washingtonpost.com — In New York and other northeastern urban centers, including Washington and Boston, gray matter is the new black of the hip social scene. Thousands of young singles and couples are eschewing the perfunctory dinner and a movie for a growing circuit of late-night museum prowls, lectures, debates.
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nycterisaApr 17, 2007
Hopefully hope for me too.
thereApr 17, 2007
All things being equal a beautiful body and face is a wonderful thing and usually preferable for a mate but as the cliche says... it's whats inside that counts. Beauty is indeed skin deep. I've even observed that extremely attractive people tend to be very superficial and flighty (not always the case but often enough to be a noticeable trait). I'm not passing a moral judgment here and I'm sure there is some natural evolutionary reason for this. I'm also pretty sure intellect was natures equalizer for less attractive folks. Again just because someone is less attractive doesn't necessarily make them smarter or someone beautiful dumb... but exactly how many of histories brilliant scientists have been particularly attractive? (my guess is their beautiful peers were too busy getting laid :) In the not too distant future I imagine advanced forms of cosmetic surgery will offset any advantages the birth lottery endowed to naturally beautiful people and intelligence will rule supreme in the match making process. The geeks will have the last laugh.
karthvaderApr 17, 2007
Rejoice!!I'm moving to the east coast! Now I can actually get a date that I can have an intelligent conversation with. Pshhhh...who am I kidding. All I can look forward to are more lonely nights watching re-runs on TV Land.
iffypopApr 17, 2007
There was nothing in The Game about this. Help!
thereApr 17, 2007
Ok...I picked myself of the floor. Just to address your point. My thinking is extremely beautiful people are the way they are because they can afford to be since they are in limited numbers (and therefore in extremely high demand). This gives them the ability to be more selective and thus they spend a great deal of their time batting away persistent dirty drooling old men and first cousins that want to boink them but know its oh so wrong. This is an extremely time consuming process which leads them to all sorts of overhead in their day to day operations. A geek on the other hand.... nobody gives a crap. Seeing as he has no redeeming physical qualities he is forced to make one of essentially two choices if he ever wishes to get laid by something that doesn't resemble a semi-decayed corpse. If he's lightly horny the nerd offloads his wasted seed on porn, star trek episodes and like minded geeks to keep him companyIf he's unbearably horny he knows he needs to accumulate wealth or fame if he ever wishes to get some decent respect and poontang. In the process he happenstance develops his brain In a world where beauty is ubiquitous, the supply pressures are eased and everyone is required to compete for other traits. Therefore intelligence is still ultimately going to be the winner in the evolutionary sweepstakes of man.
lebaigeApr 17, 2007
Well doesn't this sound boring.
psychoticclownApr 17, 2007
"In the New Dating Scene, the Attraction Is a Beautiful Mind"Great news for you geeks. You can be fat, ugly and smelly but as long as you follow Diggnation and subscribe to PC mag, you'll get tons of poon. Somehow, I don't think even geeks are buying this.
elleconApr 17, 2007
Oh sure, the guy will think you're fabulous until you mercilessly crush him like a grape during your academic argument/debate. In my personal experience, a man likes intelligence in a woman so long as it doesn't surpass his own intelligence (this categorical statement is not an argument, just an observation):)
rac3r5Apr 17, 2007
Not a big fan of clubs either. I don't get how they all try to be so classy and want you do dress really well with dress shoes, no hat etc but inside everyone is getting drunk and dry humping each other on the dance floor. The last thing I want to do is go out with a girl who is dry humping some guy she met 5 mins ago. Looking for a girl in a club is just like going through a meat market, nothing more, nothing less. You can't engage in a conversation cause the music is really loud or u don't know how drunk they are. Its easier for me to meet people at small house parties.
stay521Apr 18, 2007
Some people just like to dance. You can go to a club without dry humping strangers. My boyfriend and I go to museums and plays together, but are also able to have fun at a bar/club with friends. If it's just the girls, we go to a clubs because we like to dance (and okay, I'll admit, flaunt ourselves while we're young and hot enough to do so)--not because we're looking to be molested by drunk guys. Then again, we also tend to get together and watch the latest discovery channel special (does anyone else remember how much "Raising the Mammoth" sucked?). FYI...it's okay to have fun in different ways depending on your mood.
yevsApr 18, 2007
Action speaks louder than words. Let your body do most of the conversation and you cant go wrong even if you are saying nothing.Saying that, if you are visibly ill (obease, sweaty, tired), are not well groomed or displaying bad taste you will get nowhere purely because of natural selection.Conversation is really not that big of a deal. I use conversation to get vital information on my date, not to get her in bed with me. It is very unlikely you will both be equaly interested in (insert "intelligent" activity here) . The likelyhood is 1 of you will be very bored and it will show...Intelligence is not the sole factor women are after just as big breasts is not the sole factor men are after. You need to put forward your entire package, this includes good humour, style, hygine, physical condition, stamina... The list goes on.Saying that, if you can impress a girl without "aid" such as alcohol, drugs or music you will score more points. It is merely a display of your skill, how you can best display it varies largly from person to person. This is why dating advice hardly ever works.You need to look at yourself and see what works for you. For me its trendy bars, road trips, picnics and dinner at my place... I would be too bored to impress anyone at a museum, and the kind of women that are impressed by that would bore me in return.