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- pingpants, on 07/11/2009, -0/+43most comedians would have zero material without them
- inactive, on 07/11/2009, -2/+37She's not even my mother-in-law yet, but I can surely name more than 5 'mistakes'.
- unknamed, on 07/11/2009, -2/+241. She talks.
2. She tries to have you killed.
3. She keeps talking.
4. She breathes.
5. She won't shut the ***** up. - Mankind121, on 07/11/2009, -0/+18Does digg really have the demographics to warrant a list on how to not be a bitchy mother in law?
- ZapRowsdowwer, on 07/11/2009, -0/+16Did anyone else read this as a way to write an episode of the Everybody Loves Raymond?
- s1ade, on 07/11/2009, -4/+19Basically that whole article summed up:
Women are bitchy.
Men crack open another beer and relax. - MikeyTwit, on 07/11/2009, -1/+15Man, am I lucky. I get along great with my mother in law . She lives with us about 85% of the time, since my father in law died 2 years ago (he was great too). She respects it's our house and pitches in all the time. She's part of the household as far as I'm concerned and I'm a-ok with that.
My mom and my wife also get along great. My mom gives us plenty of space and always respects my wife and I and the way we do things. My wife always comments how lucky she is to NOT have a mother in law like her sister's mother in law. Now she's a piece of work, always getting my sister in law's life. - jwalske, on 07/11/2009, -1/+141) Assuming your daughter-in-law wants your advice. Most don't want to hear "This is what I did so this is what you should do."
2) Thinking the mother-son relationship will not change after his marriage. Instead, says Apter, "mothers should assume that they will need to negotiate" a new way of communicating with their sons. "Mothers have to find a new mode of asking for their son's help or giving him advice and getting access to him."
3) Offering to help out with housework or disciplining the children. "Offers to help are often perceived as criticism," Apter said. "Walking into the house and saying, 'Let me iron my son's shirts for you,' implies to the daughter-in-law that you think that's her role, and she may bristle at that notion."
4) Trying too hard to be nice. "Some women are so worried about being perceived as an awful mother-in-law that they are too polite, they never say anything spontaneous, and that can put a real strain on the relationship," says Apter. "You shouldn't act as if you're worried that any disagreement could make the whole relationship fall apart."
5) Criticizing your daughter-in-law to your son. "This should be obvious but it's worth highlighting how damaging this is, because the son is very likely to bring up the topic with his wife," says Apter. Not only is she likely to get mad at the mother-in-law ("Why didn't she tell me to my face!?!"), she'll probably feel resentful toward her husband as well ("Why are you bringing this up to me? You're supposed to be on my side!"). "It just makes things worse," said Apter. "It's better to talk to your son and daughter-in-law together." - inactive, on 07/11/2009, -4/+16Wasn't really a funny list, and it was on page two with a one page introduction. Also, this is Digg. We don't have any mother-in-laws using this site. List was waaaay to serious. Buried.
- jimmyjones, on 07/11/2009, -3/+14The list is on page 2...
- Janinco, on 07/11/2009, -0/+8You are indeed very lucky!
- ferrell, on 07/11/2009, -1/+8living
- smemily, on 07/12/2009, -0/+6Those aren't that big of mistakes. The biggest mistakes my mother in law made were:
Trying to control us by threatening suicide.
Telling us we were making grandma and grandpa have a stroke and heart attack, respectively.
Calling my husband's office and trying to get him fired.
Announcing that she's glad we had a third boy so she doesn't have to care like she would if we had a daughter.
Taking her anger at me and my husband out on our kids.
And she acted normal until February. Talk about a ***** surprise. - pnmoore, on 07/11/2009, -0/+6It made the front page so obviously the answer is yes...I don't think some people realize how this thing works...
- s1ade, on 07/11/2009, -2/+8Looks like you forgot the <---- at the beginning of your sentence. :-p
- LocalDocal, on 07/11/2009, -0/+4Well, there appears to be a number of women on Digg, so who knows? This might be helpful to them.
On the other hand, I have to wonder how helpful it really is when advice #4 is basically 'being too nice and considerate will create strain'. If this is the case, then I wonder why not just treat your daughter-in-law the same way you treat your friends, and hope for the best?
Can't win everybody's hearts. - PixelMagic, on 07/12/2009, -0/+4Obviously, you've never heard my wife tell a story.
- jasdf, on 07/11/2009, -0/+3The article is about the man's mother and his wife.
- gumballer, on 07/11/2009, -3/+6I had a sexy time with my mother-in-law.
- NSResponder, on 07/12/2009, -0/+3Two words: Restraining Order.
Calling up your husband's office and trying to interfere with his employment is certainly actionable.
-jcr - jackson32, on 07/11/2009, -2/+5List is really tame compared to my ex-mother-in-law. That was one evil bitch.
- readacook, on 07/11/2009, -0/+3I read the ironing shirts bit in his mom's voice :(
- jasdf, on 07/11/2009, -0/+3She must be rich!
- tx500dom, on 07/11/2009, -1/+4My mother in law is cool. Actually, she just bought me a stand mixer for father's day lol
http://shop.kitchenproductdeals.com/show/amazon/B0 ... - andrewlotta, on 07/11/2009, -2/+5too late, already x'd out :-|
- PixelMagic, on 07/12/2009, -0/+2Digg will never pass up an opportunity to have a thread where they can bitch about women using various humours stereotypes about said women.
- smemily, on 07/12/2009, -0/+2We were prepared to but in the end it was unnecessary.
- pandawa, on 07/12/2009, -0/+2thats ***** up! you should see someone about that....
- lintmonkey, on 07/12/2009, -0/+2Longest. Introduction. Ever.
- Shnuffles, on 07/12/2009, -0/+2ex as in you killed her or ex as in you got a divorce?
- s0nicfreak, on 07/12/2009, -0/+1The plot thickens.
- neonoodle, on 07/11/2009, -0/+1Judging by that list, I know my mom will be a terrible mother-in-law.
- ml4rocky, on 07/12/2009, -0/+1Do it the real old-fashioned Jewish way. If she asks you any question, answer it with another question."Should I change the baby now?" "Oh, check if the baby is wet or just relax some more." "When are we eating?" "I wasn't yet so hungry but now I'm starting to get an appetite." THIS way, nothing is anybody's fault. The OTHER person really answered all the questions and everything's just fine. This can go on for a long time. I know. I did it myself...& it worked. No fighting....Lots of smiles...
- thinkdez, on 07/12/2009, -0/+1I disagree with the comment that the son's don't help the situation. That may be the opinion of the wives/mothers. I work hard to get my wife and mother to agree to something. In the end I get forced into siding with one or the other because they are both too hard headed to make any sort of compromise. Its a never ending battle and its frustrating because I end up looking like the bad person. If son's don't help the situation its because it is not taken into account that the husband is stuck between a rock and the hard place. I have even tried the crack a beer and let them battle it out method and still no luck.
On another note this article only examines the Wife - Mother in-law relationship not the Husband - Mother in-law relationship. My relationship with my mother in-law is quite good, but that might have to do with more of how good a cook she is. - notpeterf, on 07/12/2009, -0/+06) Threatening to break the fiance's kneecaps if he doesn't marry her daughter.
- evttnt, on 07/12/2009, -0/+0I never knew my mother-in-law. But, she was a German Russian that got evicted from Russia as a Baby in 1903 and wound up in San Jose CA where my wife was born in1929.
- leahpee, on 07/11/2009, -3/+3Not to brag, but my boyfriends mums have been a bit of a winner and are possibly only bitchy because the girlfriend is over possessive.
Girls are *****. - Anand999, on 07/11/2009, -1/+1To be fair, there was a list of 5 things for the mother in law and 5 things for the daughter in law. Oh wait, we don't have any women on digg either, so never mind.
- Asrrin29, on 07/11/2009, -1/+1Need to send this to my wife... and mother <_<
- henpecked, on 07/13/2009, -0/+0My husband and I had to live with my mil for several months(not my choice) I killed myself trying to appease her, cooked every night, cleaned, we did all the shopping, anything she asked(her asking for something is akin to ordering) and we paid her a nice sum of rent to live in one room. I constantly felt that I was in a "my son, my husband" battle with her. She wanted to iron his clothes, bought a birthday cake for him before I could and one morning when he overslept came banging on our door at 5am to wake him up...nevermind I didn't need to be up for another two hours. I would cook and she would make comments like "why are you cooking so much food?" Basically she made comments about pretty much everything. She never got the concept of "couple" time either. We would go in our room and try to watch a little tv while snuggling and she would come in and badger us until we came in the living room and watched tv with her, she got angry if we went out to dinner by ourselves and when we were able to afford a place of our own she got angry with us for leaving her and started a huge fight. When she doesn't get her way she brow beats the heck out of everyone until she does.
She is a perfect example of this article. I wish I could e-mail it to her. - inactive, on 07/11/2009, -1/+1Too, i mean. Too* I'm usually a Nazi about that.
- goodbick, on 07/11/2009, -2/+11-5: she exists
- Eezyville, on 07/11/2009, -4/+3Women never get along with each other. Where's the news?
- SamSks, on 07/11/2009, -3/+1Sooo, tell us more!
- Frostek, on 07/11/2009, -4/+2Why is this posted on Digg? Are the typical Diggers going to be affected by this?
- Shaunel, on 07/11/2009, -3/+0I remember reading this at least a year ago. Buried.
- inactive, on 07/11/2009, -7/+2Who cares about the mother in law? Really? I don't even care about my own mother.
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