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- Beanlover, on 10/12/2007, -1/+20If you base who you marry and why you stay married on sex and sex alone then don't bother in the first place.
The first year or two of a marriage are the hardest (assuming you didn't live together before marriage..and sometimes that doesn't matter either). Having sexual chemistry helps the marrieds to get over the humps (pun intended) until they forge enough of a bond to help them get through the rest of their lives together. This assumes the husband and wife are committed to each other and not just out for selfish sexual gratification. If they aren't serious about being committed then, like I said, they shouldn't be getting married in the first place. - jamesey, on 10/12/2007, -3/+19After 2 years, a chick usually puts on 20 pounds. That's why the "chemistry" stops.
- 4answer2, on 10/12/2007, -2/+7Marriage should be a renewable contract that expires after five years
- IHaveIssues, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5I'm going to assume that's why I find the babysitter hot.
- Friend, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5I wonder how long before "we've been together for more than two years" becomes adequate grounds for divorce...
- T8_um, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4I'm lucky if mine last a week.
- giveer, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4Those who think stuff like this is "proof" that monogamy isn't natural haven't figured out the difference between committing to someone because you love them and committing to someone because it gets you off. Because hey, if that's your basis then yes, monogamy would be stupid - No point committing your life to something else when your really only interested in what you're getting back.
That mindset, mind you, is no "proof" of negating an entire lifestyle. - Arramol, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3"Thank you! Even more proof that monogamy is not natural."
Did you even read the article? What it proves is that basing a relationship entirely on sex isn't natural.
"The scientists found that the lust molecule was replaced by the so-called "cuddle hormone" - oxytocin - in couples who had been together for several years."
Sex is a PART of a relationship. It is NOT the only or even central purpose. Even scientific studies have found that sexual attraction and romantic love are two separate functions: http://www.livescience.com/humanbiology/050531_love_sex.html
On the whole, a very interesting article. Dugg. - francisew, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3This is an article stolen from the BBC! Look at the article linked at the bottom of the blog post: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/4669104.stm
Argh. Poster: Why not post the original source? - rekrapt, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2Married 8 years, no itch at 7. Still find time for lustful activities even though we have 2 kids. Then again, I married a wild French chick... so...
- CrazyYossarian, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2Something must be wrong with me then because I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years and every time she shows a little skin I'm ready to go. Same goes for her.
I guess I found the only other woman on the planet that has the same over active "love molecules" producing gland and I sure as hell am not going to give that up after reading this article. - patmfitz, on 10/12/2007, -2/+4I guess I can stop urinating all over the house now.
- steubens, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2@ francisew
Its called web2.0, and it goes as follows:
1) copy part of news story from major outlet
2) post a link to your entry, on your blog, of the copied story
3) ?????
4) profit!!!
Just about everyone I've noticed that does this, do it all the time.
http://digg.com/users/dr4tom/submitted
Yes, these people do make money with this simple ploy, yes, they are scumbags. - master_of_fm, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2after being together for 7 years, living together for 4 years, and being married for 1.5 years, my wife and i have decided that we are the only people in this world that can tolerate the other. the only thing that makes my wife unattracitve to me is that she still smokes, when she was supposed to have quit multiple times over the past few years. other than that my wife is just as attractive as when we first started dating. she hates the fact that i contiunally try to "molest" her on a daily basis.
- shagybones, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3GENEHackman:
"Most people here have never even seen a live girl naked that they didn't cost them money. What good is this information to them?"
I'm married and have had plenty of girlfriends over the years. Let me tell you something, you pay for every woman you see naked! Even if it is a one night stand or random hookup it still costs $$ - mos8ball, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1One theory why sexual chemistry only lasts two years goes back to early mankind.
The male's main objective is to pass on his genes to as many females as possible. The female's main obejctive is find the strongest male to mate with.
When there's a match, to ensure that his offspring survives, the male sticks around for 9 months to make sure his offspring is born safely and then he sticks around for about another year to make sure his offspring can walk on its own. Hence the 2 years of commitment.
After the initial 2 years, the male is ready again to mate with another female who agrees to mate with him. - thyratron, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1In response to the post about packing on the pounds dampening attraction - That seems very plausable. High fat/cholesterol also lowers a males ability to function. Aside from the media running ads for everything bad (and inviting political corruption by accepting paid political ads), I think the major problem for many Americans is high frustose corn syrup. Start reading labels. Its in everything because its cheaper than sugar (corn is plentiful here). Aside from the directly contributing calories from the most harmful sugar there is, it also tends to suppress the brains "I'm full" response. For many people the problem isn't just what they eat, but HOW MUCH.
So avoid that fructose and have lotsa sex to work off the calories! - human1138, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1i have been with my bf for 7 years and we still have a great and active sex life. everytime still feels great and i never get bored, i am still attracted to him like it was our first date. this article is a bunch of bs.
- swindmill, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1This holds true as far as my last relationship, which lasted 3.5 years. Ultimately, you can't be with someone for life because they make you super horny. It's difficult to balance the desire for great and new sex with the desire for a long-term relationship, but it seems that most people reach a point where a loving relationship means more than great sex. Just make sure you get the great sex over with before entering into such a relationship.
it could be thought of as two stages of life I suppose . . . - runner91786, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1To geneHACKman:
Actually, more nerds have relationships than you give credit for. Personally I have been in one for 2.5 years - froz3ntear, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years but we only dated for 6 months or so before she moved 2 - 3 hours away, so we only see each other ever so often... but when we do... we go crazy for each other... Could maybe the solution to balance with great new sex and a long relationship just be taking vacations to let it reset?... haha... im still very attracted to her.
- jlbraun, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I'd say that the primary reason for this is that either or both halves of the couple pack on the pounds after they get together. My girl is 30 and looks 21, gets carded all the time. Been together 5 years. We've made a vow to keep attractive for each other, as that's what keeps couples together, happy and *****. American women in particular don't understand this at all.
- yikiad, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1"Thank you! Even more proof that monogamy is not natural.
Sure, for some people it can be beneficial (hey, we're all different), but that doesn't give those people the right to judge those of us who refuse to pretend to be happy with only one partner for our entire life..."
you are right, you have the right to do as you wish. you don't have the right to lie to someone who trusts you, though. break up BEFORE you move on.
just my opinion... - Lynxpro, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1I seriously doubt any suggestion that there are tons of straight men seeing other men on the side. 5% of the general populace cannot be classified as a ton. This isn't Greco-Roman times and thus there is no accepted societal pressure pushing for such trysts. And as for the swinging "lifestyle," bi male activity is not the norm, whereas bi females are.
Now, as for the idea that 50% of men involved in relationships with women are seeing other women on the side, that's believeable. While our society does not legally sanction polygamy, its certainly engrained genetically based upon the stats as to the reasons leading to divorce. - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -0/+1Been with my girlfriend for nearly two years, and I can relate to this. I find I have become much less romantic and attracted to her and looking at other women. It just seems like I've lost interest in her.
- Dogtown7, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0This article is true! That's why I switched hands every few years...
- Greenline, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0whoa there techchef
- jicon, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Great...
I guess instead of hearing "I have a headache", I'll get this excuse instead.
I always told her that I had powdered tylenol on my penis, and wondered if she'd like it orally, or as a suppository. Thanks BBC. Thanks for nothing. - AnthonySD, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0old.
- Kman, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0This just in! A new hormone called Bitchosterone was recently discovered. Possible link to sexual dysfunction. More at 8.
- impdr, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0i can barely get it to last two showers.
- tidejwe, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Oh my gosh. . . some of you people are so closed minded and presumptuous. The study ONLY says that the hormonal chemicals (USUALLY) CHANGE after two years. The empirical evidence says NOTHING about how this affects relationships or love. It may be that the chemicals are to induce us to be sexually attracted to a person and as time goes on, we begin to be addicted to them in other ways. It does not imply that Humans are meant to start new relationships every 2 years. It does not imply that you will get bored and break up with people every two years. ALL IT SAYS is that the chemical balance changes in roughly two years. You may still love your spouse as much as you ever did, you may even still be addicted to sex as much as you ever were, but quit saying "THIS ISN'T TRUE" because the empirical evidence is conclusive. . . the chemicals change in 2 years. You are welcome to interpret this differently, but quit saying it's not true unless you can PROVE that the chemical/hormonal balance DOESN'T Change! Who cares that it changes? I'm married too, and I'm not going to "REFUSE TO DIGG THIS" because I disagree with the INTERPRETATION of the study. I think the evidence is NEAT, and I can interpret it in MANY different ways that don't involve "I need to get a divorce every two years." Digg it for the fact that we've discovered something new, and make your own conclusion as to what it means. THINK for yourself once in a while instead of whining...GEEZ....
- Detour, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0this is not true
Umm, yes it is. - ramsinks.com, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Sounds like a child with a keyboard.
*as he scans for more porn* - DaMaN841, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I think I see a flaw in this article...The lead researches are Italian! I'm Italian and I believe the motto is, grow up, get married, then get a girlfriend =P
- hayden.evans, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0yes! digg number 1337!
- meefman, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Females... bah! What is this 'sex' you talk about?
- CanadianAviator, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Perfect timing.
- Sabot, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0These people that keep saying that we have been together for 5,9,10,15 years and we attack each other like teen agers are lying. You are just trying to build your ego. The reality is your wife or Sig other still lets you get some, so your just happy with that. You don't have the brains to understand that your relationship is different now.
- xutopia, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I've been with the same woman for almost 6 years now. I'm still very much attracted to her. Maybe she secretly isn't anymore but she accepted to marry me 3 years into our relationship...
How can you not be attracted to my wife? She has breasts!! - motorbikematt, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0@ geeky
Sexual Tension. The Key to it all. - definiteform, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0I need some love molecules. :|
- Goracle, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0This would interest me if I based my relationships solely on 'sexual chemistry.' Luckily there are still people in the world who value things such as personality, character, and non-physical traits. No digg.
- lukas88, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0My parents have been married for 36 years. As gross as it sounds they are still attracted to eachother.
- DisposableRob, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0@Sirocco
Poligamy is much more common than monogamy. Hell, the male sometimes leaves before the kids are born in many cases. - joel2600, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0anyone ever read Brave New World by Aldous Huxley.
the man was right on - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -0/+0Explains Jlo's many mangled relationships, all of which lasted fewer than (gasp) a few years..
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