday. maybe but i dont think so i'm sure he means it. girls really look at your life and no that you dont have to settle with just any guy that come along! i think you should date multiple men noo doesnt mean sleepin with them but havin fun gettin to know every single one respecting urself and him. and i mean hearing him out letting him talk getting inside his head a little thats if the chemistry is right! have options girls enjoy being single cuz someday when its meant to be u will be in a relationship and it will feel right and u wont have to question anything. think about it girls u dont want to be stuck with the wrong guy for years to come like ask yourself is this guy special that i want to have his kids someday and love him does he deserve my heart and wellbeing for the rest of my life rather married or not! what makes him a man what makes him a good humen being does he respect love me enough for me to choose him out of millions of men? that i could give my womb and be
devoted tooo