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- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -2/+145I've agreed with this sentiment for a long time. Real life is real life. Things don't just work out for eternity when you met the person two days ago.
- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -1/+122What? You mean my life isn't just like Sleepless in Seattle?
- Leo21k, on 12/29/2008, -3/+99Unlike in the movies love at first sight does not exist, love is something that builds over time. So many women mistake lust or infatuation for love when they first get to know a person.
- Bloodwine, on 12/29/2008, -0/+82Go to craigslist and look at the ads by women looking for meaningful relationships. Most of them sound like they want a fictional romantic hero. Completely unrealistic.
- jcpudd, on 12/29/2008, -2/+79Damn you Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan! Damn you to hell!
- JFitzpatrick, on 12/29/2008, -1/+65I think the bigger issue is communication. I see so many people, wives especially, get so upset with their spouses for not being all mushy... but they fail to make sincere statements and ask sincere questions like "I see all these mushy guys in movies and it makes me feel like I'm missing out on something. Am I misreading the way you express love?" I know tons of guys that are "do-ers" They don't sit around and wax poetic about how much they love their wives... they show them. They remodel the kitchen for them. They fix their cars. They make sure they have the things they need and they fix and mend the broken things. They show love by using their time and skills to express that they care. They don't sit there and talk about love, they apply it. I consider myself damn lucky that I have a wife who understands very clearly that when she goes out of town for the weekend and I repaint a floor of the house or build her a deck instead of go dick around at a sports bar that I'm saying "I love you, I missed you... so I built this *insert whatever*"
- snafflepaffle, on 12/29/2008, -4/+66For a long time it's seemed to me that romantic movies and books are just more socially acceptable porn for women. Just like sex porn it provides bad models for real life behavior. Sure, most people can distinguish fantasy from reality but it's insidious in a way. I have the same kind of visceral reaction to seeing romantic porn as some women have to seeing sex porn.
It really does bug me that women's porn is socially acceptable. Seems like a double standard. - algaeturd, on 12/29/2008, -4/+65Clearly people watch this ***** and expect things to be like that in real life. So definitely it's ***** up some womens' images of what love 'should' be to them.
Same with that ***** Sex and the City. That ***** show poisoned the mind of thousands of women who actually had potential until they decided that unless there was constant drama around them, they couldn't be happy.
People are stupid. They project themselves into everything they see on a screen because they have this idea that they're as important as the 'star.' It's really pretty tweaked when you think about it.
If you're a guy, avoid every female who likes romantic comedies and Sex and the City at all costs. - X9001, on 12/29/2008, -0/+47You mean her and I will never be together again even if I charge into her wedding and object?!?! In real life when you break up with someone you stand a good chance of never speaking to them again.
- sillymeganlee, on 12/29/2008, -1/+46I watch romance movies. I don't expect to fall in love with a guy I met a day ago, I don't expect him to never look at a girl with bigger boobs than me, if something he did ticked me off I tell him, I don't expect him to read my mind. As long as you're not a freaking moron, there is no problem.
- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -4/+48I don't care if they cause an "enhanced version of love," I just don't like watching derivative crap! No one can say with a straight face that "you've got mail" shouldn't have been killed in its crib for essentially being Sleepless in Seattle 2: We're still sleeping.
- quickgold192, on 12/29/2008, -0/+44"We did a rigorous content analysis of romantic comedies"
Somehow I doubt the analysis was anything close to rigorous. - soze1, on 12/29/2008, -1/+44Obviously, it gives people unrealistic expectations and gives them an idea of what "love" should look like. Too bad it's nothing like what we see in the movies.
- bixby1, on 12/29/2008, -0/+41sure it is. take me, i lost my wife last year, my nosy kid called some late-night shrink and the next thing you know i'm at the top of the empire state building with some lady who fakes orgasms in other movies.
happens every day. - RobotBuddha, on 12/29/2008, -1/+41What shocks me is how many overweight women there are who'll only date someone at bodybuilder level.
- kirado4, on 12/29/2008, -4/+37Well if watching to much porn is supposed to be bad for you then watching to many romcoms must be equally as bad for you.. they should ban romcoms
- BossKey, on 12/29/2008, -0/+30"I Can't Believe It's Not Bitter"
- Chickygirl84, on 12/29/2008, -7/+37Bitter much? I think the point is to find a girl who can think for herself. I enjoy romantic comedies as much as the next lady, but I'm not stupid enough to buy into the *****. It's entertainment for Christ's sake. Find someone who is willing to work through your issues (we've all got them) together and not rely on finding the answers in fake perceptions of what relationships should be. Not all women who like a good romcom are mindless robotic drama-addicted idiots. Just wanted to point that out. Now I feel much more secure with myself.
- thickape, on 12/29/2008, -1/+31" Galician — who blames mass media portrayals of romance for the failure of her own early relationships —"
Let's hear it for unbiased research! - RobotBuddha, on 12/29/2008, -3/+32Not to mention that there's a 'huge' difference between infatuation and love. The former lasts for about a year, and is common. The latter is the thing that might last a lifetime, and is rare as hell. And then there's something in between which lasts about long enough to raise a baby to the stage where he can walk around and doesn't need dad to protect him from lions. What's shocking is how few women I've met seem to grasp that.
- cyrusuncc, on 12/29/2008, -4/+31Nah, they help you get laid.
Try making yourself cry at the right moment. Tweezers can help. - bdbr, on 12/29/2008, -0/+27That's probably why so many romantic comedies END with the wedding.
- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -0/+26News flash: anything you see on tv, at a movie theater, on the internet, in the news, ANYTHING is not real life. Only real life is real. Take responsibility for your own life and make your own decisions.
- lemur, on 12/29/2008, -1/+26I think the real problem is not just romantic comedies, but specifically our culture. After all, the movies are only popular because they reflect our cultural mindset.
Here in the United States, the divorce rate is very high. People grow up with this idealized and absurd notion of marriage, that they have to choose their partner based on love and romance rather than realistic reasons. I believe that every couple is entitled to have romance and passion, but the funny truth about that is that everyone can have that as long as they marry somebody that they are reasonably attracted to, which is not difficult. Basically what our culture teaches is that the entire point of marriage is just to have pleasure from it, so if marriage is not 100% convenient and gratifying, people jump up ready to abandon their marriages. Nobody told them the truth that marriage is hard work and that relationships mean making sacrifices and putting others first. Marriage, for example, takes serious work; it's like a job that you have to do whether you like it or not, and you have to serve your spouse and the family you created because that's the most important obligation you have in life.
People need to realize that marriage is hard work, but it's worth it. Kids these days don't understand the meaning of responsibility. - RobotBuddha, on 12/29/2008, -0/+23That's one of the things that tends to bug me about romcoms too. The female characters tend to be horribly dull people! I mean their defining traits will usually be a total inability to show any logic or rational thought, that's only saved because the writers construct a fantasy world that justifies it. Along with a "quirk" to make her funny, like "hahaha she falls down a lot! I do that! We're both hilarious!". Then someone falls in love with her for no reason that anyone could imagine other than he thinks she's hot. To me they seem far more sexist than the stuff from the 50s that's actually recognized as being such.
- theevilone, on 12/29/2008, -0/+22Romance movies taught me if you stalk someone long and hard enough she will eventually fall in love with you and "break and entry" is a not a crime as long as you leave lots of roses.
- olias123, on 12/29/2008, -0/+22I hear these movies are the cause of the disappearing coral...
- morningmatters, on 12/29/2008, -0/+22Well, most romantic movies only talk about the good parts (usually the beginnings) of a relationship. The movies which resemble 'real life" relationship are more likely to be black-comedies.
- CoD4, on 12/29/2008, -0/+22if you're putting it like that then that long term feeling is basically caring
- huskerdude, on 12/29/2008, -0/+20I think this is a symptom of the romantic comedy thing. Everybody is expected to propose by skydiving in a tuxedo out of a pink jet with a string quartet and little kids dressed up as cupid into the middle of the one-off performance of the musical you wrote specifically for her with a ring made of the sun. And it's because of ***** romance movies and sitcoms that women get the idea into their heads that this is normal.
- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -1/+20That's why I have my dates watch the Discovery channel.
- ElectricKetchup, on 12/29/2008, -0/+19I think the fact that I'm a loser is what is preventing me true love in real life.
- whoreable, on 12/29/2008, -5/+24For what? To find your penis and then cry in shame?
- JYoungest1, on 12/29/2008, -0/+18Shoot for the stars
They will land in my bed - Narcism, on 12/29/2008, -3/+20Who am I kidding, I just jerk off at the end of them.
- Jonjonr6, on 12/29/2008, -0/+16I disagree, losers find true love. I've seen them on Jerry Springer.
- machutta, on 12/29/2008, -1/+17yea, i'm in the same boat. Except now i'm dating my dead wives sister, her mother is somehow totally into me. and the cops can't find out that i murdered my wife to get with her sister and collect on 2 million dollar life insurance polocy, which i will find out later is intrusted to her mother who i will have to woo and kill to recieve it.. but first making sure it's intrusted to me...( not a true story )
- virginialynch, on 12/29/2008, -2/+17The kinds of people who watch these movies are the kind of people who listen to Coldplay, John Mayer, Goo Goo Dolls, and Jack Johnson incessantly, weeping until their eyes bleed, wondering why they can't meet a decent man or why their boyfriends won't propose. Well, goddamn, who would want to live with that? I say ***** these pathetic bags of pure estrogen and let them wallow in their self pity while holding on to tiny scraps of hope provided by Kate Hudson, who proves that you can be quirky and lovable.
- Daxx22, on 12/29/2008, -0/+15Well, hasn't it been proven there's more of an emotional component to arousal with women, as opposed to visual with men? Makes sense.
- sfhock, on 12/29/2008, -6/+21Seems like the same argument that violent movies lead to violent behavior.. I think that people are drawn to certain movies because they already relate to the themes they contain, and not the other way around...
- xptoast, on 12/30/2008, -0/+15Girls have told me that before...they lied everytime.
- RobotBuddha, on 12/29/2008, -1/+14I've never met a guy who was seriously checking people out for signs that they'd been bitten by zombies. I have seen women trying to turn their life into a romcom.
- FriedTurkey, on 12/29/2008, -1/+14Does that mean they should ban porn too?
- Bloodwine, on 12/29/2008, -1/+14probably a weekend of watching TBS
- LilRabbitFooFoo, on 12/29/2008, -0/+12Indeed. There aren't enough "chubby chasers" in the world to cover even one of Craig's Lists...let alone the entire nation. Eeesh!
- Mullinator, on 12/29/2008, -1/+13If anything violent movies cause people to believe the world they live in is more violent rather than encouraging violence. The argument here is that romantic comedies give a false impression of what the real world is like. Violent movies therefore would do the same. That is different from violent movies encouraging violent behaviour.
- betheturtle, on 12/29/2008, -2/+13That, and the fact that you play soundtrack music out of a speaker you carry behind your back, and move your face really, really close to theirs on the first date.
- inactive, on 12/29/2008, -2/+13I dunno... On the surface, romantic comedies seem much closer to reality than other movies, so I can see them leading to more confusing fantasy with reality more than other genres.
- RobotBuddha, on 12/29/2008, -0/+11Seriously? I've only seen a handful, but I'd think if any guy who was just a normal Joe and didn't have amazing looks or money going for him actually tried half the ***** in them that he'd probably get kicked in the head. They seem to fall into the "what women would want if the rules of society were suspended for a bit" rather than something that would actually happen in the real world.
- CrossCanyon, on 12/30/2008, -1/+12kirado4, Double yes.
FriedTurkey, Most pornos are as unrealistic as romcoms.
kirado4, Romantic movies are like porn for girls, you know.
I believe they can both mess you up sexually and romantically.
Ugh, can't people do the relationship thing on their own terms anymore? -
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