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- 4321234, on 09/01/2008, -4/+114Addiction to sexual intercourse is a very real and serious condition.
But I beat it. - aforce369, on 08/31/2008, -6/+76soooo... you're still a virgin then?
- BDOUG, on 08/31/2008, -6/+62taking bets now on how many unoriginal, predictable posts this will get that state "this won't be a problem for Diggers" or some inane variant
- EIEAviv2008, on 09/01/2008, -3/+54I say legalize it!
- bixby1, on 08/31/2008, -12/+55Yeah, it's pretty real. Luckily there's no shortage of the stuff when your a strong guy like myself...call me please ladies SWM seeking ATM (Anything That Moves)
- irishjays, on 08/31/2008, -2/+35Such a romantic thumbnail.
- BitKid, on 09/01/2008, -1/+30I want to believe.
- yesitsreal, on 09/01/2008, -8/+32Yes, it's real -- but there is help. I am a recovering sexaholic. I participate in a 12-step fellowship that is based on the Alcoholics Anonymous program of recovery. My program includes working the 12 steps themselves, making and accepting phone calls to and from other addicts, an active relationship with my higher power, reading recovery literature, and going to meetings. I go to about 6 meetings a week. Fortunately in my area there are lots of meetings and you can go to meetings every day... most days you can go to 3 or more. Many places are not so fortunate.
I'm also a long-time digger. I just re-registered under a fake name to protect my anonymity while answering this question. Sometimes I consider that I may have to stop coming to digg because the fairly small amount of material that triggers lust for me is more that I want to deal with. Yes, this addiction is real. But by the grace of the God of my understanding, I don't have to act out sexually today.
If you feel like you might have a problem with lust, come check out a meeting and you may find that we're just like you. Check out http://www.sa.org for more information, or to find meetings in your area.
And there are other programs as well... such as Sexual Compulsives Anonymous and Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. Sexaholics Anonymous is the program that works for me. - D2Much, on 09/01/2008, -4/+23i see what you did there
- arjie, on 09/01/2008, -0/+16Look at it upside down. In the space between the two people there is a policeman.
- TheWorm, on 09/01/2008, -1/+16Subtle, but clever.
- noupsell, on 08/31/2008, -2/+14*type type type* Stop. Stare. Flirt. "Hey digg users check out my boobies!" - The question is: Is Digg target marketing to sex addicts?
- ivansusanin, on 09/01/2008, -2/+14http://tinyurl.com/36hhz6
- mwilkinson, on 09/01/2008, -0/+11***** you I looked..
- cowboy77061, on 09/01/2008, -0/+11dude, I can't stop thinking about ass. every day I wake up and think of big asses.
someone plz halp! - Sardonic2U, on 09/01/2008, -0/+10Did you get married???
- HCJfilms, on 09/01/2008, -1/+11It's the greatest PR move ever. Duchovny's a genius. Out of all the days of the year to go to rehab and out of all the things to go into rehab for, he's checks in for sex? The very thing the pimp you play on Californication suffers from? Seriously? And the season starts 9/28. I'm sorry man too many coincidences. He's the ***** man and he's the EP of the show--his actions directly effect the value of the show and being EP it's probably some of his money. Yeah man, I'll try and get more people to watch.
- Terasiel, on 09/01/2008, -2/+12I come from this strange would in which the cure for sex addiction...is another sex addict and a well thought out schedule.
- SadMartigan, on 11/25/2008, -0/+9Here is a free session from an excellent therapist:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYLMTvxOaeE - inactive, on 09/01/2008, -1/+9Unfortunately, masturbation is a gateway activity
- digitalmischief, on 09/01/2008, -1/+9i'm glad we had such a mature discussion about a serious behavioral illness...
- funk49, on 09/01/2008, -1/+8I don't know why you are being dugg down but you are 100% accurate in everything you say, so I dugg you up. It is a ***** up addiction that can ruin lives just like drugs or alcohol can. Great to hear that 12-step worked for you.
- sanman, on 09/01/2008, -0/+6the silhouette could be an inkblot test
what else do you see in there? - Quintios, on 09/01/2008, -1/+7W...
T...
F... - DestroyFascism, on 09/01/2008, -0/+6I bet if it doesn't move you push it right?
- baldr, on 09/01/2008, -1/+6anything can be psychologically addictive...
- FTLJohnson, on 09/01/2008, -0/+5A Useful Tool for Self-Assessment
Answer these twelve questions to assess whether you may have a problem with sexual addiction.
1. Do you keep secrets about your sexual or romantic activities from those important to you? Do you lead a double life?
2. Have your needs driven you to have sex in places or situations or with people you would not normally choose?
3. Do you find yourself looking for sexually arousing articles or scenes in newspapers, magazines, or other media?
4. Do you find that romantic or sexual fantasies interfere with your relationships or are preventing you from facing problems?
5. Do you frequently want to get away from a sex partner after having sex? Do you frequently feel remorse, shame, or guilt after a sexual encounter?
6. Do you feel shame about your body or your sexuality, such that you avoid touching your body or engaging in sexual relationships? Do you fear that you have no sexual feelings, that you are asexual?
7. Does each new relationship continue to have the same destructive patterns which prompted you to leave the last relationship?
8. Is it taking more variety and frequency of sexual and romantic activities than previously to bring the same levels of excitement and relief?
9. Have you ever been arrested or are you in danger of being arrested because of your practices of voyeurism, exhibitionism, prostitution, sex with minors, indecent phone calls, etc.?
10. Does your pursuit of sex or romantic relationships interfere with your spiritual beliefs or development?
11. Do your sexual activities include the risk, threat, or reality of disease, pregnancy, coercion, or violence?
12. Has your sexual or romantic behavior ever left you feeling hopeless, alienated from others, or suicidal?
Ok, I KNOW I am not a Sex Addict, but am I wrong... or is some of the stuff on this list just hot? - inactive, on 09/01/2008, -3/+8No, I was able to pull out long enough to make this comment wasn't I?
- ninjarabbits, on 09/01/2008, -0/+5I think a session with a professional twice over - an analyst and a therapist, ie. the world’s first analrapist, is what he seeks.
- chikuten, on 09/01/2008, -0/+4i'll volunteer to help female addicts.
- OfNumbers, on 09/01/2008, -0/+4Jesus Christ was crucified so you could live the dream.
- sexaddict1, on 09/01/2008, -0/+4Sex Addiction isn't covered under the DSM-IV, but I think that's partially because it is a hard thing to diagnose. What is healthy and what is unhealthy? I think more people are messed up than others realize. It's a private battle.
At the very least, something is a little bit wrong with me. Call it what you will, but the closest thing is a "sex addict". - morpheus69, on 09/01/2008, -1/+512-step programs are *****...ever wonder why Alcoholics Anonymous has never allowed an independent study of its effectiveness? Or why it has buried its own internal studies deep in a dusty filing cabinet? Now the courts are stepping in ORDERING people to attend these programs (and pay the thousands of dollars they charge) despite there being no proof that they work. It's just a big racket.
And please no "but [insert favorite 12-step program here] cured my [insert addiction here]" comments. By definition anecdotal evidence is meaningless when measuring effectiveness. Show me a double-blind study with a control group and I'll recant. - inactive, on 09/01/2008, -1/+5Well, much as I would like to believe some nameless chump on the internet, addictions are listed in DSM-IV and have been recognised by the world health authority and every major western national medical authority as illnesses since at least the 50s (alcoholism recognised as an illness since 1956). Personally, when I have a health problem, I get advice from doctors, not to some guy on Digg, but YMMV.
- mike81890, on 09/01/2008, -0/+4the idea of addiction comes in to play when the one thing interferes with other aspects of your life. When trying to score your next hit (or whatever it may be) keeps you from feeding your child, then you are addicted.
- euro22, on 12/17/2008, -0/+4Your right hand must of missed you while you were typing it.
- sexaddict1, on 09/01/2008, -3/+7To be honest, I believe that sexual addiction is real, and that I suffer from it. What is perhaps more painful than anything else is the shame and embarrassment that comes with it. I wish that I was addicted to alcohol or drugs, because comparatively those are socially acceptable. Most people think sex addicts are just perverts who are rapists and sex offenders in waiting.
For the record, I'm 23 and have been looking at porn consistently since I had a computer/Internet in my room at age 10. My father passed away when I was eight, and I never had a real male role model in my life – no uncles or older brothers/cousins. Over time I think that I’ve developed some pretty messed up views and values with women.
On paper I’m a stud. High School valedictorian and sports team captain, who went to college on a full academic ride. I play the guitar and joined the best fraternity on campus. However, over time, my actions proved me to be awkward with women, and there were a few other issues that I will not go into detail here (complicated situation).
At one point, inexplicably, I was called out for this. I was forced to quit my fraternity, and all kinds of nasty rumors spread throughout campus labeling me as creepy. Nearly all of my friends disowned me, wouldn’t answer my phone calls. So in addition to having my own issues internally, now I’m depressed about being abandoned by people I thought cared about me.
But it gets worse, people have sought out to sabotage my future relationships. My two most recent girlfriends have received messages telling them that I’m a creeper and have done this and that.
It’s a ***** situation, and I realize that I am a rare exception as my life has really fallen apart into shambles. Most people that have some sort of sex addiction (or compulsion, whatever you want to call it) are oblivious and in self-denial, understandably so. It took me a long time, and even now I still have difficulty accepting that I have some sort of problem.
Anyways, I could go on and on about “woe is me” and about how much it sucks, especially when it’s impossible to get away from porn when you sit in front of a computer all day long. I’m a little socially behind the curve, and now am pretty normal. But my reputation from the past still haunts me.
I’m glad that David Duchovny and other celebrities have this issue too, as it helps to legitimize the problem as real. Again, I think that most people deal with sex addiction privately, and many more people have it than is “reported”.
I have yet to go to SA or SAA or any type of group meeting, but that’s also because I’m currently in the process of moving. I’ve talked to a therapist but he wasn’t too helpful. I don’t think I’ll be able to do a 12-step program because I believe pretty strongly in evolution, Darwinism, etc and can’t accept “God”.
But somehow I’ll get through this. I hope.
** Note for those who say there isn’t a chemical aspect. When you orgasm your brain releases a hell of a lot of chemicals. It’s like the body’s own heroin. Regardless if the chemical is being generated from inside the body or the result of an external drug, your body still feels it and gets used to it. There are chemical issues involved. - babylonian, on 09/01/2008, -5/+8Hm That Is A Very Interesting Thing To Write In An Article.
- Shoogle, on 09/01/2008, -0/+3A good friend of mine is struggling with this as well. Unfortunately he's also tossed meth into the mix, so it's a physical AND chemical connection that's nearly impossible to control. The high he gets from combining sex and meth makes it so he doesn't want to have drug-free sex anymore. He's looking into group therapy but it's gonna be painfully difficult... These ignorant ***** who say there's no such thing as sex addiction really need to get a clue!
- FTLJohnson, on 09/01/2008, -0/+3No banner advertising... so you don't get revenue from clikthoughs, becuase no one is going to buy ***** from a spammer... so... why bother? Is it for the love of being banned?
- FreddieD, on 09/01/2008, -0/+3I used to be a sex addict, then I got married and my wife was a walking 12 step program.
- N256, on 09/01/2008, -0/+3Unless you're implying that "your mom" is so ugly that it ruins your sex drive, then that statement is meaningless. It's like saying heroin is the cure to your heroin addiction.
- newms32, on 09/01/2008, -1/+4Addiction doesn't exist? You need to elaborate on this one because it's sounding a little crazy right now
- jlian, on 09/01/2008, -0/+3Dang I lost the bet.
- Perfection, on 09/01/2008, -1/+3It's a real problem.
- ninjarabbits, on 09/01/2008, -1/+3So what are you saying?
1) sex with you is so bad that females will no longer desire it???????
OR
2) the prospect of sex with you is so bad that females will no longer desire it??????? - rstinnett, on 09/01/2008, -3/+5I guess in the grand scheme of things that it's better to have this addiction than others that are even worse.
- Grolsch, on 09/01/2008, -9/+11This is so stupid. I dont believe in addiction,its basic human instinct to seek please and avoid pain, be it sex,drugs, rock'n'roll or whatever.
- jessehadden, on 09/01/2008, -0/+2I didn't even know he had this show, or this role, until I heard about his little "problem." You may have a point!
- rumplestiltz, on 09/01/2008, -2/+4made me laugh. thanks.
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