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- tempfd, on 01/23/2008, -4/+80"I'm so glad you came to talk to me, but I have one request for the future. I find that word offensive, so please don't use it."
Haha, yeeeah, I wish that's what I got when I was growing up. I grew up with full cable access, so I knew quite a lot of foul language when I was growing up, but almost always kept it in check around adults. Once when I was around 10 my mom heard me say"*****" and she yelled, "say it again and I'll have you eat it, mister!" I paused for awhile thinking if she'd actually do something so gross. I don't know why, but I replied with perhaps one of the greatest and dumbest questions of my childhood: "what if I say pussy?" I thought it was clever, but I got my ass kicked. What sucks is she told my dad about what I said later on and he laughed himself to tears! What the hell?! - fribhey, on 01/23/2008, -5/+73pussy parenting 101
- CinaMichele, on 01/23/2008, -3/+66If memory serves me right, when I was a kid, if I said "*****" I think my chances of hearing "I'm so glad you came to talk to me, but I have one request for the future. I find that word offensive, so please don't use it." were slim to none. More likely than not it was a bar of soap in the mouth or a healthy beating. To tell the truth, if I heard those words coming out of my dad's mouth, I'm pretty sure I would have laughed....and the situation might have ended up even worse than before.
- Delusionist, on 01/23/2008, -19/+58"I'm so glad you came to talk to me, but I have one request for the future. I find that word offensive, so please don't use it."
What the *****? If I were a kid and I heard that coming out of my parent's mouth I'd smack the ***** out of them for being hippie *****. - GrzOnFilm, on 01/23/2008, -3/+36Well, I know for sure kids don't understand sarcasm. My daughters never get it, they take any sarcastic statement at face value, it's ends up funny most of the time.
- N3tw0rk, on 01/23/2008, -0/+33all on one page
http://www.rd.com/content/printContent.do?contentI ... - dannyapplesauce, on 01/23/2008, -4/+36Message to Redear's Digest: I can't see your ads, keep your ***** on one page, that's why I have a damn scroll wheel on my mouse!
- themanipulator, on 01/23/2008, -6/+37that article was complete BS... seriously it basically said:
"Use circumlocution to avoid saying what you actually mean so that your kids don't get offended by what you really mean."
grow a pair... and say what you mean... none of this "I'm so glad you came to talk to me..." BS... no kid will believe that..
tell them "WATCH YOUR LANGUAGE" and don't worry about their feelings [they're going to be pissed off just by the fact that you told them not to do something] it down... no one else will so get them used to the real world. - crazzy88ss, on 01/23/2008, -0/+30Give it ten years; it'll be their method of choice for communicating with you.
- skored, on 01/23/2008, -2/+28If more parents knew how to talk (and listen) to their kids the right way -- we would have a lot less problems in this world....
- chazizzle, on 01/23/2008, -4/+25"parents ask too many questions" --- no sh-t... I'm a parent and I can't help myself even though I know it's pointless. My favorite is "Why did you do that?" Like there's a good answer out there/
- jakefloyd, on 01/23/2008, -0/+17Clever little ten year old.
Horny little ten year old. - koick, on 01/23/2008, -0/+17In short, talk to your kids a little more like adults. A friend of the family has always talked to his grandkids like little adults, and they are some of the smartest kids I know. (Note I said talk, not treat, you still need to serve as their mentor/discipliner).
- dunderballer, on 01/23/2008, -0/+15That was actually my favorite point. Looking back at my own childhood, I think I compartmentalized the self that I showed to my parents and the self that I showed to my friends. I think it would help if parents respected their kids' individuality more. Sure, parents can still encourage clean language and those sorts of things, but they shouldn't do it in a way that encourages kids to simply sensor what they reveal to their parent(s) rather than improving their behavior.
- leerayIG88, on 01/23/2008, -1/+16Captain Oveur: You ever been in a cockpit before?
Joey ( a young kid): No sir, I've never been up in a plane before.
Captain Oveur: You ever seen a grown man naked?
Airplane! - skyshock1, on 01/23/2008, -2/+16Hey Maddox, why the hell don't you update your page more often?
- golod1289, on 01/23/2008, -5/+18I honestly cannot stop laughing at this. Wow.
- ripstuntz, on 01/23/2008, -0/+13#8. Go tell your mom to make me a sandwich
- rugby4ward, on 01/23/2008, -7/+17Feel good PC crap. I am amazed they paid someone to write this silly article.
- banmaster, on 01/23/2008, -0/+10There is a generic answer tfor every question:
"COZ" - ScienceBlog, on 01/23/2008, -0/+10I can't wait to be a parent... Actually, maybe I can :)
- misskari, on 01/23/2008, -5/+14Thanks for helping Pussify America's youth, Readers Digest. :/
- TBBucs, on 01/23/2008, -0/+9No, he just heard that as "I'm in trouble again." You should phrase it like this: "I'm guessing that you made that lame comment to try to gain Internet popularity, but that's not the way to go about it."
- NathanielJ, on 01/23/2008, -0/+9If my parents talked to me like this, I would have run away from home due to feeling like I was living inside an after-school special.
How about you talk to your kids like they're real people, and not absolute morons that you need to say things like "I totally understand what you must have gone through. Tell me about it." to. - windyridge, on 01/23/2008, -5/+14It's not always easy to understand your kids because often they don't understand themselves! Especially teenagers. I have two of them! When asked "Why did you do that", they may often reply, "I don't know" because often they truly DO NOT know. The reason portion of a young brain does not fully develop until much later while the emotional center is almost mature. Doesn't that say it all?
- jkahrs595, on 01/23/2008, -0/+9If your goal is to create a child that is overly sensitive to every form of verbal discipline (not even that, verbal explanation at the most)... then please, follow these 7 easy steps.
When your kids are acting like complete animals in the grocery store, I'll know that you must care enough about them to take parenting lessons from a magazine. - Emused, on 01/23/2008, -1/+10IMO the most profound and (albeit late for me) eyeopening phrase I have heard."By the time you realize you are an adult, you have already made five choices that will effect the rest of your life".I am a dad with 4 teenagers, all of whom are great kids, with to graduating high school with honours* this year. *yes that is how we spell honor in Canada
- Enuratique, on 01/23/2008, -2/+11Phew! Glad to hear "Shut the ***** up you little bastard unless you want another taste of the back of my hand" is still A-OK.
- mikesbaker, on 01/23/2008, -3/+11more like 7 ways to patronize your children. 5 is especially stupid.
What you say: "Don't talk to strangers."
What they hear: "Anyone you don't know is trying to hurt you."
A better way to say it: "Don't talk to people who make you feel uncomfortable. Here's how to tell."
I'm pretty sure that random kiddy rapers are specialist in making kids feel comfortable
also how well do you think that number two is going to work when your kid is running around yelling ***** ***** ***** ***** ***** *****!!! #3 would likely lead to a total tantrum in a store. I could go on but why bother. - Emused, on 01/23/2008, -2/+10Dad can't type either, I have 2 kids graduating high school with honours this year.
- daviddiaz, on 01/23/2008, -0/+8well, my parents never hit me or truly scalded me for using bad language. In fact, my dad usually tells me "watch what you say, because you might offend someone." I don't think that that's necessarily PC ***** or anything. Honestly I think it's better than parents who freak out when they hear their kids say "this sucks" or something equally unimportant.
I can't imagine someone being as wordy as the magazine article says to be, but getting that point across isn't a bad idea. It's how I grew up. - inactive, on 01/23/2008, -1/+9I hated when adults talked down to me, I really hope I can become a child psychologist solely in the interest of telling other people that kids are smarter than they think for the most part, and talking down to them only hinders their development.
- StigNordas, on 01/23/2008, -0/+7This is way too 'attachment parenting' for me. Especially the "share your stuff" quote "Jesse would like to play with your race car for a while, but it's still yours and he will give it back." *****, tell them to "Take Turns" instead, much more effective.
- typicalusername, on 01/23/2008, -9/+16You know, I love how child psychologists tell us that we don't know how to talk to our kids, and we talk the way our parents did to us. Guess what!? They did it the way their parents did it, and you know what? We haven't entirely screwed over our species, so what the hell is it with this PC *****. If I would have heard "The store is filled with great things today, but we've got lots at home already and we're not going to bring home anything more." My brain would have said, "Why the ***** couldn't you have just said NO rather than waste my time with that *****. Followed by a "if we don't need things? Why the hell are you buying another pair of shoes Mom?"
- sofaKing812, on 01/23/2008, -4/+11Seriously? Reader Digest?
- inactive, on 01/23/2008, -6/+13Articles like this is why we have so many spoiled brats running around parents are afraid to spank there kids.
- RogerT1, on 01/23/2008, -0/+7odd - "You're mother is a whore/Your father is a drunk" isn't listed at all
- chuckDontSurf, on 01/23/2008, -0/+7Yeah, the language thing was ridiculous, but some of the others were good, like not telling them "You're the best!" every time they scribble some lines on a piece of paper. That leads to narcissistic little twits.
- ciano, on 01/23/2008, -1/+8Untrue. As a teenager, I can safely say that there is a reason for everything. "I don't know" is code for "I either don't want you to know or I am ashamed of the reason." There are no uncertainties.
- kaelyiesta, on 01/23/2008, -1/+8He's too busy smacking hippie *****, naturally.
- Aticper, on 01/24/2008, -0/+6As a teenager, I'm afraid I have to call you on that one.
The reasons for doing something are not always clear to anyone. Going in to your own motivations in details is often tiresome, especially for a decision that you do not personally feel to be important.
Also, if your parents are asking that question of you, it usually means that you have done something wrong, in which case your primary goal is to be out of the conversation as quickly as possible. "I don't know" is a convenient alternative to a long and painful examination of self-motivation. - Veritate, on 01/23/2008, -0/+6Or, just be realistic and don't give your kids a hard time over nothing.
I told my seven-year old son about giving the finger, and told him if he did it in public, he'd get in trouble. I don't attribute any blame to him if he does it, but warn him of the results.
It's entirely natural for him to want to push the boundaries a bit. With me, he doesn't have boundaries on speech. If he wanted to curse, I'd let him -- but only with me.
As for the most of the rest of it, it matters much less what you actually say to your kids and much more how you treat them. Every parent is going to make some verbal slip at some point; the actual behavior is what really matters. - pcslugster, on 01/23/2008, -0/+6What you say: "Don't worry -- it'll be okay."
What they hear: "You're such a drama queen!"
A better way to say it: "I totally understand what you must have gone through. Tell me about it."
...If you understand what they went through, why have them tell you about it??? - dasbush, on 01/23/2008, -3/+9While we have not *entirely* screwed over our species, I would definably say there is room for improvement. If saying "Please wear your coat" instead of "Don't you think you should wear your coat?" can change one person, it is easily worth it.
And if I have two kids and do this, and they each have two kids, it'll add up. Plus if the 100+ (as of now) people who dugg this start to do this it could actually change the way the world works. Might be worth the risk to listen and break the mold. - Wargalas, on 01/23/2008, -0/+6Here's a statement I'd love to hear parents tell their children: NO!
- Modiga, on 01/23/2008, -0/+5Or as someone I know put it "When it comes to abortions, you have to put just the right amount of pressure on the girl. Otherwise you'll just end up damaging her kidneys."
- tech42er, on 01/24/2008, -0/+5But do you honestly think using cryptic, politically correct language with your kids will help them?
- ieataquacrayons, on 01/23/2008, -4/+9If you don't have a condom, pull and pray....It's up to you which side of the list that should go on...
- Sheshymaroii, on 01/23/2008, -2/+7If you talk like that to your kids, they WILL become literally "***** Up"
- qber, on 01/23/2008, -0/+5My parents said every single one of the things in the "how not to say it" category, and I still turned out okay.
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