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- hixsonj, on 10/19/2007, -0/+55Unfortunately our society looks down on more introverted people. I'd like to see more articles on how extroverted people can learn to shut up every once in a while.
- urby86, on 10/19/2007, -6/+56I'm shy because I'm scared of getting dugg down.
- zephc, on 10/19/2007, -1/+45"Shyness is rooted in fear — an irrational fear of speaking up and being humiliated or ignored."
Unless of course you actually HAVE been humiliated or ignored, repeatedly, your whole life, then it's sort of understandable. - yojiffyskippy, on 10/12/2007, -3/+32To summarize... If you want to overcome shyness, quit being shy. Sounds like a great plan! /sarcasm
- akatherder, on 10/19/2007, -2/+22Why don't you shut up? You never have anything important to say!
- Tyr7BE, on 10/19/2007, -3/+23Depends what the cause of shyness is. I suppose people could consider me shy, but it's not for lack of confidence. When needed I can step up to the plate and deliver that speech, or lead a group of people, or perform in a social situation when required. But most of the time I don't want to. It's not because I'm insecure, I'm just lazy and as a rule of thumb have little interest in what your average person has to say. So if I'm sitting in a group of people and not contributing much, it's not because I'm afraid of what you'll think of me, it's usually because I honestly don't give two ***** about what you're saying.
- Calcheesmo, on 10/12/2007, -1/+16I don't agree with this article. I think some people are naturally shy. It's not a matter of "overcoming" it or not, that's just the way people are for whatever reasons they have. Is it normal to be loud, outspoken, and obnoxious like myself? No it's not normal, it's the way I am, just like the people who don't want to talk all the time. Let them be, if everyone wanted to be the same, life would be dull.
- ToxicGas, on 08/11/2008, -0/+15the people who speak first (and loudest) usually have the least interesting things to say, if not downright annoying.
- o0joshua0o, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1099% of the conversation I overhear is completely obvious, banal, or pointless. I enjoy engaging in conversations that have actual content, but most of the time that's not possible, so I just play the role of passive observer.
- dswissmiss, on 10/11/2007, -0/+8Exactly what I was thinking! I know from my behavioral psych classes that shyness can be overcome with small steps, but if us shy people don't have small rules or concepts to hold on to any self help article quickly becomes useless.
I also think shyness and introversion should be considered as separate phenomena in some cases. I am naturally introverted, but my shyness is entirely situational (and caused by some past events). In a classroom or when talking about something I know a lot about it can be hard to shut me up, but when it comes to the bar scene or approaching strangers I'm completely inept, which doesn't help me professionally. The "Just do it" approach to solving the problem just seems contradictory in this case. - Stevethegreat, on 10/12/2007, -2/+9Comment regarding the title's description:
Everytime you feel identified, you lose a bit of yourself to the herd. - damndj, on 10/12/2007, -1/+7I am a very shy person, so I really relate to this article. I sometimes set out to try and overcome the shyness by doing some of the things this article says to do, but a lot of the time I just feel like I have nothing to contribute or the conversation that is going on is more of an "insiders" thing that I know nothing about. So I'll usally end up standing there, just listening. :(
- ToxicGas, on 08/11/2008, -0/+6i used to be a pretty shy person, though i didn't notice it until people kept telling me i was shy. that kind of pissed me off, cuz i don't see myself as a shy or 'timid' person, so i started saying whatever was on my mind ... now i have a reputation of being kind of an ***** at times. can't win.
- silvershadow21, on 10/12/2007, -1/+5I think you mean till you HAVE faced it.
- jerbaker, on 10/10/2007, -1/+5Why are there no articles on overcoming the severe handicap of being a huge blabbermouth that has to drone on about inane minutia to any stranger willing to listen? These people have a defect in self-perception that causes them to think I like them without actually bothering to find out. Shy people keep to themselves and don't irritate me, I want the so-called "extroverts" to get some help overcoming their affliction.
- rayefrenzy, on 10/11/2007, -4/+8Am I the only one reminded of the "Overcoming Shyness" book in Mother 2/Earthbound that you have to give to the Tenda Village?
- zaii7, on 10/11/2007, -0/+3shy = masturbation
***** = gets the poon tang - Greengoo, on 10/10/2007, -1/+3Just go back to the Onett Library, it's in one of the shelves there.
- benjio, on 10/10/2007, -0/+2Ha! Nice Earthbound reference!!
- ClayDragon, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3Get confident, stupid!
- tryte, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2This is why alcohol was invented. After a few drinks you can be a loud, obnoxious, opinionated ***** like everyone else.
- bratterscain, on 10/11/2007, -0/+2I'm shy not because I'm afraid other people are *****, but that I can be a big ***** and I damn well know it. In this introverted interior is a big-mouthed, aggressive and impulsive blatherer that knows it's best I not open my mouth sometimes.
- yellowgoose, on 10/10/2007, -0/+2http://www.succeedsocially.com has over 50 lengthy articles on overcoming shyness and improving your social skills. Bury the comment if you want, but I think the link is relevant to the original topic
- o0joshua0o, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3Summary: If you're shy and introverted, there's something horribly wrong with you that needs fixing.
Damn extroverts.... - Synn, on 10/10/2007, -2/+3You don't deserve that username.
- bethy79, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1I completely agree with you hixsonj. Great point, being extroverted to the extreme is not necessarily the best thing. Maybe it's that you've gone through your whole life people telling you your ideas and thoughts are great. Maybe it was told to you for that reason your feelings wouldn't get hurt. People like to agree more than disagree. I believe that you can be both, a happy medium if you will, both introverted, and extroverted. I'm more introverted personally, but with extroverted tendencies. :)
- Greengoo, on 10/10/2007, -1/+2First thought in my head, not 2 seconds after I read the title
- SirBryce, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1When I read the part about basketball in the article, it brought back up one of my suppressed memories about the sport which reminded me one of the reasons I'm introverted. So in the end, the article didn't help :(
- resplence, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1What an ass.
- Samburger, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1you need to be dugg, sir. Earthbound is one of the greats
- bethy79, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1I don't think the point of this article was to target extroverted people. How could you actually relate if you don't have this problem of speaking up. The article wasn't geared toward changing your whole personality, but to actually encourage people whom are shy to look at it from another perspective and embrace those changes and speak up. I'm very shy and I can relate to this article in which I do have things I want to say all the time, but shy away because I let comments, or situations in the past rule my decision. I don't think being shy is something you're born with, a lot of it stems from how you're raised, and embraced as a child. Just my thoughts from a shy person, to a loud person.
- loganhid, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1Love the Big Blob unhappy thing
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I don't agree with this article. No advantage to shyness? I thought at least this one was obvious: "You can stay silent and be thought a fool, or open your mouth and remove all doubt."
Furthermore, how he can just classify all negative comments and reactions as "meaningless"? Sometimes people didn't just have a bad day, no matter what you want to think. They really do think you're an idiot, and telling yourself you're awesome and super great won't change that. - simd, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1I disagree with your behavioral psych class. I've found that "just doing it" is exactly what I've needed to do to cure my shyness. It's sometimes an inward fight, but it feels damn good! I guess it doesn't work for everyone, just as stopping smoking rather than gradually reducing the number of cigarettes doesn't work for anyone either.
- simd, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1People's motivations are largely irrelevant - it's a fact that communication is a basic blank of human civilisation, and people like to hear from others, even if it's to disagree with them.
Of course if your main thrust is to call people ***** in a public forum, you may find they really do respond less favourably. - solidsnake00, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1If the cause isn't lack of confidence and it's personal choice, that's great. But if your reason's because you don't give a ***** then it sounds a bit selfish
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- SysstemLord, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Of course, and the thing is, it's usually not about what you say, but how you say it. Say ***** with confidence and people will buy it, but if all your words are theorems and you're shy while talking, nobody will take you seriously. Those who speak first, and loudly, usually don't care and don't get insulted about the bad reaction to their words, which means they don't care enough to improve their talk.
- DooM, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain. - solidsnake00, on 10/10/2007, -0/+1Humans are social creatures. It feels good to talk to people and be part of the world, to have a better understanding of it. Sure, you can spend all the alone time in the world and feel like you're comfortable, but in the grand scheme of things talking to other people will let you get more out of life and better identify with yourself. Life is all about experiencing things in the world around you, and keeping to yourself doesn't help at all.
- SysstemLord, on 10/11/2007, -0/+1Fear fear fear, you made me so afraid of it
- patch6, on 10/10/2007, -2/+2How about telling said extroverts that instead of venting on a messageboard.
- fulibs, on 10/10/2007, -0/+0Seems a little to scary to me....
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -1/+1You SUCK!, You shouldnt have spoken up!! :p
- Karyyk, on 10/10/2007, -2/+2Buried as inaccurate. The idea that most people are friendly and respond favorably fly in the face of reality. 98% of people are selfish bastards who'll push you off a cliff if they think it will profit them a dime. If you want to bend over to cater to that kind of mentality, you go right ahead, but you'll end up being a reasonable facsimile of an *****...
- SJKat, on 10/10/2007, -0/+0Yes. That is _exactly_ the kind of ***** I was talking about.
- simpleid, on 10/10/2007, -2/+2i started to think about donnie darko
- Calcheesmo, on 10/10/2007, -0/+0I see where you're coming from. It just bugs me though, that's like people saying that I need to try and not say things that I say because it will make me better or something. If you don't say things and want to say them, that's one thing, but some people, some of my best friends, are just shy people, they talk their asses off to me, but to others, they just don't think they're worth the time or something.
- wanimayuresh, on 10/12/2007, -1/+0Unfortunately, shyness is an enormous detriment to success. For people who share this problem, it’s important to understand the causes and work towards overcoming it.
- SJKat, on 10/10/2007, -1/+0The point of this article, like many articles on shy people, is to brainwash them to think that being non-shy will somehow change your life for the better. Truly shy people know that this is *****.
Shyness is not the same as low self-esteem. Former is certainly not a problem (in fact, it is just the opposite), the latter probably is, and may cause feelings you are describing. -
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