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Fighting with spouse can be good for your health

cnn.com — Men rejoice at the possibility of living until the age of 200

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  • seejunaid, on 03/27/2008, -10/+2That's why Indians live more......
  • hurt911gen, on 03/27/2008, -10/+4Proud to claim the article's first "OMG 27 DIGGS AND ALREADY ON TEH FRONT PAGE???//" post.
    • redrepublic, on 03/27/2008, -3/+0You beat me to it.
    • badqat, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2Sorry, but it was up with 26...I guess you gotta take your "wins" and celebrate, eh?
  • cmuwriter, on 03/27/2008, -1/+16Wow, my parents must be the very picture of health.
    • Mootabolife, on 03/27/2008, -1/+2My parents kind of fake argue about everything stupid.. does that count?
      • IAmTomCruise, on 03/28/2008, -0/+0That's called flirting for old people my child.
  • jm4847, on 03/27/2008, -4/+20lol @ men who get married only to be yelled at, controlled and emasculated by some bitch. The downs of marriage are too many to be listed here.
    I think people like me, who just want to be by themselves, are the future.
    In b4 ad hominem attacks about me being a virgin and ***** like that.
    • badqat, on 03/27/2008, -3/+11One marriage was all I needed to convince me I'm never doing it again...one and done.
    • tont0r, on 03/27/2008, -4/+5Being by yourself is easy when you dont have any other option.
    • cmiller1, on 03/27/2008, -1/+10I for one am certainly enjoying monogamy. I played the "game" for many years and sometimes it left you feeling fantastic and sometimes it left you feeling like crap. I'm just happy now that things are more stable in my life, I won't have to deal with heartbreak at least for a long time, and I have more time to devote to my hobbies considering I don't have to devote a sizable portion of my week to being on the "dating scene" anymore. I think we work things out pretty equally and fairly, I can't ever imagine it making me feel any worse than losing one or being rejected did before I found the one for me.
    • yingjai, on 03/27/2008, -4/+3there is no future if everyone stays alone forever.
    • mahdaeng, on 03/27/2008, -2/+2It's a shame you haven't found the right person yet. I, too, am very independent and love time alone, but I found a woman who is very similar in that regard. It works out great. We enjoy the time we spend together and enjoy the time we each spend alone. Find the right person and you'll never look back.
  • deviouskoopa, on 03/27/2008, -2/+4Maybe not for her health in some cases...
  • ElAssoWipo, on 03/27/2008, -11/+32Americans: so fat that arguing is now considered exercize.
    • knetworx, on 03/27/2008, -4/+8I can't believe someone dugg him down. Honestly, America as a whole is obese, and this comment is funny as hell. Kudos to you, Mr. Ass Wipe, you get my digg.
  • ibeandy, on 03/27/2008, -0/+5Must be why people are getting married later and later in their lives here in Ireland...
    • davidg11, on 03/27/2008, -0/+4I agree. What guy wants to get married and do 10 loads of laundry? This article shows why not to get married in the first place.
    • knetworx, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2Clearly, none of them want to be married for 180 years.
  • crapmatic, on 03/27/2008, -1/+7I guess I'd better get out and see my pussywhipped friends more often while they're still around.
  • DanBoodro, on 03/27/2008, -1/+1Well thank God for that.
  • skyscape, on 03/27/2008, -3/+9that is a psychological lie from the south. Fighting with spouse leads to marriage hell and then divorce. See I didn't even have to get paid to come up with this study
    • ChocChunkOaties, on 03/27/2008, -0/+4Lack of communication about how you feel is what gets you divorced. if you can't have a decent argument then both admit you were wrong to argue you'd never get to make up and by make up i mean screw each others brains out - which is good for your health too.
    • skyscape, on 03/27/2008, -0/+4constant argument leads to divorce, because argument is not an effective communication medium over time. In contrary, arguments occur because of ones lack of good communication and unwillingness to change
    • VinceNoir, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2I agree. There are far too many people who want to justify their fights and frame them as "positive". The article, however, is misleading. If you read between the lines, it's not saying that fighting is good. At the core it's about communicating. The problems seem to arise when one or the other spouse fails to communicate disagreement or displeasure with something.
  • egh3, on 03/27/2008, -1/+14Yay, digg is stealing from fark headlines again.

    http://forums.fark.com/cgi/fark/comments.pl?IDLink ...
    • WhatIDigg, on 03/27/2008, -1/+2C'mon man... they've been doing that since day one!
  • weister42, on 03/27/2008, -4/+9You'll be surprised on how many guys are willing to put up with drama for some pussy, it only gets uncomfortable when she starts talking about slitting her throat because she got drunk, kicked you out of her house then calls your cellphone crying to tell you to come home, and you said no. Or, she kicked you out because she asked you for your guy friend's phone number and you called her a slut as a joke. Or, she calls you on random and asked if you're still seeing your ex, you said no but she said "you're ***** lying because I just had a dream with you and her together."

    Oh I can go on and on...
    • plizard, on 03/27/2008, -2/+2please.... don't
    • badqat, on 03/27/2008, -1/+5Wow...thanks for that look into a very disturbing life!

      btw...hope you're not still seeing that nutbag.
    • VinceNoir, on 03/27/2008, -2/+7Dude... It sounds like the women aren't the problem. You are. You need to re-evaluate who you have a relationship with. Hint: looks don't matter as much as sanity and trustworthiness. It works both ways too. There are just as many insane and untrustworthy guys as there are women.
      • weister42, on 03/27/2008, -0/+3I know...that's what I get for meeting younger girls at bars and clubs...some girls are perfectly beautiful until she gets drunk and all hell breaks loose.
    • ApeInago, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1a dream. A DREAM?

      wtf man, come on, date intelegent women.
  • garvallagh, on 03/27/2008, -1/+3Women in particular may put their health at risk by holding back during arguments with their spouse (written by Diane Mapes)

    • knetworx, on 03/27/2008, -0/+8Have you ever seen a woman hold back during an argument with her spouse?
  • nigirimon, on 03/27/2008, -0/+10"Women who 'self-silenced' during conflict with their spouse, compared with women who did not, had four times the risk of dying, " according to findings published in 2007 in the journal "Psychosomatic Medicine."

    Don't you love the way the popular press reports statistics. I was sort of under the impression that one's risk of dying is pretty close to unity.
    • aladrin, on 03/27/2008, -2/+2Try not to use words longer than 2 syllables next time so you won't get dugg down. You didn't really think people here knew what 'approaches unity' means, did you?
      • ApeInago, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1i dugg him up for using longer words appropriately.
  • mcturdTheThird, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1Wow. I'm gonna live a long, long time.
  • davidg11, on 03/27/2008, -4/+14"He's supposed to wash and I'm supposed to fold, but he does like 10 loads at a time and then dumps it all on the bed. With two little kids, I don't have time to fold 10 loads all at once, so I'll leave it. And then he'll come home and throw it into the closet so he can get into bed. And then it just spirals out of control from there."

    If this guy does 10 f'n loads of laundry for you, he's better than 95% of the married guys out there who wouldn't. So SHUT THE F UP and stop bitchin that you're too lazy to do your part of the chores. I wonder who came up with the "he's supposed wash and I'm supposed to.."..YOU DID YOU COMPLAINING WHORE! You made the chore rules and now you're complaining about them? Son of a .....
    (yes, I have marital issues and it does feel better getting it out, thanks cnn article!)
    • popfrogs, on 03/27/2008, -1/+4I gotta wonder where she's at when he does 10 loads at a time and dumps it on the bed. Most people have what, 1 washer and 1 dryer? So one load comes out of the dryer, and he puts it on the bed where she's supposed to fold it. It's an every-45-minutes thing. It's not gonna kill her.
      Lazy ***** != right to complain.
    • tipexy, on 03/27/2008, -2/+2This is an issue of work flow you dick. Couples set up arrangements to help things move smoothly. If someone saves up a week of washing because they couldn't be arsed to do it consistently through the week it ***** up the next persons work load.
      Folding and putting the clothes away is a bigger job than washing them in these days of super automated washing machines anyway.
      And I am sorry, but I don't buy that "I shouldn't complain, he is better than that wife beater my sister married/ coke head my friend married/ serial adultery my cousin married" argument.
  • gimlik, on 03/27/2008, -1/+4"Fighting with spouse can be good for your health" = *****
    • ChocChunkOaties, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2releasing anger = good for your health. Better to release it than to bottle it all up inside eh?
  • faskill, on 03/27/2008, -0/+6Anyone else tired of these ***** studies that contradict eachother? This is good for you... wait it's bad for you... wait, nope, now it's good again... I mean really? How are we supposed to assume any validity to any of these?
    • thedogfatherx, on 03/27/2008, -0/+3Agreed. Same thing with food. It's good for you. No it causes cancer now. Wait, it prevents cancer. Wait it's good for you if taken moderately.
      • cmiller1, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2The problem is the way the media reports studies as fact. A study is a very important part of the progress, but now somebody has to say "wait, let's try this again but keep an eye on another variable too" and that's how science gets a rolling. The science of nutrition has said for many years that the key to health was eating a VARIED and BALANCED diet, which would go along with your observation that generally it turns out the best way to intake anything is in moderation.
    • skyscape, on 03/27/2008, -2/+2you have to take psychology with grain of salt. Although psychologists try to make you believe that psychology is factual science; its not because its all about statistics. In my university, and I believe you will say the same of yours, psychology instructors are the most confused and lost teachers on the campus. Why? because for them every freaking human deed is somehow rational. They talk rational about criminal mind, gays, pedophiles...etc
  • VinceNoir, on 03/27/2008, -0/+6First off... I buried this article for being lame merely due to the headline. And... Wow. I don't know what to say. I think the issue isn't really that couples who don't fight are more at risk of dying. The issue appears to be lack of communication. That's really what the article focuses on. You have to communicate your displeasure at something and that doesn't necessarily result in a fight if both parties involved respect each other. It's not just a simple formula where you fight with your spouse. And by no means should anyone find justification for fighting.

    That said, every relationship is different. Some people thrive on drama and others eschew it. If you and your spouse can work things out through a fight and still love and respect each other in the end, more power to you. But fights are not a requirement for a healthy relationship. That's what's wrong with this article's headline. Again... sensationalism is rampant. I suspect that a more truthful headline would have been less interesting: "Communicating Disagreements within a Marriage Can Be Good for your Health". That would draw fewer readers, but... at least it would be true.
  • 4pple5auce, on 03/27/2008, -0/+3ahh yes, the prospects of living to 200 years old and fighting with my spouse every day of it... i hope suicide becomes socially acceptable
  • ColonelJessup, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2I have been slapping around my wife the day after our honeymoon, and I am healthy as a horse!
    • joshhan, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1What do you tell a woman with two black eyes?
  • Homerr, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1I've literally spent the past 3 years and $10,000 worth of therapy to get to the point where I can yell at my wife. Our relationship is much better now.
    Gawd, I ***** hate my codependent parents.
  • nirav72, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1Note to self - take up wife beating for good health. (Until she starts hitting back).
  • samuraix98, on 03/27/2008, -1/+0How i see it is that my girlfriend and i might maybe has a little too much anger but in the end its exactly what our relationship thrives on...
  • MasterThief117, on 03/27/2008, -0/+3I would rather live until 70 knowing I had a happy loving relationship than living until even 200 with a stressful argumentative relationship.
  • fsumus, on 03/27/2008, -0/+3"Women who 'self-silenced' during conflict with their spouse, compared with women who did not, had four times the risk of dying,"

    So bitchy women can live forever? Yikes
    • ishotthedoor, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2It's true. My great-grandmother died at age 99. On her deathbed, she said to my grandfather, her son, "Come closer...so I can smack you." She hated everyone and was the most spiteful woman ever. My grandmother on my other side can't go two seconds without criticizing everyone around her. Thanks grandma, you don't have to tell me I'm gaining weight, you bitch. She is now 83. Longevity and bitchiness apparently runs in my family.
  • jimjoke, on 03/27/2008, -1/+1Protip: a soap bar in a sock: the wife-beater's weapon of choice since 1950.
  • aztrovoi, on 03/27/2008, -0/+0and after arguing, a good old frenzy make up sex
  • Bumblebee418, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1 I just learned this in my interpersonal Comm class and I was surprised too. It turns out that the theory believes that agreeing to disagree does not constitute as a healthy end to the argument.
    So I'm essentially screwed in my relationships. lol
  • konpentchev, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1The Great Ike Turner only lived to 76
  • aserer511, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1if you go by this, we'll never have another case of heart attacks here in AMerica
  • mahdaeng, on 03/27/2008, -0/+2OK - here goes another post that is sure to be unpopular - so I'm pretty sure it will be dugg down. Nevertheless...

    FTA: [["He's supposed to wash and I'm supposed to fold, but he does like 10 loads at a time and then dumps it all on the bed. With two little kids, I don't have time to fold 10 loads all at once, so I'll leave it. And then he'll come home and throw it into the closet so he can get into bed. And then it just spirals out of control from there."]]

    Why is he supposed to wash? Why can't she wash? After all, isn't he the one who's working all day to pay for those clothes in the first place? If she doesn't like the way he does laundry, let her do the laundry. Problem solved.
  • bjs3171, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1did a human submit this article? where in the hell does it mention anyone living to 200 y/o in this article? and what does that have to do with fighting?
  • leatherback, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1The silent treatment is bad...but yelling at the top of your range could probably shorten your life just as quickly as remaining quiet.
  • solid12345, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1You think there is enough social security checks to keep you housed and fed until 200....
  • czeman, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1Sex is healthy, right? Fighting with your spouse is only health because it leads to make-up sex!
  • tweedius, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1This means I will live forever if I stay with my current girlfriend.
  • Serge157, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1Fighting with wife means aggressiveness. Which hormone is responsible for that? Testosterone? Who leaves longer? Who has more testosterone. What to do, if you ran out of testosterone? Replace it with hormone replacement therapy!
  • eviscerator, on 03/27/2008, -0/+1i dont mean to sound like a prick but doesn't the fact that you should talk about what troubles you speak for itself? i mean, if you need an article to tell you that .......well......
  • tamugirl, on 03/27/2008, -0/+0Good article, doesn't the bible speak on this also? "don't go to bed angry" something like that. I don't think everything has to be an argument though, it's all in the approach.
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