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- IHaveIssues, on 10/12/2007, -3/+48O.M.G. : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bs8WtREI0Ho&mode=related&search=
That ain't right. :-) - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -2/+41I always heard that eHarmony is full of 30 year old women who used to be hot and whored around in their 20s with the "wrong" guys and now want to settle down with the nerdy high-wage earner who they wouldn't have talked to 2 years before...
That and they have herpes. - brstilson, on 10/12/2007, -4/+35"I could name 2 couples I know who used it and both are now married."
Those 2 couples have a 50%+ chance of getting divorced. Getting married /= success. - drlha, on 10/12/2007, -4/+22Yes, I can say a similar thing (my sister in law is engaged to someone she met over eHarmony). However I still hate them due to how unbearably smug the guy is in their commercial.
- Gryffydd, on 10/12/2007, -1/+19@brstilson
I think of places like eHarmony as being an eBay for people. You may have a piece of horribly tacky kitsch that no one near you wants to buy, but put it up on eBay and sure enough, *somebody* will buy it. In the same way you can have all sorts of personality problems, not bathe, and be out of shape but with an audience that large you'll sometimes find somebody who has just the right confidence and emotional problems that they're interested in you. - phej, on 10/12/2007, -1/+16"This video has been removed by the user."
- hoopers, on 10/12/2007, -9/+23Dear "poo poo heads" (you know who you are),
I met my match on eHarmony.
By my estimation all the service really does is help you manage some of the more mundane personality traits so you can get on with the important parts of a relationship. For example: If you are a liberal, hard rocking, smoking, drinking, party goer you probably won't do as well with someone who is a right-wing christian zealot hell bent on banning Harry Potter from the local public library.
My match loves sports and I don't, however we have matching OCDs (what bugs her doesn't bug me and visa versa). So, while the service does "help" it also leaves room for healthy differences. I was able to focus on getting to know HER knowing we would probably agree on more things than not. Less stress = more comfortable. More comfortable = better date.
It is, however, important that you be honest when you fill out your profile. I've found folks that had no luck because they weren't so much lying in their profile, but lying to themselves. eHarmony will NOT fix you, but if you have some "minor" hang ups they MAY be able to help you find someone who just doesn't care.
For what it's worth, I am an ordinary guy (Read: average build/intelligence/job) who wanted a broader environment to pick from and got lucky. The woman I met is successful in her own right, smart, confident and just lovely. We really are a good match *shrug*. We didn't use eHarmony out of desperation, but out of curiosity. If someone can find a mate without using the Internet then more power to them. Neither approach is better, they're just different. What worked for us may not work for others. All I can tell you is what we have works.
As far as the religion thing goes it just doesn't show up in the site, or didn't for me. I had no idea until someone told me. Whatever.
To the "poo poo heads" before you go and disparage something for EVERYONE stop and think that maybe what you really want to say is YOU don't see it being valuable to YOU.
For the record: I'm not religious, I don't like Dr.Phil or the glasses guy (whomever he his) for all the reasons stated above. But I was able to look past the marketing and see the site for what it is; a great way to meet folks you ordinarily wouldn't meet. - inactive, on 10/12/2007, -1/+14brstilson
i am sure your success with women has been good. some of us confident, bright, and capable folks dont get the creeps from the "ebay" of relationships. i find the sites to be a tool to assist me in understanding what kind of crap i am going to have to deal with BEFORE i go through all the steps. you wont get that in your bar hookups and "normal" ways.
by the way, the normal way to send a message is through the postal service on paper - that doesnt stop people from using the new invention of email to get messages through.
your perception is your reality. all these sites are is another avenue to meet women. period. there is nothing creepy about it.
but i do agree with you, the dude on the commercials is an arse - and smug - his way is not much better than the bar scene. people lie on there too! - omueller, on 10/12/2007, -0/+12It's not loading for me either. Most recently I get a message that says 'This is a private video. If you have been sent this video, please make sure you accept the sender's friend request.'. Anybody else experiencing this?
- weareallzombies, on 10/12/2007, -2/+14Cribbing from MadTV a little bit?
- gweedo767, on 10/12/2007, -0/+12CraigB12: do you have anything to back that statement with? If eHarmony worked for him, great. If you don't want to use it, great. I didn't and I am happily married, but that in no way invalidates it as a way to meet someone.
- SPThom, on 10/12/2007, -0/+11I'm surprised... Here we all are spending our time sifting through Digg.com, a pretty net-savvy haunt, and yet there still seems to be a lot of taboo over meeting people online as opposed to a "normal" way.
Tell me... What *is* a normal way? Meeting in bars? I guess that's probably great for a one-night stand or a fling, but in my experience, terrible for meeting anyone who wants a long-term relationship. The landromat, the grocery store? C'mon.
As far as I'm concerned, the Net is as good of a place to meet as any these days. Sure, it has its fair share of sluts, psychos, and losers, but no more so than the dive down the street. Just be smart about it... For instance, I would recommend against hooking up on MySpace. :P - antoniojvr, on 10/12/2007, -8/+18And I could name one person with no sense of humor...
- johnslater, on 10/12/2007, -1/+10Damn owner of the video, what a fool, deleting before we even got a chance to see it :(
- EvilTesdall, on 10/12/2007, -8/+17dr. phil = match.com
- uethello, on 10/12/2007, -0/+9NO way! It says "removed by user" now...WTF?!
Somebody have an alternate link? - tzmguitarist, on 10/12/2007, -1/+10Dugg up for the use of the words "poo-poo heads" and generally well-formed sentences.
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -1/+10well said, well said - cogent and insightful. +1 digg for you!
- plamoni, on 10/12/2007, -0/+8@brstilson -
Actually, you would be surprised how much science there is on relationships. My girlfriend is currently working on a study at on romantic relationships and attachment theory (a very popular psychological theory on human behavior and interaction). I'm not sure how "scientific" eHarmony is, but it is possible for someone to take a measure such as the Adult Attachment Interview and determine how two people would relate to each other (more or less).
Mind you I am not totally convinced about eHarmony's methods simply because the AAI is a long and drawn out interview that needs to be conducted by a trained professional, in person, and scored by someone with even more training, by hand. Such a thing would probably not be practical for a website. Attachment can't really be determined by asking someone what their favorite thing to do for fun is, or whether they like pina coladas or getting caught in the rain.
Many people just don't trust psychological analysis on relationships because they would like to think that love and science exist independently and that a geek in a lab coat could never tell them whether their relationship would succeed. - picaman, on 10/12/2007, -1/+9Good for you. Congratulations.
It's a little creepy, though, that you keep referring to the woman you love as the "match".
"I met my match..."
"My match loves sports..."
Maybe it's just me. - timdorr, on 10/12/2007, -1/+9"Tell string theorists that. They think they can eventually explain EVERYTHING...even God."
No, they're trying to explain the fundamentals of science. It would be like understanding everything there is about a cell and it's operation, and you're somehow extrapolating that out into the space of explaining complex inter-personal relationships. Just because you understand the lowest order doesn't mean you understand the highest. - brstilson, on 10/12/2007, -3/+10They creep me out because when Dr. Warren talks about "the 29 proven dimensions of compatibility" it makes his system sound like, well, a system. Relationships are probably the least scientific thing in the world, and applying science to it just doesn't work. Granted, I don't know what those "dimensions" are, but I'm betting they don't measure personality, charisma, and confidence. Confidence is the key, if you're not confident and comfortable with yourself, you're not going to be attractive to anyone, period.
If you can't get women (or men) in the real world, then you won't get them on the internet either. eHarmony isn't going to "fix" you. Bringing science in the equation makes it cold and technical. I think that is what gives ME the creeps. - Teague, on 10/12/2007, -1/+8Private video.
- cocoamix, on 10/12/2007, -7/+13Those eHarmony commercials give me the creeps. Maybe this has something to do with it:
Dr. Warren, an evangelical Christian with strong ties to the conservative Christian community, attributes much the initial success of eHarmony to its being promoted through James Dobson's Focus on the Family radio show. After having been closely associated with Focus on the Family for four years, in 2005 eHarmony sought to distance itself from the group and Dobson, largely in an effort to broaden the market share of Warren's books and that of eHarmony according to Warren
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EHarmony - MysticSavage, on 10/12/2007, -0/+6Your views are spot on. I wish to subscribe to your newsletter.
And I hate bitches like that. - Toiling, on 10/12/2007, -2/+8digg effect on youtube? dude... it's not loading
- awilensky, on 10/12/2007, -1/+7Every time I see the eHarmony commercial I want o throw a shoe at the TV
- gbooker, on 10/12/2007, -0/+6Direct download link: http://youtube-103.vo.llnwd.net/d1/01/D1/JNTiOh8KvGU.flv
I saved the link when the page loaded, but the above link said service unavailable. On a whim, I tried it again several hours later, and it downloaded the file.
Still works, even though the page says it has been removed - krewemaynard, on 10/12/2007, -1/+6Really...and not even doing it well. I kept waiting for the jingle. :) Bunny Swan + Lowered Expectations = hilarity.
- unclejemima, on 10/12/2007, -3/+8eHarmony - Bringing People Together. Unless those people happen to be gay or atheist.
- SwordofKahless, on 10/12/2007, -1/+6or vomit.
- hovester, on 10/12/2007, -2/+7I love this analysis!
- rompom7, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5"This is a private video. If you have been sent this video, please make sure you accept the sender's friend request." - YouTube...
- hoopers, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5@picaman
Okay, now THAT was darn funny! I didn't think anyone would notice. *laughing*
Truthfully would "girlfriend" be any better? I'm 37. Can I still have a "girlfriend?" Significant Other sounds vaguely...well...gay, because of the ambiguity. Fiancee? Um...no...not yet. Wife? See: Fiancee. Woman, Gal, Lady, Friend, Lover...sure...all true, but conversationally awkward.
Anyone else have ideas? (And please rest assured that the use of disparaging words ("ho", "bitch", etc.), while funny, can unexpectedly lead to an argument for some reason. *shrug*)
Honestly, I don't know what works better. - mz00m, on 10/12/2007, -0/+5@hoopers
Girlfriend is fine! It doesn't matter how old you are...go with girlfriend.
I second that "match" is a little creepy... - shness, on 10/12/2007, -0/+4I met my wife through eHarmony, so it worked well for us. Is it the answer, that is up to you. Can it match people on 29 dimensions of compatibility? Of course it can't. That would be statistically impossible. Anyways, there are only about 4-6 different personality traits that are important.
I met some women on through eHarmony that shouldn't have been matched. They were about as bad of a match that anybody could make. It worked out in the end though, and we are both glad we did it. - KissTheRing, on 10/12/2007, -12/+16Is eHarmony the service working with that douche bag Dr. Phil
- Agret, on 10/12/2007, -2/+6"This is a private video. If you have been sent this video, please make sure you accept the sender's friend request."
- Trevino, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3Worked for me. If you need a .flv player use vlc media player.
- inactive, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3Anyone have a different source of the video?
- Pignanelli, on 10/12/2007, -0/+3Yup, and then you can take it and upload it right back: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1KYt5D9m2Ok
Wonder why he took it down!? (Check out my others too.) - windhawk, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3Can somebody find a link to the Saturday Night Live (SNL) "meHarmony" comercial spoof?
- CornStarch, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3How can this not be accurate?
- hoopers, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2*longs for the ability to edit his post*
*sips his scotch*
Well...pretend I said girlfriend....
*sigh* - input, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3It's been removed
- Crusty, on 10/12/2007, -2/+4Where are you getting they don't accept atheists? Along with most of the world's major religions, you can choose to have your match be "Neither religious nor spiritual".
- CornStarch, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3Why would you rate someone down for a simple question? You don't have to say anything positive, you don't have to say anything negative, just ask a question and get modded down on digg.
And then the guy who was kind enough to answer the question gets modded down too! Too many ***** on digg. - igraham09, on 10/12/2007, -0/+2"You are probably going to hell if you laugh at this. I'll drive. All aboard!!"
how true hahaha - josman, on 10/12/2007, -1/+3Find the REAL "Lowered Expectations" clips from MadTV and I'll digg it! I had higher expectations when I saw the "lower expectations" title..
- pagit, on 10/12/2007, -1/+2rofl
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